Episode 36 Show Notes: Turning Expectations into Agreements

ROI is a term we often limit to the financial realm. But we invest all kinds of things. Our time, money, and emotions to name a few. And when we do, we usually expect an ROI. A Return on Investment. But here’s the thing we can sometimes forget. If an investment is only transactional, there will be no transformation. I have to receive what is being offered, nurture it, cultivate it, and make it a new part of how I operate. The expectation of a return is unrealistic without a partnership of agreement. It’s easy to confuse the investment as my part and the delivery as the part of whatever (or whomever) I invested in. And that’s partially true. But their delivery, however good it is, won’t transform me or my situation without me applying it fully. Without me remaining invested in walking it out. This may have to do with your marriage, your faith, your business, and so many other things. But my investment alone won’t bring any transformation. The delivery of what I expected/invested in is necessary for the transformation, but I have to receive the delivery, nurture it, and cultivate it. There is even a spiritual parallel to Jesus here. He invested more than anyone ever has or ever will. And we have to receive, nurture, and cultivate what He offered. The best return will never happen if it is only transactional. The best returns happen when a full partnership is working. Where do you need to invest? Where do you need to partner? I would love to hear from you on this! 

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

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In this episode we are talking about knowing what drives your culture. What is the undercurrent that people feel when they work with you, work for you, hang out with you, or live with you? As we said in the last episode, YOU are your culture. The leader sets the culture. So, what is leading you? Cultures where people show up with all they have got even when times are hard, resources are scarce, and the future is uncertain are the best cultures ever. It tells you trust is high and people feel seen, heard, known, and valued. Join me in this episode where I help you explore:

This episode helps you explore how you show up. And what people feel when you do. Because culture will only shift when you do. 

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

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Episode 34 - Building a Culture of Trust

You. Are. Your Culture. Whether in your family, workplace, social circles, or place of worship. How you, as a leader, show up and respond. That is your culture. Not the mission statement on the wall. (Or refrigerator) YOU. You are your culture. Whether the situations are stressful or celebratory, your response to those situations determines the culture you are building. The culture your people are experiencing. We can try hard, write mission statements, stick banners of “who we are” on cabinet doors and in workplace break rooms. But the true builder of a culture is a leader’s habits, character, and values in action. In other words...Culture = Habits + Character + Values (x Action) Who do people know you to be? What do people believe will happen if they…

-Take a risk

-Speak up

-Fail

In this episode you will learn how to become a student of your own culture so you can enhance it, change it, or correct it. I hope you will join us and learn how to audit your own culture so you can make it the best possible place for people to be. A place people want to be. Choose to be. Even when times are rough and rocky. 

Learning with you on the Journey,

Brenda 

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

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Episode 33 - Faith in the Fearful and Fragile with Brent Butler

If you have ever had life throw you a curve ball, this episode is for you. Have you ever experienced fear from life, health, relationships, or career being out of your control? Fear from what your mind imagines might happen? Have you ever fragile in areas where you have always known strength? Brent Butler understands. He is a man of faith, having been in ministry (including senior pastor, worship pastor, and associate pastor) for over 25 years. Yet an unexpected diagnosis left him reeling with fear about his relationships, his provision, his loss of control, and more. His journey has launched a platform for greater impact than he ever imagined. Join us around the table today as Brent shares what it is like to:

Come hear the difference between preaching a sermon and your life being a sermon. We all have those stories. The ones that brought fear, uncertainty, confusion, etc...Brent Butler’s story speaks to yours as well. Listen and be inspired to live a life of victory anyway. Your life is a sermon no one else can preach. 

For any who would like to reach out to Brent, here are some ways to do that:

https://www.brentbutlerjr.com

https://linktr.ee/brentbutlerJr

[email protected]

Enjoy the Journey!

Brenda

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

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Episode 32 Show Notes: Relational Intelligence - How to Enter Tense Conversations

Last episode we talked about how to connect with others in an authentic way. It’s great to know how to do that. In this episode I share 3 ways to actually enter those tense conversations. Choosing to initiate a conversation for the purpose of connecting with someone we already have some tension with takes courage. It’s hard to know how to get that conversation started. Do we say, “Hey! We need to talk.” Probably not. Depending on the personalities involved, though... maybe. More times than not, that gets people’s defenses up, though. So how do we initiate that? The short version is:

Join me in this episode as we talk more about this around the table. 

Enjoy the Journey!

Brenda

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

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Episode31 - Relational Intelligence: Connecting With Others in an Authentic Way 

Emotional Intelligence has gotten a lot of attention in recent years, as it should. But Relational Intelligence and Emotional Intelligence are not the same. Emotional Intelligence causes us to be more aware of our emotional wellbeing and focuses on identifying and regulating those emotions. Relational Intelligence definitely needs that component, but it goes beyond our personal awareness. It focuses on the interactions and connections between people and how to have healthier relationships. Most people agree that having meaningful conversations and building relationships with others who think differently than we do is more difficult than ever. In this episode I share one of the ways to grow in Relational IQ, and that is in knowing how to connect with others in an authentic way. Even those far away from our own thoughts, opinions and convictions. We discuss 3 Ways to Connect With Others in an Authentic Way and what each of those look like in everyday life. 

Join me in this episode, as we sit around the table and discover how aware and intentional we are being... or want to be... to create connections with others who may think very differently than we do.

Enjoy the Journey!

Brenda

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

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Episode 30 - Creating a Now Legacy 

Do you think of “legacy” as something old people leave when they die? I want to challenge that thinking and awaken some intentionality for creating a legacy. One we get to live out now, as well as leave behind. Legacy is expressed through the convictions, values, and beliefs we live out.  “Live out” are key words here.  We can’t keep them private and expect to be known. Too often, because we know the convictions that live in our hearts, we assume others know, too. 

The truth is that unless we become intentional to live out what is in our hearts, we risk the sad reality of never being truly known.  Now or later.

Consider Life’s 5 Big Questions...

Would you like to have undistracted energy in figuring those things out? And living those things out? Because that will be your legacy... wherever your energy is poured out. The answers to these questions are huge determiners of your legacy.  And intentionality to not only get the answers, but live them out, will create an awareness to you and others of who you are at your core.  Of your legacy. 

Join me in this episode, as you pull up a chair around the table and discover how aware and intentional you are being... or want to be... to create a now legacy that will last.

With love,

Brenda

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

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Episode 29 - Inspiration by the one and only...Bob Goff

How many of you wonder if Bob Goff REALLY answers that phone number in the back of his books? Well, he does! I am a personal witness. 

What thought do you wake up with? 

Bob Goff wakes up saying, “Nothing to Prove. Nothing to Lose.” 

And to him, that equates to a truth he has taught his grandchildren...and each of us, too. 

“I am strong. I am brave. I can do it!” 

What a delight to visit with Bob and hear his take on everything from availability, to being present, to being a safe place emotionally for others, to starting high quality educational institutions in areas of civil unrest around the world. Including a girls’ school in Afghanistan!

If you think the dream in your heart is too big and you have no idea how to accomplish it, take some advice from Bob and just get started: 

You can imagine how my heart jumped when Bob said, “I am not going to try to shout over the voices in a really loud room.” Because... Loud is Not a Language! That is Bob’s message without saying it in my words.

So, grab you something delicious to drink, pull up a chair around the table with us, and enjoy the inspiration and joy Bob Goff shares with us today! 

With love,

Brenda

Follow Bob Goff online:

https://www.bobgoff.com/

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

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Episode 28 - The Unhealthy Fight to be Right

It’s time to re-examine what it means to win. Because winning in life doesn’t equal losing in relationship. If you would like to have conversations that stretch you to love bigger, rather than pump you up to win arguments, and keep your opinion on steroids, then this episode just may spark some ideas for change. Why do we feel such a need to...defend ourselves? blame others? prioritize problems over relationships? prove people wrong who don't think like us? 

I believe we have the ability to turn our competition into compassion. But first we have to see the need. And in order to see the need, we have to get past the ridiculous preoccupation with self. Is anybody with me? Do you have a conviction that we really better than this? If so, please join me today Around the Table. We are going to talk about how to change some things, so we can see some things change. I look forward to being Around the Table with you.

Brenda

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

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Episode 27 Show Notes: Take a Pause

The world is a lot right now. A lot of pain. A lot of fear. A lot of anger, confusion, and accusation. A lot of misunderstanding. A lot of violence. A lot of hate. So what do we do about that? The temptation is to disengage. Or attack. Neither seems the answer. How do we make an impact? A positive difference? Is it even possible? I believe it is, if we go where our hearts lead us. Where the God that lives in us guides us. With love. And wisdom. Where we are faithful to what is in front of us. And detach from the outcomes we can’t control. So that they don’t control us. Take a deep breath. Step back. Just pause. As you do, focus your intentions to: Get in the right heart and head space. Check your internal world for courage, humility, authenticity, integrity and respect. Engage with love and wisdom as you charge forward. I look forward to being Around the Table with you today. Enjoy the journey!

Brenda

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

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