Anonymous says he’s been with his partner since 2014 and they each came  into the relationship with a child. Anonymous says they started lobola proceedings in 2016, however he still needs to complete the process and they now have two kids together. 

Anonymous says they then started working together at the same place for a few years and everything was fine until he started working somewhere else, far from home, and their relationship became more of a long distance relationship. 

Anonymous says he found out that she was cheating on him with someone from work and when he confronted her about it, she explained that she was feeling lonely because she wasn’t seeing him as often as she used to. 

Anonymous believes she’s cheated on him again and again and thinks she’s back it again right now. Anonymous says he was planning on completing the lobola this year but he’s now wondering if he should just let go of the relationship.