Ask Me How I'm Really Doing: A Mom's Podcast

Some mornings your patience runs out before the coffee even finishes brewing. You’re juggling school drop-offs, dishes in the sink, and the endless to-do list that no one else sees. You feel yourself snapping, hiding in the bathroom for just a few minutes of quiet, wondering where your joy went. If you’ve ever felt like your passion disappeared somewhere under the weight of motherhood, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Ask Me How I’m Really Doing: A Mom’s Podcast, you’ll hear why your passion as a mom can’t wait, and how reclaiming it helps you move from just surviving motherhood to actually thriving.

✨ What’s Inside the Episode

• (00:45) 💭 Why losing sight of your passions is so common in motherhood and why you’re not alone.
• (02:12) 🌸 Truth #1: How even a few minutes spent on what you love refuels your energy as a mom.
• (07:30) 🌈 Truth #2: The difference between harmonious passion and obsessive passion, and how you can find balance.
• (12:45) 🧺 Truth #3: How the invisible mental load makes passion harder to pursue, and what support you need to make it possible.
• (17:00) 🌟 A reminder that your passion isn’t selfish, it’s a gift that benefits your whole family.

🌱 Dream Seed Journal Prompt

What is one small passion ritual you can reclaim this week, and who can support you in making sure it happens?

You don’t have to choose between motherhood and the pieces of you that make you come alive. Both can exist together, and you deserve to feel lit up by your own joy. Come listen, I saved you a seat.

Hadiya ☕️ 💖

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You know that feeling when you skip brushing your teeth or delay your shower because your baby is crying and you put her first? That’s mom guilt. It sneaks into the tiniest moments, from dishes piling up to skipping your own needs just to keep the peace. You love your child deeply, but sometimes the guilt feels automatic, like a reflex you can’t turn off. If you’ve ever put yourself last and questioned what that says about you, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Ask Me How I’m Really Doing, you’ll hear about mom guilt, emotional labor, and why caring for yourself is just as important as caring for your baby.

🍼 (00:05) The everyday ways guilt sneaks in when you put yourself last

👩🏽‍🍼 (01:24) Why mornings feel like the hardest test of motherhood

👵🏽 (02:40) How cultural messages from moms and grandmas keep guilt alive

💔 (03:37) When your baby’s tears get blamed on you instead of supported

💡 (06:21) A 3-step “guilt reset” you can try before reacting

💪🏾 (07:31) Why nurturing yourself first is the only way your baby truly thrives

Where have you been putting yourself last? What would it look like to flip that script, even just once? Could you brush your teeth before the dishes, take a shower before the laundry, or pause for one deep breath before picking up your baby?

You are not selfish for needing a moment. You are not broken for feeling guilty. You are human, and you deserve care too. Come sit with me — I saved you a seat.

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You know that moment when you’re standing in front of a closet that’s overflowing, but you still feel like you have nothing to wear? Maybe you’ve been living in leggings for months, grabbing whatever is clean and praying no one notices the baby food stains. Somewhere along the way, you stopped feeling like yourself in your own clothes. If you’ve ever craved putting something on that makes you feel like you again, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Ask Me How I’m Really Doing, you’ll hear about postpartum identity, motherhood style shifts, and how to reclaim your sense of self through the clothes you wear.

👖 (00:05) Why living in yoga pants for a year leaves you feeling unlike yourself

☕ (00:37) The baby-food-stained legging moment every mom knows too well

👗 (01:07) The shift from pre-baby jeans to flowy dresses and oversized clothes

💄 (02:15) How a crisp shirt, loose jeans, and a little makeup changed everything

🩲 (06:21) Why good underwear matters more than you think for your confidence

💡 (08:45) Creating outfit “formulas” so you always feel put together in minutes

What’s one small way you can dress for yourself this week? Not for comfort, not for practicality, and not for anyone else... just for you.

You don’t need a whole new wardrobe to feel like yourself again. Sometimes all it takes is a little intention and one piece that makes you feel alive in your own skin. Come listen, mama. I saved you a seat.

Hadiya ☕️ 💖

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I thought breastfeeding would be natural, instinctual, automatic. Instead, it felt like my body betrayed me. At 23, I had a breast reduction and I had no idea what that choice would mean when I held my baby years later. In the hospital, I watched her cry while my body couldn’t give her enough, and it broke me. If you’ve ever sat in the dark with tears rolling down your face wondering why your body won’t cooperate, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Ask Me How I’m Really Doing: A Mom’s Podcast, I open up about postpartum feeding struggles, the impact of breast reduction surgery on breastfeeding, and the emotional labor of feeling like your body has failed you. We talk about shame, community, and what it really means to mother beyond performance.

Timestamped Highlights

💔 (00:07) How my breast reduction at 23 shaped my postpartum journey

🍼 (03:59) The night I realized my body wasn’t giving my daughter enough

😢 (05:29) Why shame cuts so deep when breastfeeding doesn’t work out

🤱🏽 (07:57) How moms in my community rallied to share breast milk

🌍 (09:45) Normalizing milk sharing and choosing what’s best for your family

💡 (11:05) Redefining motherhood beyond performance and ounces

🌱 Dream Seed Journal Prompt

What does it mean to mother if it has nothing to do with performance? How would your story shift if you measured your motherhood by presence, love, and intention instead of by checklists or outcomes?

You are not broken. You are rebuilding. And that too is mothering. Come listen, I saved you a seat.

Hadiya ☕️ 💖

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I’ll be honest, I didn’t even want to talk about this one. I’ve been co-sleeping with my daughter since she was three days old, so broken sleep has been my normal. But last night was one of the hardest nights yet. I’m jealous of moms whose babies sleep, resentful of every headline that says babies should be sleeping through the night, and exhausted from counting phantom cries at 3 a.m. If you’ve ever stumbled through motherhood on zombie mode, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Ask Me How I’m Really Doing: A Mom’s Podcast, I share the truth about postpartum sleep deprivation, co-sleeping, and the emotional labor of babies who still wake through the night. We talk about phantom cries, motherhood exhaustion, and how to redefine rest when sleep feels impossible.

Timestamped Highlights

😮‍💨 (00:01) Naming the jealousy I feel toward moms whose babies sleep

🌙 (00:38) Twelve months of broken nights and the toll it takes

👶🏽 (02:06) The comedy and chaos of midnight wakeups with Estelle

📺 (04:30) Why I had to stop watching drama before bed just to cope

📱 (06:59) The battle between phone time and real rest

💭 (08:35) Rethinking baby independence and what rest really means

🌱 Dream Seed Journal Prompt

What does rest look like for you in this season, even if it isn’t sleep? Is it car sitting, a late-night scroll, or five minutes of quiet before the house wakes up? Name it and let it count.

You are not broken for being tired. You are not alone for wishing it were different. This is a season, and you’re doing better than you think. Come listen, I saved you a seat.

Hadiya ☕️ 💖

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Last night I had the worst sleep I’ve had since becoming a mom. I’ve been co-sleeping with my daughter since she was three days old, so broken sleep has been my normal. I thought I was used to it, but this night was something else. From middle-of-the-night slaps to phantom cries, I hit my edge. If you’ve ever laid in bed at 3 a.m. wondering how you’ll make it through another sleepless night, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Ask Me How I’m Really Doing: A Mom’s Podcast, I open up about the reality of baby night wakeups, co-sleeping, and the mental load of sleep deprivation. We talk about phantom cries, the pressure to sleep train, and what it means to accept this season of motherhood while still craving rest.

Timestamped Highlights

😴 (00:42) The night I was woken up more times than I could count

✋ (02:12) When my baby slapped me in the chest in her sleep

😂 (03:40) The comedy of her crawling on top of Chris looking for milk

🕰 (07:50) Why I turned my clock away to avoid sleep anxiety

📚 (06:01) What I learned about babies waking up to protect themselves from SIDS

📱 (09:32) Phantom cries and how my body is trained to wake up even when she doesn’t need me

🌱 Dream Seed Journal Prompt

When was the last time you felt pushed to your edge by lack of rest? What would it look like to give yourself just one small pocket of recovery this week, even if it is not perfect sleep?

Motherhood asks so much of us, even in the middle of the night. You are not the only one exhausted and longing for rest. Come listen, I saved you a seat.

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I’m going to say the quiet thing out loud. Sometimes I get jealous of women who aren’t moms. Not because I don’t love being a mom, but because I miss the ease they seem to move through their day with. The extra time to get dressed slowly, to look put together, to not have every minute accounted for. Becoming a mother is the deepest joy of my life, and it has also come with real losses. If you’ve ever felt that ache too, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Ask Me How I’m Really Doing: A Mom’s Podcast, I talk about the hidden losses in motherhood, from time and identity to self-care and emotional space. We explore what it means to grieve those changes while still loving our babies, and how to carve out small moments of time for ourselves.

Timestamped Highlights

⏱ (00:29) The dinner that left me feeling rushed, drained, and unseen

👚 (02:45) Realizing I had no clothes that fit the woman I am now

💄 (04:50) The spiral of getting ready while comparing myself to women without kids

💔 (06:30) Naming jealousy as a longing for time and spaciousness

🪞 (07:21) Why starting with the outside can help you feel more like yourself inside

🕰 (10:14) The truth that this season will not last forever

🌱 Dream Seed Journal Prompt

Where in your life are you craving time that is truly yours? Name it. Even if it feels selfish. Especially if it feels selfish. What would it look like to claim just a little bit of that back this week?

You’re allowed to name the loss while still loving the life you have. This is just a season, and you are not the only one who feels it. I saved you a seat.

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Lately, my brain has been running calculations from the moment I wake up. How many ounces of milk are left in the freezer? How many pants still fit her? How long until the next nap? I didn’t realize motherhood would turn me into a full-time mathematician, constantly weighing every decision like it’s the most important one. If you’ve ever felt buried under invisible mental math, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Ask Me How I’m Really Doing: A Mom’s Podcast, I share what I call “mommyhood math” and how the constant calculations of nap schedules, growth milestones, and emotional load can drain us. We talk about giving ourselves grace, letting go of perfection, and remembering that our babies are doing just fine.

Timestamped Highlights

🍼 (00:07) The first time I realized I was doing “mommyhood math”

🩳 (00:56) Why my daughter’s pants became a spiral of self-criticism

📋 (03:15) How every question about her was really a question about me

🌿 (05:29) The things no one tells you before becoming a mom

📊 (07:44) Why you can’t spreadsheet your way to being a good mom

💡 (12:23) Letting go of the numbers and trusting your baby’s timeline

🌱 Dream Seed Journal Prompt

Where are you measuring yourself too harshly right now? Say it out loud. Then ask yourself, is this something I actually need to track?

You are doing enough. Your baby is doing better than you think. And you are not alone in the questions you ask yourself every day. I’m saving you a seat.

Hadiya ☕️ 💖

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I was so ready to spill the tea with my friend. Instead, I was wiping food off my shirt, keeping my daughter from tumbling over, and trying to have a halfway decent conversation between bites. I love being a mom, but that day I realized just how much I miss connecting without constant interruptions. So I planned something for my mom friends and for me a baby free pool day. No bottles, no nap schedules, no chasing little ones mid-sentence. Just sun, laughter, and remembering who we are outside of motherhood. If you’ve ever longed for a real conversation without tiny hands pulling at you, this one’s for you.

n this episode of Ask Me How I’m Really Doing: A Mom’s Podcast, I talk about why every mom needs a moment away from the daily grind of motherhood, how I planned a baby-free pool day, and why connection matters as much as rest.

⏱ Timestamped Highlights

💬 (00:07) That moment I realized I missed uninterrupted conversations

🍼 (01:13) How motherhood turned every catch-up into baby duty

💌 (01:50) Shouting out my friend Nicole and the value of rare, meaningful time

🏖 (04:15) The lightbulb moment from a Parisian mom that changed everything

💦 (05:48) Why the pool day wasn’t about luxury, but about restoration

💡 (07:08) Asking yourself when you last felt like you

🌱 Dream Seed Journal Prompt

When in your life do you need that time to just be for you. Not as a mom, partner, or planner? How can you create even one small pocket of that time this week?

Motherhood was never meant to be done alone. Plan the thing, book the time, and give yourself permission to feel like you again. Come listen. I saved you a seat.

Hadiya ☕️ 💖

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I didn’t throw my daughter a first birthday party. Who even am I? What kind of mom skips the milestone moment? I second guessed myself when the invites from other one-year-old parties rolled in. I thought about the Pinterest boards, the perfect cake, and the decorations, and then I thought about how exhausted I still was from the baby shower. So I chose something different. If you’ve ever felt guilty for not doing what everyone expects, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Ask Me How I’m Really Doing: A Mom’s Podcast, I talk about the pressure around birthday parties, mom guilt, and why we decided to trade the big celebration for something simpler and more meaningful. If you’re navigating postpartum life, emotional labor, and redefining traditions in motherhood, you’ll feel seen here.

Timestamped Highlights

🎈 (00:30) Why I decided not to plan a Pinterest-perfect first birthday

☕ (01:15) The baby shower that nearly broke us

💬 (03:57) The conversation with Chris that changed everything

🏞️ (04:45) Swapping party favors for a family trip to Clear Lake

💡 (06:26) Rethinking gifts and starting a college fund tradition

💖 (07:10) What celebration could look like with no rules or pressure

🌱 Dream Seed Journal Prompt

If you could celebrate without rules, pressure, or expectations, what would you choose to keep? What would you let go of?

Sometimes love looks like simplifying. Sometimes presence matters more than presents. And sometimes, the best memories are the ones made far from the noise. You don’t have to choose between motherhood and your dreams. You can hold both.

Hadiya ☕️ 💖

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