Hakeem and Ashley dive deep into modern relationships through the lens of the TEFIC Process ( Triggers, Environment, Foundation, Investment & Contribution ) and how your internal world shapes every connection you enter.

This episode is raw, funny, and uncomfortably honest. You’ll laugh, rethink your patterns, and question every “situation” you ever justified.

Ashley specializes in helping people build healthy internal relationships ; the kind that keep you grounded, calm, emotionally aware, and able to love without abandoning yourself. Together, they break down:

💥 The Self-Relationship Blueprint

Why your relationship with yourself decides who you attract, what you tolerate, and how you show up in love.

💥 Love Within vs. Love You Chase

If you don’t develop love internally, you’ll overvalue temporary attention and undervalue real intimacy.

💥 Friends, Identity & Independence

Why maintaining friendships OUTSIDE the relationship protects your sanity and your connection from codependency and emotional suffocation.

💥 Opposite-Sex Friendships & Boundaries

The truth nobody wants to talk about: If they weren’t in your life before… why are they auditioning now? Ashley and Hakeem break down transparency, digital respect, emotional cheating, and the difference between honesty and loopholes.

💥 Authenticity, Influence & Content Creation

Your relationship doesn’t just exist offline.. it also lives in your posts, comments, DM habits, and online persona. They talk about how to show up authentically online without sabotaging what you’re building in real life.

💥 TEFIC Applied to Love

• T — Triggers: Partners don’t create your wounds; they reveal them.
• E — Environment: What you consume shapes how you connect.
• F — Foundation: Your routines determine your reactions.
• I — Investment: Healthy love requires time, presence, and emotional effort.
• C — Contribution: Real love gives from overflow, not exhaustion.

This episode is for anyone navigating dating, healing, relationships, identity, or trying not to repeat the same cycle with a different face.

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• Book: Choose Yourself To Be Chosen — the blueprint for healing your story so you stop repeating it in love.