#AskAMan

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 2 years and says when they met each other she told the guy at the time that she’s not really into monogamy and wasn’t looking for anything serious. He told her that he’s not into that and wants something serious. 

Despite their differences they continued with their relationship and anonymous says she fell for him and she enjoyed the relationship. However, anonymous says she’s enjoying the relationship a lot but still feels like she doesn’t want to be monogamous. 

Anonymous doesn’t know how to move forward. 

Anonymous says he’s in his late twenties and says he’s known girl no.1 since they were really young  and says after going through somethings they broke up and he moved on with his life but over the years he and girl no.1 kept up with each other and would hook up here and there. 

Anonymous says he met girl no.2 at work and it was love at first sight, however, after becoming a couple she told anonymous that she’s actually in a long distance relationship with a guy from her hometown, however, they continued and anonymous says he fell deeply for her. 

Anonymous says time has gone by and she was still with the guy from back home. Anonymous says this has caused a rift and he ended up finding himself in the arms of girl no.1 again, who is also in a relationship with someone else. Anonymous says girl no.1 is now pregnant and is not sure if anonymous is the father.

Anonymous says he’s been dating his partner since high school and they were each other’s neighbours. Anonymous says their relationship really took off when they were in varsity and they even came out to their families. 

Anonymous says their relationship has been great and says his partner has been a very supportive partner. However, anonymous says recently he came back home unexpectedly and found his partner having sex with his own cousin and anonymous says after confronting his partner, the partner told him that he had resorted to cheating on him because anonymous’ sex drive is low. 

Anonymous is not sure if he should continue with the relationship.

Anonymous says she met her now ex fiancé back in 2018 while working together. Anonymous says things got off to a rocky start and they broke up because he was dealing with another women that he had impregnated. 

Anonymous says they dated again years later, while she was pregnant with her first child. Anonymous says a problem in their relationship is that her partner wanted more sexual intimacy than anonymous could offer, and that caused a rift between them. 

Anonymous says she fell pregnant with his child and things got even more rocky during pregnancy and they experienced a lot of conflict during that time. 

Anonymous says he’s family paid lobola for her, however she struggled with the up keep of his family’s cultural traditions, some of which clashed with her religion and that’s what has led to them now breaking up. Anonymous says she’s struggling to let him go.

Anonymous says he’s back on the market after 12 years in a relationship and says he’s just made his return into the dating game and he says he’s not understanding dating these days, he feels like the game has changed. 

Anonymous says he’s an indoors kind of person but feels like the people he keeps meeting are just all over the place, always going out, something he doesn’t get. Anonymous needs help dating again. 

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner since high school, however, in their matric year he impregnated another girl, she also fell pregnant around the same time and they continued with their relationship. 

Anonymous says they’ve been together for 24 years now but he did have an affair with another woman for about 2 years 10 years ago, but they’ve since moved on from that. Anonymous says they had agreed they would not have more kids, however, he has now changed his mind and as a result of family pressure, he wants to have another child, but she’s not interested. 

Anonymous says she doesn’t want another child as she feels like she doesn’t have the capacity to raise another child. Anonymous says this has now caused a rift in their relationship and she’s not sure if she’s being selfish for not wanting to have another child.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner since November last year and says the relationship was fine until her partner introduced her to his family. 

Anonymous says her partner lives with his family and says the mother of his child is always there with his family. Anonymous says she brought up that she’s not comfortable with how often his ex visits but that only ended up causing a rift between her and his family and led to tension within their relationship. 

Anonymous says they also have other issues in their relationship, however she feels like he never wants to address any conflicts they run into in their relationship. Anonymous says he tends to go quiet and she’s always the one to reach out to him to try and resolve the conflict. 

Anonymous is not sure if she should remain in this relationship and wonders if she might be the problem.

Anonymous says she’s been dating her partner for 10 months and he is a radio presenter. Anonymous says she’s noticed a pattern in their relationship, she says overtime they have a relationship quarrel he takes it to air on his show, even tough he refuses to discuss those things with her when she brings them up. 

Anonymous says another issue is that he is not earning much and says she’s tried to motivate him to make career moves that would lead him to doing better financially, however, anonymous says he doesn’t really take her advice and has gone on air speaking about partners that try to control you. 

Anonymous doesn’t know how to feel about all this.

Anonymous says she’s been with her partner for 12 years and says she was a side chick for the first two years of their relationship. Anonymous says while in the relationship she had a one night stand and fell pregnant. 

Anonymous says her partner found out that the child wasn’t his, something he wasn’t happy about but decided to remain in a relationship with anonymous because he loved her. Anonymous says years later they now have two children together. 

Anonymous says her partner has been emotionally abusive towards her over the years. She adds that he lost his job at some point and stopped supporting her and the children. 

Anonymous says over the last year he started cheating on her and despite having money now, he is not supporting the children. Anonymous is not sure how to move forward.

Anonymous says she dated her ex for 5 years and he cheated on her multiple times. Anonymous says she eventually broke up with him because of his cheating ways. Anonymous says before she broke things off with him, he revealed that he was HIV positive. 

Anonymous says she moved on and dated someone else but ended that relationship because the guy was a bit dodgy. Anonymous says her ex now wants her back and she’s not sure if she should get back together with him because despite he’s cheating ways, he used to be good to her as a partne