Around the Table Podcast

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Now, on to the show:

This week, we're discussing how to cultivate friendships with people who are different than us. Plus, our monthly read watch listen follow segment!

What you'll hear:

• Why it's hard to make friends who look and think differently
• The immense value in such friendships
• Practical ways to widen our circles
• What we've been reading, watching, listening to and following

Can I quote you on that?

• "There's real value to disagreeing or even offending each other and walking through that, but the fear of offending someone shuts us down before we even get to that stage pretty often." Jacey
• "If you're the type of person who seeks challenge, who seeks refinement, who seeks being influenced by a variety of different voices, then the Internet is a great place to do that." Maggie
• "Sometimes it's the looking for points of connection that connects you." Maggie
• "Any belief system needs to be tested and put under pressure; if it can only work in a bubble, then there's something wrong there." Jacey
• "It's as simple as taking a genuine interest, being willing to expand your horizons, and loving the people that you cross paths with – and maybe widening your path a little." Jacey
• "What I read is the vegetables to the donuts of what I watch." Maggie

Links:

• Today's Dietitian
• The Economist (and the podcast)
• Jen Wilkin's blog
• Women of the Word
• Watch: Atlanta, The Good Place, The Meddler
• Will I Know Anyone At This Party? {This American Life}
• Around the Table Fall Mix
• Around the Table Christmas Mix
• Other music mentioned: Penny and Sparrow, Georgica Pond, Michael Bublé's new album
• Fabletics
• Stephen helps President Obama polish his resumé

Thoughts, questions, comments?

• Find Around the Table on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, or leave a comment below.
• Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
• Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

Some links are affiliates. Thanks for supporting our show!

This week, we take a thoughtful and vulnerable look at body image. We also take a few minutes to break down and define some popular food claims.

What you'll hear:

• A broader definition of body image
• Our personal stories of body image struggle (or lack there of)
• What culture teaches us about beauty, our bodies, and health
• Thoughts on cultivating healthy body image
• The defining and debunking of some popular health claims

Can I quote you on that?

• "You compliment the effort, you don't compliment the outcome." Maggie
• "One of the most damaging things that we've been taught is that weight, in particular, is a moral issue." Jacey
• "To make assumptions about a person's character, about a person's behavior, about a person's habits based on what is physiologically going on inside their body is absolute (boloney)." Maggie
• "We don't want other people to think that we think we're pretty." Maggie
• "There is no greater tool in cultivating a healthy body image than a healthy lifestyle." Maggie

Links:

• Previous related episodes:
  • Style and beauty and fashion, oh my!
  • Quick breakfasts, Whole 30, modesty, and capsule wardrobes
• Ted Talks: 
  • Why Thinking You're Ugly is Bad for You
  • Looks Aren't Everything. Believe Me, I'm a Model
  • Stripping Away Negative Body Image
  • In My Chair: A Makeup Artists Perspective on Beauty
  • A New Standard of Beauty
• This American Life: Tell Me I'm Fat
• Eating organic: the dirty dozen
• Fair Trade USA

Thoughts, questions, comments?

• Find Around the Table on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, or leave a comment below.
• Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
• Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

This week, we're sharing our best tips for getting settled when you move to a new city. Plus a little introduction to house plants for brown thumbs.

What you'll hear:

• Ideas for leaving well when you move
• Why Jacey thought she was being abducted by a UFO the first night in her new apartment
• How to connect around common interests...including gut bacteria
• How to dry and freeze fresh herbs

Can I quote you on that?

• "Ask yourself: what can you leave behind [when you move]?" Maggie
• "Moving is a good time to start a new habit." Jacey
• "Mentally steel yourself that [moving] is going to be a couple month long transition." Maggie
• "Target owns my soul at this point." Maggie
• "You have to get to know a lot of people in order to find your tribe of people." Jacey
• "A great way to make a connection in a new place is to put yourself in a position of need." Maggie
• "If you are just dipping your toe into the water of owning houseplants, get in slowly. No cannonballs here." Maggie

Links:

• Happy Little Lovelies
• Bands in Town
• Good source for cute pots
• More houseplant inspiration
• The best way to freeze fresh herbs
• How to dry your own herbs

Thoughts, questions, comments?

• Find Around the Table on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, or leave a comment below.
• Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
• Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

This week, we investigate why girls are taught that it's cute to be scared and how that impacts us as adults. We also share our read/watch/listen/follow recommendations for this month.

What you'll hear:

• Why we teach young women it's 'cute' to be scared
• Ways we've seen ourselves both give in to and stand up to expected cultural norms for women
• How perfectionism affects courage
• Tips for being brave
• What we're reading, watching, listening to, and following

Can I quote you on that?

• "Timidity has become a function of femininity" Maggie
• "I was aware of getting extra points for being a girl who was willing to take a risk." Jacey
• "You are a lioness." Maggie
• "I'm still working through that summer reading list. I know it's October." Jacey

Links:

• Why Do We Teach Girls That It's Cute to Be Scared
• Nervous Nellies: Are Women More Anxious Than Men
• Teach Girls Bravery, Not Perfection
• Before the Fall
• Finding God in the Waves
• Off Camera podcast: Will Ferrel and Mindy Kaling
• Sorta Awesome 'Refuge for Refugees' series
• The Nester: Cozy Minimalist course
• Skimm the Vote

Thoughts, questions, comments?

• Find Around the Table on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, or leave a comment below.
• Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
• Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

Some links are affiliates. Thanks for supporting our show!

Show us a peek into your laundry folding/dog walking/running view while you listen to us, and we'll enter you in a giveaway for Jacey's favorite fall candle! Share on Instagram with the hashtag #listentoATT, and make sure to tag @aroundthetablepodcast. We'll pick a winner on Wednesday!

This week, we're talking about how to handle one of the inevitable experiences of life: disappointment. Then, we're bringing back our stuck in a rut segment to do some real life, rubber meets the road problem solving.

What you'll hear:

• A life/zip code update from Maggie
• How to maintain hope in the face of disappointment
• Healthy ways to deal with disappointment
• The return of "Stuck in a Rut"!

Can I quote you on that?

• "I'm still in a season where everyday is a fight for thankfulness and healthy perspective and hope." Maggie
• "Hope can supersede circumstances." Jacey
• "I don't want to waste my life or my time or my feelings or my emotional energy on worry or bracing myself or fear when none of those things are going to affect the outcome." Maggie
• "I would allow myself a period of mourning to feel everything I feel and not try to talk myself into looking on the bright side." Jacey
• "I still believe good wins out in the end." Maggie

Links:

• An update on what happened to The Mystery Show

Thoughts, questions, comments?

• Find Around the Table on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, or leave a comment below.
• Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
• Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

This week we are joined by Sarah and Beth from the Pantsuit Politics podcast. We discuss tips for staying informed and having nuanced conversations around charged topics. We also discuss the effects of our recent Internet fast.

What you'll hear:

• Resources for staying informed
• The myth of political neutrality
• Why we need discourse (and disagreement) in politics
• Thoughts from an internet 'fast'

Can I quote you on that?

• "A lot of people seem informed and that's fine. It's fine to be interested in politics, it's fine not to be interested in it." Sarah Holland
• "It's not about neutrality, it's about transparency." Sarah Holland 
• "We try to ascribe moral value to things that are amoral. Not everything has to be about right and wrong." Sarah Holland
• "There's always the option to broaden your perspective, and the opportunity for it." Beth Silvers
• "We can stand for something without it being oppositional. We don't have to define everything by it's adversary." Beth Silvers
• "Boundaries are essential in stewarding this thing that is the internet." Maggie
• " I had set my life up in such a way that I am seeing what other people want from me, first." Jacey
• "Having a healthy perspective on how important you are on the internet is helpful in keeping you off the internet." Maggie

Links:

• Happy Little Lovelies Etsy shop
• Follow Dana and her shop on Instagram
• Pantsuit Politics:
• The Skimm
• Vox
• Five Thirty Eight
• 'I Side With'
• Poll Tracker
• All Sides
• Break Free app
• Moment app
• I Used to Be a Human Being

Thoughts, questions, comments?

• Find Around the Table on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, or leave a comment below.
• Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
• Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

Some links are affiliates. Thanks for supporting our show!

This week, we're talking about how convenience affects our lives, for better or worse.

It's 2016: you don't have to hunt and gather your own podcasts. Make sure that you're SUBSCRIBED to Around the Table, so that you never miss an episode!

What you'll hear:

• When we are and aren't willing to pay for convenience
• Which conveniences make our lives worse
• Why easy, efficient, and convenient aren't always worthy objectives, especially when it comes to relationships, creativity and work
• How a car accident proved fruitful

Can I quote you on that?

• "The rest of this episode I'm gonna be on a convenience food soap box, and it might get obnoxious." Maggie
• "Where I come from, the meal is a result of reflection and study. Menus are prepared in advance, timed to perfection. It is said, without the culinary arts, the crudeness of reality would be unbearable." Kate and Leopold
• "We don't value waiting and what can happen in process. We start something and we want to see a result, and we care very little about what is cultivated in us or in our community or in the people around us while we're waiting for that result." Maggie
• "Sometimes the obstacles to what we want can be in our best interest." Jacey

Links:

• Thred Up, an online consignment store (Use this link for a $10 credit)
• "Everything is Amazing and No One's Happy" {Louis CK}
• "Instaserfs" {Benjamin Walker's Theory of Everything}
• "I Want to Break Free" {Reply All}

Thoughts, questions, comments?

• Find Around the Table on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, or leave a comment below.
• Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
• Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

Some links are affiliates. Thanks for supporting our show

This week, we ask ourselves what it means to compromise. We also share what we've been reading, watching, listening to, and following recently. 

But first, make sure you are subscribed to our newsletter, Around the Table Weekly. This week, we launched a segment in our newsletter called the 'Cheering Section,' where we champion things that we are loving, including you guys and the awesome products, projects, and creative endeavors you are participating in. AND we want you guys to get involved by nominating someone or something you think is worthy of our cheering section. You can either email us at [email protected] or reply to the newsletter directly.

What you'll hear:

• How we define compromise
• When is compromise worth it and when is it not?
• The fruit of compromise in relationships
• What pop culture tells us about romance
• What we're reading, watching, listening to, and following

Can I quote you on that?

• "Compromise can be simplified to this: putting someone else's needs before yours." Maggie
• "I don't want to get my way all the time." Maggie
• "If you're compromising and not speaking up because you don't want to have a fight or because you are doubting your own voice or your own right to say something, then that is an unhealthy compromise." Jacey
• "In relationships, you may have an ideal, but a person is not going to reflect that ideal back to you because that person is going to be imperfect." Maggie
• "I still kinda wanna be the type of girl who can go to sleep with bugs. But I'm just not, and that's ok." Maggie
• "Close relationships sharpen and hold up a mirror to our most broken places." Jacey
• "Uggh. Podcast nerds." Jacey

Links:

• Start Your Podcast: transform your podcast idea into your first episode
• Going Zero Waste
• Trash is for tossers
• The Gilded Years
• Andra Day: Cheers to the Fall
• The Head and the Heart: Signs of Light
• Magic Lessons with Elizabeth Gilbert (Recommend episodes 201 & 202)
• Finding God in the Waves
• Mike McHargue as Science Mike on his podcast and twitter

Thoughts, questions, comments?

• Find Around the Table on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, or leave a comment below.
• Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
• Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

Some links are affiliates. Thanks for supporting our show!

This week, we're pulling our boots out of storage to share favorite fall outfits, cocktails, lipstick, recipes and more, plus a special fall themed round of Either/Or. 

What you'll hear:

• Our classic fall favorites in food, fashion, cocktails, lipstick and more
• What movies, books and shows we're looking forward to this fall
• Seasonal fall foods, and how to incorporate them

Can I quote you on that?

• "I don't actually believe in hurricanes." Jacey
• "Don't you feel like a sophisticated, legit lady for liking bourbon?" Jacey
• "Shout out to citrus, grapefruit, beets, Brussel sprouts." Maggie

Our challenge this month is to be a good neighbor. Spend some time outside, open to the possibility that you might just cross paths with someone, or muster up the courage to knock on a neighbor's door and introduce yourself. Or go big and invite them over to dinner! However small (and awkward) the steps may be, we hope you'll join us this month in intentional neighborliness. Tell us about it when you do! You can email us your stories, or share on social media using the hashtag #attneighbors.

Links:

• Our fall Pinterest board, where you can find ALL of the recipes mentioned
• Glossier Generation G lipstick in Cake
• Mac fall colors: Plastique, Diva, Matte Taupe
• essie gel coutoure polish in Spiked with Style
• Bella candle in Amber and Vetiver
• Around the Table fall mix

Thoughts, questions, comments?

• Find Around the Table on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, or leave a comment below.
• Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
• Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog

Some links are affiliates. Thanks for supporting our show!

This week, we're talking about the value of doing things with your hands. We're also reviving our what's working segment to share some of our favorite cleaning supplies and hacks!

But first, a reminder! Have you ever thought about starting your own podcast, but have no idea where to start? Jacey has created a guide that will teach you everything you need to know to transform your idea into your first episode. This guide is everything we wish we'd known when we started two years ago, now that we have over a hundred episodes under our belt. Start Your Podcast walks you through everything you need to know, with a hearty dose of encouragement along the way. Plus, you also get a quick start guide to marketing your podcast as an added bonus, so grab your copy now! 

What you'll hear:

• Why we're doing less with our hands
• The value manual labor
• Our favorite and least favorite tasks
• What's working: cleaning products and hacks

Can I quote you on that?

• "My phone is a mechanism of escape, where as I think physical hobbies or chores can tend to be a mechanism of engaging." Jacey
• "Physical or hands-on hobbies provide me with some shelter from the sometimes anguish of thinking." Tim Smith
• "If we really understood the value of the things we already have, we would feel less of a need to go out and consume more." Maggie
• "There is a sense of community that is forged in completing tasks together." Maggie

Links:

• Working With Your Hands: The Secret to Happiness
• Barkeeper's Friend
• The Grove Collaborative

Thoughts, questions, comments?

• Find Around the Table on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, or leave a comment below.
• Maggie on Instagram, Twitter, and her blog
• Jacey on Instagram, Twitter and her blog