Asexuality and kink?! Isn’t that a contradiction?! Nope! Asexual BDSM is quite common. In fact, a significant segment of the kink subculture is on the ‘ace’ spectrum.  On ep 195, Evie Lupine joins to talk about it. A few of the things we discuss:

• Asexuality vs. Responsive Desire & how to tell the difference
• How someone can be asexual but still have & enjoy sex
• Why the kink community appeals to many aces
• What IS sex? Do we have the definition all wrong?
• The relationship between sex & BDSM + why some allosexuals prefer “platonic kink”
• How asexuality factors into the “Kink at Pride” discourse & more

Are there asexual folks in your community or life that you’d like to understand better? Maybe you’ve considered this identity for yourself? Does it blow your mind that many ace identified people practice kink & enjoy sex? We cover a lot in this episode that will help you answer those questions!

Evie Lupine Bio

Evie Lupine is an asexual kink educator and YouTuber that first began her journey into the lifestyle about 7 years ago. In that time, she's been a 24/7 collared submissive, a petplayer, a bondage freak, and an occasional sadist. Her passion for learning as well as her diverse interests within kink naturally led her in the direction of helping others with their own discovery processes. She focuses on supporting folks developing happier, healthier relationships while separating the fantasy from the reality of doing BDSM everyday.

Episode 195 Helpful Links & Resources

• Evie Lupine YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/EvieLupine
• Evie Lupine Twitter https://twitter.com/EvieLupine
• Evie Lupine Patreon https://www.patreon.com/EvieLupine
• AVEN Forum (Asexual Visibility & Education Network) https://www.asexuality.org/en/
• Emily Nagoski Come As You Are (book) https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-As-You-Are-Revised-and-Updated/Emily-Nagoski/9781982165314
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• com https://zippermagazine.com/
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• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy

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