Ask Elisa: Dating Stories and Advice

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This episode is a Q&A with Seattle-based therapist, Kate Mageau. Kate specializes in working with people recovering from toxic relationships. In this episode, I ask Kate what common dating advice they hate and then we discuss early signs and red flags that a relationship is off to an unhealthy start and might be becoming toxic.

Kate's Therapy Practice: https://www.empoweringtherapy.online/ 

Follow Kate on Threads: @kate.therapist.author

Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to [email protected] or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.

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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.

I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with some years of dating experience behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

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This episode is sponsored by Manic Meatballs.

A special Halloween episode! My guest is 22-(almost 23)-year-old, Hailey. Listen to a discussion between Hailey (Gen Z) and me (Elder Millennial) about how the incredible horror film, Obsession, relates to everyday life for women - how we're viewed by men and how they approach romantic relationships with us. And if you stick around to the end - you get a very special and ridiculous treat!

Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to [email protected] or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.

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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.

I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with some years of dating experience behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

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The guest for this episode is Sara Gehrig, the founder of Hello Pain Peeps (www.hellopainpeeps.com). Sara leads several online peer support groups for people living with chronic pain, chronic illness, and chronic health issues. She is an expert and we're so lucky to have her on Ask Elisa to do a Q&A episode!

Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to [email protected] or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.

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Find Ask Elisa online @askelisapodcast

www.askelisapodcast.com 

Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.

I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with some years of dating experience behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

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The guest for this episode is Sara Gehrig, the founder of Hello Pain Peeps (www.hellopainpeeps.com). She's here to tell her story of dating with chronic pain and chronic illness. Sara leads several online peer support groups for people living with chronic pain, chronic illness, and chronic health issues. She is an expert and we're so lucky to have her on Ask Elisa! She will be back next week to do a Q&A about dating with chronic pain and illness. 

Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to [email protected] or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.

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Find Ask Elisa online @askelisapodcast

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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.

I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with some years of dating experience behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

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In this episode, listen to Tina tell her story of being over 50 and on the dating apps. Tina got married when she was 18 and became single again after 35 years of marriage. What a wild time!

Find her social media: @thedatingprofessor

Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to [email protected] or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.

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Find Ask Elisa online @askelisapodcast

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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.

I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with some years of dating experience behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

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In this episode, Carla Romo, a certified Dating and Relationship Coach, and I answer some common questions about dating.

Visit Carla's website: www.carlaromo.com

Find her social media: @iamcarlaromo

Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to [email protected] or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.

Want to be a guest on Ask Elisa? Complete the Guest Interest Form

Find Ask Elisa online @askelisapodcast

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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.

I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

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In this episode, Carla Romo shares the bumpy road of codependency she followed before becoming a certified dating and relationship coach and published author. I had a blast talking to Carla and even got a taste of her coaching toward the end of the episode.

Visit Carla's website: www.carlaromo.com

Find her social media: @iamcarlaromo

Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to [email protected] or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.

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Find Ask Elisa online @askelisapodcast

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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.

I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

Sign up for the Ask Elisa Monthly Newsletter at www.askelisapodcast.com. 

In this episode, Emmy tells the story of how her relationship shifted after they got engaged. And it was not in a good way. She had to do the hard thing and call it off. Emmy is my youngest guest. She's 27 years old. I chose to have Emmy on the show because she made such a brave choice at a young age.

I'm really impressed by the self-awareness Emmy shows in her social media videos @whosonmyroster. Emmy also started the platform called Roster, a personal dating journal. It's so cool! 

Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to [email protected] or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.

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Find Ask Elisa online @askelisapodcast

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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.

I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

Sign up for the Ask Elisa Monthly Newsletter at www.askelisapodcast.com 

You got a match! Now what? The goal of this episode is to help you feel more confident during the initial chatting phase after matching on a dating app. I cover tips for your opening message, questions to ask, basic dos and don'ts, and taking the step to set up a first date.

There will be more Dating 101 episodes going into detail of first dates, communication, stopping situationships, and more.

Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to [email protected] or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.

Want to be a guest on Ask Elisa? Complete the Guest Interest Form

Find Ask Elisa online @askelisapodcast

www.askelisapodcast.com 

Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.

I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

Sign up for the Ask Elisa Monthly Newsletter at www.askelisapodcast.com 

This is the Part 2 of Chrys's story. Chrys shares ways the Gamer has popped up after she broke things off and the work she's doing to heal. Chrys also reflects on the red flags and warning signs that she can see now.

Thank you so much to Chrys for sharing her story with the Ask Elisa community.

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Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to [email protected] or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.

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Find Ask Elisa online @askelisapodcast

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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.

I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.