Summary

In this episode of Ask Christa!, Christa Dhimo addresses how to handle a manager who plays favorites, creating a toxic team environment. Learn strategies to navigate favoritism, maintain professionalism, and foster a fair workplace. Key topics include the effects of favoritism on team morale, strategies for addressing favoritism, legal and policy resources for fairness, and the importance of a team culture.

Key Takeaways

·       Favoritism demotivates teams and damages credibility.

·       Document observable behaviors and their impacts.

·       Stay above negativity and focus on constructive solutions.

·       Use resources like HR policies and external reports for support.

·       Recognize favoritism early and document behaviors

Additional Resources

Bennett, M. (2026, March 17). 20 Signs of Favoritism at Work and What You Can Do About It. N/A. https://www.niagarainstitute.com/blog/signs-of-favoritism-at-work

Gallup, Inc. (2023, March 29). WorkHuman-Gallup Research Hub. Gallup.com. https://www.gallup.com/analytics/472658/workplace-recognition-research.aspx

Ivy Exec. (2022, July 21). https://ivyexec.com/career-advice/2022/five-non-confrontational-ways-for-dealing-with-favoritism-at-work/

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Disclaimer
The Ask Christa! show is designed to provide accurate and practical insights into common business challenges and workplace issues. Dr. Christa Dhimo stands by the information she shares and the resources she provides; however, every situation is unique. Listeners are encouraged to use this podcast as a helpful resource while also seeking additional, qualified, professional advice, including but not limited to legal, financial, medical, or other professional advice, as warranted. Ask Christa! and its host disclaim liability for actions taken solely on the basis of the information provided here, especially if taken out of context.

Summary

In this episode of Ask Christa!, Christa Dhimo addresses how to handle workplace overload caused by a manager demanding excessive reporting tasks, despite available tools and organizational focus on client success. It offers strategies for setting boundaries, understanding organizational structures, and maintaining performance and engagement.

Key takeaways

·       Set clear boundaries with your manager about your role and responsibilities.

·       Use structured communication to realign expectations and refocus on core work.

·       Leverage organizational resources and articles to support your position.

·       Understand the organizational structure to better navigate managerial demands.

Additional Resources

Ask Christa! (2025, June 27). Ask Christa! Why organizational structure matters!! (S2E19) [Video]. Ask Christa! https://www.askchrista.com/ask-christa-why-organizational-structure-matters-s2e19/

Green, A. (2021, December 30). how to tell your boss “that’s not my job” Ask a Manager. https://www.askamanager.org/2018/11/how-to-tell-your-boss-thats-not-my-job.html

Muenzen, E. (2026, April 8). 5 signs you’re being taken advantage of at work. Monster. https://www.monster.com/career-advice/workplace/signs-youre-being-taken-advantage-of-at-work

VanBenschoten, B. (2025, April 14). What is Servant Leadership? The National Society of Leadership and Success. https://www.nsls.org/blog/what-is-servant-leadership-and-how-to-apply-it

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Links:
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Contact & Booking: https://christadhimo.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christadhimo/

Disclaimer
The Ask Christa! show is designed to provide accurate and practical insights into common business challenges and workplace issues. Dr. Christa Dhimo stands by the information she shares and the resources she provides; however, every situation is unique. Listeners are encouraged to use this podcast as a helpful resource while also seeking additional, qualified, professional advice, including but not limited to legal, financial, medical, or other professional advice, as warranted. Ask Christa! and its host disclaim liability for actions taken solely on the basis of the information provided here, especially if taken out of context.

Summary

In this episode of Ask Christa!, Christa Dhimo discusses strategies for managing a chaotic boss, focusing on creating structure, aligning goals, and understanding underlying behaviors and personality patterns to improve workplace dynamics. She also offers practical tips and resources for employees dealing with disorderly and disruptive leadership styles.

Key Takeaways

·       Force structure by connecting your boss's goals to team work through weekly status meetings.

·       Recognize that chaos often stems from a need for control and can be managed with discipline.

·       Know your resources for managing workplace disorder

Additional Resources

Benjamin, C. (2025, November 26). How to work with a chaotic manager and get your needs met. [Video]. LinkedIn. https://www.linkedin.com/posts/claire-benjamin-b348b4127_how-to-work-with-a-chaotic-manager-and-get-activity-7399378949845430272-aVzv?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop&rcm=ACoAAAAkJ04BuGlvLZskZh15IR-N8y5Y7jtSinM

Brearley, B. (2025, April 12). How a chaotic work environment is hurting your team. Thoughtful Leader. https://www.thoughtfulleader.com/time-management/chaotic-work-environment/ 

Brandon. Shaw. (2025, December 29). The Need for Conflict: The Psychology Behind Chaos and Conflict - Anthony Mazzella, Ph.D. Anthony Mazzella, Ph.D. https://www.drmazzella.com/the-need-for-conflict-the-psychology-behind-chaos-and-conflict/

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Ask Christa! Business Questions, Straight Answers, Real Impact

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I record and produce my podcasts using Riverside and their music library for subscribers.

Links:
Ask Christa!: https://www.askchrista.com/
Contact & Booking: https://christadhimo.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christadhimo/

Disclaimer
The Ask Christa! show is designed to provide accurate and practical insights into common business challenges and workplace issues. Dr. Christa Dhimo stands by the information she shares and the resources she provides; however, every situation is unique. Listeners are encouraged to use this podcast as a helpful resource while also seeking additional, qualified, professional advice, including but not limited to legal, financial, medical, or other professional advice, as warranted. Ask Christa! and its host disclaim liability for actions taken solely on the basis of the information provided here, especially if taken out of context.

Summary

In this episode of Ask Christa!, Christa Dhimo addresses how to handle a boss who belittles and demeans employees, focusing on strategies for emotional relief, understanding power dynamics, and seeking resources.

Key Takeaways

·       Power dynamics set the groundwork for abuse in the workplace

·       There are strategies for emotional relief and support

·       Understand your resources and policies for addressing toxic behavior

Additional Resources

Ask Christa! (2026, January 29). My boss belittles my Co-Worker, What should I do? (Ask Christa! . . . [Video]. Ask Christa! https://www.askchrista.com/my-boss-belittles-my-co-worker-what-should-i-do-ask-christa-s6e63/

Ask Christa! (2025, June 17). Ask Christa! How Do I Stop Putting Up with Bad Behavior (Put-Dow. . . [Video]. Ask Christa! https://www.askchrista.com/ask-christa-how-do-i-stop-putting-up-with-bad-behavior-put-downs-at-work-s2e17/

De Vries, M. F. R. K. (2024, June 18). How to handle a toxic boss. INSEAD Knowledge. https://knowledge.insead.edu/career/how-handle-toxic-boss

Jennifer Brick. (2025, June 3). How to Deal with a Toxic Boss When You Can’t QUIT [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xkMHaLD8ln0

TEDx Talks. (2026, March 23). How to handle a bad boss | Natalie Parker | TEDxParrish Street [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U86LLzZUjVw

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I record and produce my podcasts using Riverside and their music library for subscribers.

Links:
Ask Christa!: https://www.askchrista.com/
Contact & Booking: https://christadhimo.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christadhimo/

Disclaimer
The Ask Christa! show is designed to provide accurate and practical insights into common business challenges and workplace issues. Dr. Christa Dhimo stands by the information she shares and the resources she provides; however, every situation is unique. Listeners are encouraged to use this podcast as a helpful resource while also seeking additional, qualified, professional advice, including but not limited to legal, financial, medical, or other professional advice, as warranted. Ask Christa! and its host disclaim liability for actions taken solely on the basis of the information provided here, especially if taken out of context.

Summary

This episode of Ask Christa!, Christa Dhimo explores how to manage stress caused by a stressed-out boss, emphasizing the importance of self-care, recognizing stress signals, and organizational support strategies. 

Key   takeaways

·       Understanding the importance of recognizing stress signals early

·       The role of HR in supporting stressed employees and managers

·       Practical steps to help teams manage workload and stress

·       The significance of self-care and community support in stressful times

Additional Resources

American Psychological Association. (2024, August 23). Understanding, recognizing, and managing stress in the workplace [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XqFzXUsC6rE

Coping with stress at work. (2024, October 22). https://www.apa.org. https://www.apa.org/topics/healthy-workplaces/work-stress

Work and stress | How to be mentally healthy at work | Mind. (n.d.). https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/how-to-be-mentally-healthy-at-work/work-and-stress/

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Ask Christa! Business Questions, Straight Answers, Real Impact

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I record and produce my podcasts using Riverside and their music library for subscribers.

Links:
Ask Christa!: https://www.askchrista.com/
Contact & Booking: https://christadhimo.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christadhimo/

Disclaimer
The Ask Christa! show is designed to provide accurate and practical insights into common business challenges and workplace issues. Dr. Christa Dhimo stands by the information she shares and the resources she provides; however, every situation is unique. Listeners are encouraged to use this podcast as a helpful resource while also seeking additional, qualified, professional advice, including but not limited to legal, financial, medical, or other professional advice, as warranted. Ask Christa! and its host disclaim liability for actions taken solely on the basis of the information provided here, especially if taken out of context.

Summary

In this episode of Ask Christa!, Christa Dhimo discusses how to handle a perfectionist boss, exploring the impact of perfectionism on team dynamics and providing practical strategies for employees to manage such challenging workplace relationships. 

Key  takeaways

·       Perfectionism is about unattainable standards that can harm team morale.

·       Managing expectations and setting boundaries is crucial when dealing with perfectionist bosses.

·       Performance plans are vital for documenting goals and expectations.

·       Seeking support and using the BIC method can help articulate issues with a boss.

·       Resources like Psychology Today and Christina Holloway's video offer practical advice.

Additional Resources

Chasson, G. (2024, June 5). Perfectionism can undermine psychological safety in the workplace. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/flawed/202406/3-ways-perfectionistic-managers-discourage-employees

Christina Holloway. (2022, October 21). How to work for a perfectionist boss [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwKJVLmuZTM

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I record and produce my podcasts using Riverside and their music library for subscribers.

Links:
Ask Christa!: https://www.askchrista.com/
Contact & Booking: https://christadhimo.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christadhimo/

Disclaimer
The Ask Christa! show is designed to provide accurate and practical insights into common business challenges and workplace issues. Dr. Christa Dhimo stands by the information she shares and the resources she provides; however, every situation is unique. Listeners are encouraged to use this podcast as a helpful resource while also seeking additional, qualified, professional advice, including but not limited to legal, financial, medical, or other professional advice, as warranted. Ask Christa! and its host disclaim liability for actions taken solely on the basis of the information provided here, especially if taken out of context.

Summary

In this episode of Ask Christa!, Christa Dhimo explores the challenges of effective listening in the workplace, especially when dealing with managers who do not seem to listen. She provides practical strategies to improve active listening, enhance communication, and foster better understanding at work. Topics include: the importance of active listening in the workplace, common barriers to effective listening and how to overcome them, practical techniques to improve listening and being heard, and understanding the root causes of listening issues with managers.

Key takeaways

·       Listening is a skill that requires energy, concentration, and practice.

·       Most people are not good listeners; they often only half-listen or jump to conclusions.

·       Effective listening involves hearing, understanding, interpreting, retaining, then being able to effectively recall what you heard.

·       Strategies to improve listening include removing distractions, asking clarifying questions, and using a notepad to capture “intrusive thoughts.”

·       To be heard, ask for feedback, clarify your message, and use prompting questions.

Additional Resources

Master the art of listening - take the listening assessment. (2024, August 11). A Meaning of Life. https://ameaningoflife.org/master-listening/

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Ask Christa! Business Questions, Straight Answers, Real Impact

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I record and produce my podcasts using Riverside and their music library for subscribers.

Links:
Ask Christa!: https://www.askchrista.com/
Contact & Booking: https://christadhimo.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christadhimo/

Disclaimer
The Ask Christa! show is designed to provide accurate and practical insights into common business challenges and workplace issues. Dr. Christa Dhimo stands by the information she shares and the resources she provides; however, every situation is unique. Listeners are encouraged to use this podcast as a helpful resource while also seeking additional, qualified, professional advice, including but not limited to legal, financial, medical, or other professional advice, as warranted. Ask Christa! and its host disclaim liability for actions taken solely on the basis of the information provided here, especially if taken out of context.

Summary

In this episode of Ask Christa!, Christa Dhimo addresses a listener question about an employee feeling like their boss is holding them back as the boss prepares for retirement. She explores how employees can navigate situations where their manager seems to hold them back, especially during a manager's transition to retirement. The discussion offers practical strategies for maintaining development momentum and understanding managerial behaviors.

Key takeaways

·       It’s important to manage the pace of your own development 

·       There are various strategies for communicating with a manager about career growth

·       It’s important to understand your boss-employee power dynamics

·       Tools to advance your career include a collaboration and negotiation mindset

Additional Resources

Forbes Coaches Council. (2021, December 10). Is your favorite boss leaving? Seven ways to cope. Forbes. https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2017/11/08/is-your-favorite-boss-leaving-seven-ways-to-cope/

Tame your terrible office tyrant. (n.d.). Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tame-your-terrible-office-tyrant

Taylor, L. (2018, February 4). Manage Up with Ingenuity for Faster Response Time. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tame-your-terrible-office-tyrant/201802/9-ways-to-counter-a-procrastinating-boss-who-slows-you

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Ask Christa! Business Questions, Straight Answers, Real Impact

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I record and produce my podcasts using Riverside and their music library for subscribers.

Links:
Ask Christa!: https://www.askchrista.com/
Contact & Booking: https://christadhimo.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christadhimo/

Disclaimer
The Ask Christa! show is designed to provide accurate and practical insights into common business challenges and workplace issues. Dr. Christa Dhimo stands by the information she shares and the resources she provides; however, every situation is unique. Listeners are encouraged to use this podcast as a helpful resource while also seeking additional, qualified, professional advice, including but not limited to legal, financial, medical, or other professional advice, as warranted. Ask Christa! and its host disclaim liability for actions taken solely on the basis of the information provided here, especially if taken out of context.

Summary

In this episode of Ask Christa!, Christa explores the challenges of being underemployed while also having more management training than your boss. It offers practical strategies for leveraging your skills, realigning expectations, and turning frustration into constructive action. Key topics include underemployment and its impact on career satisfaction and strategies to leverage management training in a lower-level role.

Key takeaways

·       Leverage your management skills outside of your current role to create impact.

·       Share your management knowledge informally at work to build influence.

·       Use pent-up management skills outside work: mentor, create, share

·       Remember that management training doesn't make a good manager (application does)

Additional Resources

3 Smart steps to take if you’re more qualified than your boss | The Muse. (n.d.). The Muse. https://www.themuse.com/advice/3-smart-steps-to-take-if-youre-more-qualified-than-your-boss

3 Strategies for dealing when you’re Underemployed | The Muse. (n.d.). The Muse. https://www.themuse.com/advice/3-strategies-for-dealing-when-youre-underemployed

Career Contessa, Job Search + Career Advice. (2024, October 29). From unemployed to Underemployed: How to cope with it [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pDTEih8kAI

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Ask Christa! Business Questions, Straight Answers, Real Impact

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I record and produce my podcasts using Riverside and their music library for subscribers.

Links:
Ask Christa!: https://www.askchrista.com/
Contact & Booking: https://christadhimo.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christadhimo/

Disclaimer
The Ask Christa! show is designed to provide accurate and practical insights into common business challenges and workplace issues. Dr. Christa Dhimo stands by the information she shares and the resources she provides; however, every situation is unique. Listeners are encouraged to use this podcast as a helpful resource while also seeking additional, qualified, professional advice, including but not limited to legal, financial, medical, or other professional advice, as warranted. Ask Christa! and its host disclaim liability for actions taken solely on the basis of the information provided here, especially if taken out of context.

Summary

In this episode of Ask Christa!, Christa Dhimo addresses a listener's question about managing a likable but ineffective boss. This episode is focused on ways to enable a manager to support growth and development for the team’s career paths. Christa emphasizes the importance of effective feedback and offers actionable strategies for employees to initiate coaching discussions with their boss so the boss can improve. Christa highlights the significance of leveraging the manager's likeability and coachability to foster a productive dialogue. She also shares additional resources and encourages listeners to take charge of their career paths while also finding ways to provide feedback to their managers if the manager is coachable and the goal is focused on improvement.

Key Takeaways

·       Most people aren't prepared to become a manager.

·       Growth and development are crucial aspects of a job.

·       A likable manager can motivate a team to help the manager succeed.

·       Employees should take control of their own development.

·       Using the BIC method can facilitate effective feedback.

·       Coaching can come from trusted colleagues or external sources.

·       You're not alone in facing management challenges.

·       Leverage your connection with your manager for feedback.

Additional Resources

Garrett, H. (2023, December 18). Taking the Wheel: How to drive your own professional development. Forbes. https://www.forbes.com/councils/forbesbusinesscouncil/2023/11/30/taking-the-wheel-how-to-drive-your-own-professional-development/

Herrity, J. (2025, December 19). 10 Strategies to Effectively Promote your Professional growth. Indeed Career Guide. https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/professional-growth

Ryan, L. (2017, February 23). Five signs Your boss is a nice person -- but a terrible manager. Forbes. https://www.forbes.com/sites/lizryan/2017/02/22/five-signs-your-boss-is-a-nice-person-but-a-lousy-manager/

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Ask Christa! Business Questions, Straight Answers, Real Impact

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I record and produce my podcasts using Riverside and their music library for subscribers.

Links:
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Contact & Booking: https://christadhimo.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christadhimo/

Disclaimer
The Ask Christa! show is designed to provide accurate and practical insights into common business challenges and workplace issues. Dr. Christa Dhimo stands by the information she shares and the resources she provides; however, every situation is unique. Listeners are encouraged to use this podcast as a helpful resource while also seeking additional, qualified, professional advice, including but not limited to legal, financial, medical, or other professional advice, as warranted. Ask Christa! and its host disclaim liability for actions taken solely on the basis of the information provided here, especially if taken out of context.