Are your words helping or hurting your marriage? Here's 20 words to use/not use that will help you have the marriage you really want. The way you talk to your spouse can either hurt or help your marriage.    Proverbs 18:21 says Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.  

This episode gives 10 words/phrases that are helpful and 10 words/phrases that are harmful. Here they are:  

Words that help – unify, strengthen, build up:  

1. We – what are we going to do about this? We need help. 

2. Our – our kids, our house, our money,  

3. Let’s – let’s figure this out, let’s work on our communication. Let us… 

4. Us – I think it would help us if we… 

5. I feel – 

6. Thank you 

7. Would you please 

8. I apologize 

9. I take responsibility 

10. May I - may I help you.  

Words that hurt – critical, defensive, blame, judge, tear down, accusing 

1. Always – you always 

2. Never – you never 

3. If you 

4. It’s your fault 

5. You’re the reason 

6. Why – as in why did you do that? 

7. You are 

8. How could you?  

9. What were you thinking? 

10. Did you – did you do that?  

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