Despite their busy lives, Beth and Jeff McCord never could have imagined that the Enneagram would lead them on a journey of profound discovery and transformation - not just in their own marriage and parenting, but in the lives of their Christian community as well. What was this unexpected twist and how did it bring healing and wholeness to their relationship?

In this episode, you will be able to: 1. Discover the power of Enneagram as an instrument to transform marriages. 2. Uncover ways to fuse Enneagram insights with Christian perspectives for a holistic approach. 3. Harness your unique attributes for more effective couple communication. 4. Delve into the complexities of Enneagram-based marriage dynamics and how to better navigate them. 5. Root your marriage improvement journey in faith and self-awareness.

These personality tools actually name something of our glory, of our God-given glory, about how we can uniquely reflect something of who God is for us. - Jeff McCord

Our special guests are Jeff and Beth McCord, founders of Your Enneagram Coach, an organization dedicated to helping individuals and couples understand the Enneagram and use it to transform their lives. They are also the authors of two books, "Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage" and "More Than Your Number: A Christ-Centered Enneagram Approach to Becoming Aware of Your Internal World." With a strong foundation in theology, Jeff and Beth have dedicated their lives to helping couples strengthen their marriages through a Gospel-centered approach to the Enneagram.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Visit becomingus.com to access the 45 unique Enneagram couple-type courses offered by Jeff and Beth McCord.
• Schedule a call with James and Lisa Duvall to learn more about their Marriage Reboot retreat at artofspousing.com/marriagecoaching or direct message them on Instagram with the word Call.
• Read Jeff and Beth McCord's books, Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage and More Than Your Number: A Christ-Centered Enneagram Approach to Becoming Aware of Your Internal World.
• Follow Your Enneagram Coach on social media to stay updated on their content and resources.
• Explore the Enneagram from a biblical perspective and use it to deepen your understanding of yourself, your spouse, and your relationship with Christ.
• Share the Enneagram with friends, family, and the church community to help them better understand themselves and their relationships.
• Reflect on your Enneagram type and consider how it may affect your marriage and other relationships and how you can use it to align with the Gospel.
• Look into other resources, such as John Gottman's material on marriage, to gain further insights into maintaining a healthy, Christ-centered relationship.

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In this episode James and Lisa have a conversation with Shaunti Feldhahn, co-author of the book "Secrets of Sex and Marriage." The episode tackles one of the most taboo topics in most relationships - Sex in marriage. Shaunti and her co-author, renowned sex therapist Michael Sytsma, spent three years and $120,000 on a research project involving interviewing over 5,300 people, leading to major surprises and aha moments. They identified the little things that make a big difference in making marriage sex work. The episode reveals how communication is crucial and how making people understand the differences in desire and addressing underlying issues can bring freedom and growth in a relationship. With the book designed to be read together, Shaunti believes that "Secrets of Sex and Marriage" can help couples understand each other better and feel validated.

"Communication is the elephant in the room - the topic we avoid because of its awkwardness. Despite having close friends, we rarely address it with them. It’s the only issue we never speak about, leading to the creation of myths and misunderstandings which guide our actions. If we don’t learn to communicate with our partners, these myths will keep us from true understanding." 

Topics discussed:

- How intimacy in marriage is the least talked-about topic

- Research on the little things that make a big difference in making marriage intimacy work

- Communication gaps and misunderstandings and how they impact intimacy

- Understanding the differences in desire

- Establishing signals or cues for willingness to engage in sexual activity

- The church as a safe place for difficult conversations, and the creation of a curriculum on intimacy in marriage 

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Websites: shaunti.com, secretsofsexandmarriage.com
IG: @shauntifeldhahn
FB: Shaunti Feldhahn

Shaunti's Books:

• Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference
• FOR WOMEN ONLY: What Men Think 98% of the Time: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men. What You Need to Know About How Guys Think
• For Men Only, Revised and Updated Edition: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women
• Thriving in Love and Money: 5 Game-Changing Insights about Your Relationship, Your Money, and Yourself

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Are you looking for ways to improve your marriage? If so, then this podcast episode is for you! James and Lisa discovered new truths about their relationship, even after 30 years of marriage. They share a personal experience that led to some realizations in their marriage, believing that their podcast can help you take your marriage from survival mode to thriving. In this episode, they discuss the three types of tension that can create conflict in marriage and offer practical tips on how to navigate them. They emphasize that acknowledging a season of tension can help keep things in perspective, and staying connected with your spouse is crucial in difficult seasons. They even discuss how the power of the Holy Spirit can help us avoid heartache and frustration by speaking correction. Tune in to learn how to address tension in your marriage and gain greater unity.

"Conflict is not the absence of unity. Conflict is the opportunity for greater unity."

Topics Discussed:

- Three types of tension

- Conflict management tools

- Marriage Reboot Retreat

- Situational, seasonal, and systemic tensions

- The power of the Holy Spirit in marriage

- Identifying the root causes of tension

- Check-ins on different dimensions of intimacy

- Conditional clause rules for conflict management

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Conflict: The Opportunity for Unity
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On this week's episode of the Art of Spousing podcast, listeners will hear from Don and Joy Bray, a couple who have been married for 58 years and are considered a godly example of longevity and vibrancy in marriage. Don and Joy share their story with the podcast hosts, discussing the significant choices they have made to create their masterpiece marriage. Listeners will learn how the couple chose to grow and find a lifelong commitment in each other, as well as how they chose to fight fair, take responsibility for their emotions and actions, and learn to appreciate each other's differences. The couple emphasizes the importance of grace, choosing joy, and choosing wonder in daily life. The podcast also features recommendations for finding a mentor, praying together daily, and respecting one another.

Topics Discussed:

- Don and Joy's first date and chemistry

- Four significant choices for a masterpiece marriage: growth, commitment, appreciation, and grace

- Childhood scars and tendencies

- Communication in marriage

- Learning to appreciate each other's differences

- Choosing joy and wonder in life

- Gratitude and generosity

- Parenting and teaching love

- Conflict resolution

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Are you struggling to connect physically with your partner in your marriage? Do you feel like you're unsure where to start or perhaps lack the confidence to initiate touch? In this episode, hosts Lisa and James discuss the importance of physical touch in a marriage and how it can improve intimacy, reduce stress and anxiety, and strengthen the bond between partners.

They share their personal experiences, including small practices they have implemented in their own marriage such as squeezing hands three times to say "I love you." They also offer practical advice on how to initiate physical touch and the importance of communication and understanding each other's boundaries and preferences.

If you struggle to connect with your partner physically, this episode offers practical tips and encouragement to help you start small and work towards a more intimate and fulfilling marriage.

"Get over yourself and grow yourself!"

Topics Discussed: Resistance to new things, physical touch, marital intimacy, communication, relationship boundaries and preferences, intentional touch, sexual intimacy.

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Intentional Intimacy
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Chris and Jamie Bailey use their journey of overcoming dysfunction to offer real hope and practical tools to other couples through their podcast, courses, and social media, showing that you're never "too far gone" for God to redeem your situation.

"It's not the problems that take you out in your marriage. It's what you do with them. It's how you choose to handle them. And dealing with chronic pain, I can allow that to depress me, defeat me, and just give me this negative mindset, which is not easy to give into, but that's not what I choose to do. The Lord says I can have joy despite my circumstances, and that's what I'm going to fight for."

Chris and Jamie Bailey are Christian counselors and marriage coaches passionate about helping couples live their best lives together. They are the founders of Expedition Marriage, where they encourage and equip marriages to reflect the love, grace, forgiveness, and vitality they were made to have.

Chris and Jamie Bailey's marriage began in dysfunction, but through Jesus and personal growth, they have been able to transform their relationship and help others. Through their ministry, they have been giving practical tools and messages of hope to couples all over, helping them to recognize that their marriage is a journey and that God is still good even when hard times come. God has redeemed their situation and given them a passion for helping others, and they are determined to spread the message of hope to all.

In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. How did Chris and Jamie’s marriage start in dysfunction and evolve into a story of redemption?
2. What practical tools do Chris and Jamie offer to couples on their journey of marriage?
3. How can men overcome fear and insecurity to participate in their families and marriages?

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Website: expeditionmarriage.org
IG: @expedition_marriage
FB: Expedition Marriage

Podcasts:
Expedition Marriage
Not Your Average Man

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James and Lisa continue the conversation around how to create an emotionally safe environment in your marriage by actively implementing four practices; giving and receiving forgiveness, validating each other's feelings, being willing to compromise, and seeking professional help.

"Even if you're responsible for only 2% of the issue, you're still 100% responsible for that 2%."

In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. Four practices to create an emotionally safe environment in your marriage.
2. How quickly asking for and giving forgiveness can foster emotional intimacy.
3. The power of validating your spouses feelings.
4. The benefits of practicing compromise in a relationship.
5. Why seeking professional counseling or coaching can make a significant impact in a marriage that feels stuck.

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How To Create An Emotionally Safe Environment In Your Marriage (Part 1)
Practising the Art of Spousing
Love: Defining the Three Essentials

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Lisa and James teach how to create an emotionally safe marriage and foster a lasting bond of love and trust!
To create an emotionally safe environment in your marriage, it is important to avoid criticism, contempt, and defensiveness.

"Don't let small offenses build up. If you can't get over something in 24 hours, then you need to have a conversation with your spouse about it so it doesn't build up and cause resentment or contempt."

In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. How to create an emotionally safe environment in your marriage that will foster emotional intimacy.
2. What steps can be taken to avoid criticizing your spouse and having a critical spirit?
3. What are the non-negotiables for communication between spouses to avoid breeding contempt?

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Hope Rising: 3 Ways to Invest in Your Marriage This Year
Love: Defining the Three Essentials

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Experience the power of spiritual intimacy in marriage and learn to trust God's divine plan when He tells you to "go" with Danielle and Howard's story.

"God gave us a very specific template in how to nurture marriage and serve in the marriage space, because we found through Facebook Live, it was like a great litmus test to the fact that people were hungry and they needed some advice, and oftentimes they needed it silently. We would do videos. It was like, no comments and no engagement, because they don't want to put their own marriage on blast publicly, but they listen in silence and get fed in silence, which was beneficial."

Howard and Danielle Taylor met in college in 2001 and have been married since 2005. They have committed to breaking the legacy of divorce in their families and are passionate about helping other couples build healthy marriages through their ministry, Marriage on Deck.

Howard and Danielle connected by chance at a college Bible study. In that moment, they both knew they'd found something special in each other. Despite a difficult upbringing, Howard had always wanted to have a strong marriage, and found it in Danielle. To strengthen their relationship and faith, they fast together quarterly and at the end of each year. After a week of fasting, God told them to move their family to Duluth, Georgia, and their faith was rewarded when an email arrived that same night confirming the move. Through this experience, Howard and Danielle learned the power of fasting and how to build spiritual intimacy in their relationship.

In this episode, you will learn:
1. How to form a spiritually intimate relationship with your spouse
2. How to use fasting to draw closer to God
3. How to act on a call from God to move into a new season.

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Website: Marriageondeck.com
IG: @marriage_on_deck
FB: marriageondeck

Books:
The Fundamentals of Marriage: 8 Essential Practices of Successful Couples

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We have learned that expressing extraordinary love to one another is not only important for a thriving marriage, but is also a way to demonstrate God's love to the world. Through the Bible passage of 1 Corinthians 13, we found three practices to level up our love: patience and kindness, forgiveness, and building endurance.  By doing these things, we can enjoy our marriage, rather than just enduring it.

"Love takes no pleasure in other people's sin, but delights in the truth. It's always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end."

In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. That Valentine's Day is actually Valentine's Week.
2. What the Bible says about how we should love each other.
3. How we take our love to the next level and move from mundane to masterpiece.

And as a bonus...The Valentines gift that James gave to Lisa that earned James a pass on Valentines for the rest of their marriage...

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Hope Rising: 3 Ways to Invest in Your Marriage This Year
Love: Defining the Three Essentials

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