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In this episode, we discuss the prevalence of flakiness in our modern culture and share our read, watch, listen, and follow recommendations for this month.

What you'll hear:

A big fat thanks from us to you all for being such super star listeners! How to win a Starbucks gift card What is ghosting? Tips on how to avoid having to cancel plans Thoughts on commitment and what flakiness communicates in relationships What we're reading, watching, listening to, and following this month

Can I quote you on that?

"One thing social media has done to our plans with people is that we are so much more aware than we used to be of what everyone else is doing." – Jacey "What is ghosting…like scoping but for dead people?" – Jacey "A lot of what stresses me out with social events could have been prevented with better preparation" - Maggie "There is no shame in saying 'No' on the front end." – Jacey " We accept that relationships are hard when it comes to marriage or parenting or something, but it's true of friendship, too." – Jacey "Let your yes be yes and your no be no." – Jacey

Links:

'Let's get drinks' 'Why Are We All Ghosting Each Other When the Alternative Is So Simple?' 'There's a Modern Problem Afflicting Our Friendships and Its Time to Talk About It' Personality typing episode Why Not Me Modern Romance How to Not Suck at Marriage Rising Strong After You Noah Gunderson WTF podcast with Lake Bell Off Camera podcast Lake Bell http://wewelcomerefugees.com Jacey's mellow Spotify playlist How to leave an iTunes review:

Thoughts, questions, comments?

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In this Five on Friday episode, we discuss fun and firm ways to say no.

Maggie:

"Thanks for thinking of me, but I just can't." "That date doesn't work, but maybe another time." "I'm not taking anything else on right now." "That's a negative, Ghost Rider." "I'm just in a season of 'no' right now."

Jacey:

"Let me check my calendar and get back to you." "I can't do it, but ______ might be interested." Have qualifiers that create boundaries when agreeing to things. Don't casually agree to things in the moment. "No." is a complete sentence

"If it isn't a clear yes, then it's a clear no." Essentialism

"To uphold our highest priorities and relationships, we do have to say no." Jacey

Links:

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In this episode, we discuss the importance of quantity time (not just quality time) in relationships, and the movies that punctuate the events of our lives.

BUT FIRST! Who do you know that you'd like to invite around the table? Your mom? An old friend? A coworker? A cousin? Your child's preschool teacher? Your barista? Reach out to them now and share your favorite episode!

What you'll hear:

Our feelings about hot yoga (#hotyogahater) The limits of "quality time" in relationships Movies that punctuate the events of our lives (and some of our favorites)

Can I quote you on that?

"Quantity time creates more opportunity for quality time." Maggie "If you try to engineer quality time...it also puts a lot of pressure on it." Jacey "[The belief in quality time] suits our super busy way of doing things and makes us believe that we're not missing anything...but I think we are missing something, and there are always trade offs." Jacey "The mundane is where the treasure is...that's where the good and meaty conversations are." Maggie "This quality time myth has tricked us into thinking we can have endless friendships." Jacey "An investment of quantity time allows for seasons when you don't have access to it." Maggie "What did I tell you? There's a whole world at your feet, and who gets to see it but the birds, and the stars, and the chimney sweeps." Mary Poppins "Where must we go, we who wander this wasteland in search of our better selves?" Mad Max: Fury Road

Links:

"The Myth of Quality Time" How to leave an iTunes review:

Our fledging YouTube channel

Thoughts, questions, comments?

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We are joined for this Around the Table lunch break by Jamie Ivey of The Happy Hour podcast. We chat about the benefits of a social media break, what we've been reading, and the truth about vacations with young kids.

What you'll hear:

The importance of alone time for parents (away from their kids)
What it's like to take a two month social media break
Some fantastic book recommendations
Three podcast nerds talk about podcasting

Can I quote you on that?

"Making friends...isn't that weird that that's hard as you get older?" Jamie Ivey
"You don't have to be friends with everyone." Jamie Ivey
"You do the same thing you do at home, but in a different house." Jamie Ivey, on vacation with young kids.
"I talked to people a lot more and told them what I was doing. Instead of just Instagramming about a new restaurant, I would call a friend and tell them to try it." Jamie Ivey, on a social media break

Links:

Nearly Normal by Tracey Fields
For the Love: Fighting for Grace in a World of Impossible Standards by Jen Hatmaker
Every Bitter Thing Is Sweet: Tasting the Goodness of God in All Things by Sara Haggerty
The Martian by Andy Weir
How to subscribe and listen to a podcast
Connect with Jamie on her website and listen to her podcast

Thoughts, questions, comments?

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Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

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In this episode, we discuss happiness and whether or not it is a worthy pursuit. We also share our thoughts on single-tasking versus multi-tasking.

What you’ll hear:

How we define happiness
Some problems with our cultural perception of happiness
Other worthy pursuits
Why multi-tasking is overrated
How personality affects your ability to multi-task
Tips for successfully single-tasking

Can I quote you on that?

“It (the pursuit of happiness) alludes to a false sense that you can control your life.” - Maggie
“We can miss some really valuable things while we’re busy seeking happiness.” - Jacey
“The desire to be happy and content is not bad on it’s own. I think we have put a disproportionate amount of value on it so that it has overshadowed the value of things like perserverence or patience or commitment.” - Maggie
“Something that can be a downfall of pursuing the emotion of happiness is that you become self-centered.” - Maggie
“Happiness is the moment before you need more happiness.” - Don Draper (Mad Men)
“What if our pursuit was the happiness of others?” - Maggie
“Sometimes we think we’re doing something ot be happy, but its actually something that’s either there to numb pain or to be a quick fix.” - Jacey
“We have mis-categorized things as creating happiness when actually they are filling voids.” - Maggie
“I don’t want you to be happy, I want so much more for you than that.” - Jacey
“The good kind of multitasking is when you’re utilizing noncompeting facets of yourself." - Maggie
“At the end of my days, I don’t just want to be like ‘I read a lot of internet articles, and I had a pretty OK Instagram feed, and I tweeted some things'.” - Jacey

Links:

How to leave an iTunes review:

Naptime Diaries
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
"Happiness Isn't the Absence of Negative Feelings"
"Happiness Is Not the Goal"
"Pursue Happiness, But in Moderation"
Allie at The Wonder Jam and her batch-tasking article

Thoughts, questions, comments?

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Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

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In this Five on Friday episode, we discuss foods we love that are "off the beaten path," that you might just love, too.

Maggie:

Beets (Bears. Battlestar Galactica.)
Bone marrow
Pickled eggs
Matcha

Jacey:

Pumpkin pie smoothie
Black licorice
Gingerbread
Brie cheese rind
Cake frosting

Links:

Maggie's gingerbread cookie recipe
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Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

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Join us for an episode all about fall: fashion, food, traditions...and what's overrated about the season.

What you'll hear:

Maggie's quick guide to fall fashion and makeup trends
Jacey's favorite things in her fall capsule
Fall trends we're NOT excited about
Food you can expect to see on menus this fall
Things Jacey would like other people to cook for her this fall
The definitive answer on whether or not the pumpkin spice latté is actually good
What we think is overrated about fall

Can I quote you on that?

"I'm sure everyone's noticed - the 70's are comin' back." Maggie
"This is a little shameful to admit, but I love candy corn." Jacey
"You've got to respect the pumpkin spice latté for being a pioneer." Maggie
"If I wanted to do surgery, I would have gone to med school. Thanks." Jacey re: carving pumpkins
"I don't trust a scarf that I can't find the end of." Jacey re: infinity scarves
"I do not want to ride a ferris wheel that has been assembled and reassembled multiple times." Maggie
"Halloween is grossly overrated." Jacey

Links:

Find us on Periscope!
Catch up on past Periscope videos on YouTube
Our all things fall Pinterest board
Jacey's fall 2014 capsule wardrobe (2015 fall capsule post coming soon)
Maggie's kale, sausage and white bean soup
Maggie's parmesan rosemary skillet cornbread
Molasses scones with candied ginger and pecans
Maple oatmeal scones
Curried lentil soup
Maggie's pickled pear salad with bacon vinaigrette
Pumpkin snickerdoodles
Jacey's burgundy lipstick (in Diva)
Write 31 days
National Novel Writing Month
Early Around the Table episode about football

And here's a little selfie, normally reserved strictly for texts to Maggie:

Thoughts, questions, comments?

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Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

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In this episode, we are joined by Sarah Harmeyer of Neighbor's table. We discuss what it looks like to host hundreds of dinner party guests each year, creative and practical ways to extend hospitality, and what in the world is chicken spaghetti.

What you'll hear:

The story and inspiration behind Neighbor's Table and the love mission movement
Memorable anecdotes from Sarah's adventures while delivering tables
Creative and innovative ways to extend hospitality
Tales from an orphan Christmas
What is chicken spaghetti
Why you should email your grocery store manager

Can I quote you on that?

"I realized how many people just want to be invited to the table. When you get invited you feel like, oh wow, somebody wants me to be a part of something. " - Sarah Harmeyer
"Think He (Jesus) was a food guy." - Sarah Harmeyer
"For me, the table was a way to love people." - Sarah Harmeyer
"I do place cards every time because I want people to know I've prepared a place for them at the table, just like Jesus did." - Sarah Harmeyer
"When we're acknowledged, and when we're made known in front of people that might not know us, it's a really special thing." - Sarah Harmeyer
"We might be rejected, we might be hurt occasionally, but it's worth it to love people first." - Jacey Verdicchio
"I dare you to serve Pizza." - Shauna Niequist
"Food becomes ancillary...it really should be about the people that are around the table. I've learned that food is not the central part of a great gathering." - Sarah Harmeyer
"It's my prayer that people would experience God's love at my table." - Sarah Harmeyer

Links:

Chicken Spaghetti Recipe
PS22 Chorus
Sweet Lorraine
Mexican Dresses
Connect with Sarah and Neighbor's Table on their website, on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook

Thoughts, questions, comments?

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Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

Image by @jensane

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In this episode, we chat about the good ole days and our tendency to look at the past through rose colored glasses. We also share what we are reading, watching, listening to, and following this month. 

What you'll hear:

A recounting of Jacey's time in London
A love story. Starring black licorice
Product ideas for our eventual Around the Table Podcast store
What we're reading, watching, listening to, and following
Fading Affect Bias: What it is and how it affects our perspectives on the past
The pros and cons of the 'good ole' days' mindset
Which era we would chose to go back and live in

Can I quote you on that?

"Get a little radicchio with your Verdicchio." - Jacey
"We can be more hopeful about the future if we are able to look at the past as a place of promise and possibility and hope." - Jacey
"Being able to have distance and perspective gives us room to craft a narrative rather than just react to the events in our lives." - Jacey
"We like our own narrative to be one of success, to be one of victory." - Maggie
"Only seeing the positive from our past can rob our ability to have perspective in the present." - Maggie

Links:

5 Gears: How to be Present and Productive When There is Never Enough Time
The Royal We, by Heather Cocks and Jessica Morgan
The Late Show with Stephen Colbert: Joe Biden Interview
The Lively Show: Zero Waste Home with Bea Johnson
The Mystery Show
The Elliot Homestead
Two Bossy Dames newsletter, and on Twitter
The Popcast newsletter
Ah, the Good Ol' Days: 5 Reasons Why We Glamorize the Past
I love the Victorian era. So I decided to live in it.

Thoughts, questions, comments?

Find us on Periscope!
Find Around the Table on Instagram or Twitter, or leave a comment below.
Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

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In this Five on Friday episode, we discuss services we'd rather pay someone else to do.

Maggie:

Getting her nails done, specifically gel manicures
Fix...anything
Car washes
Decorating
Wedding planning

Jacey:

Alterations
Oil changes
Hair dye or cut
Hair removal (sugaring)
Taxes

Links:

Image by @jensane

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