#AskAMan

Anonymous is in love with two guys. She says she met one guy while they were volunteering for an organisation, she says they lost contact with guy no.1 after he disappeared for weeks. Anonymous met guy no.2 at her new job and she decided to go with it as guy no.1 was not getting back to her. Anonymous says things are great with guy no.2 who takes care of her. Anonymous says 9 weeks after disappearing she ran into guy no.1 at her local shopping complex and he hadn’t told her he was coming back, anonymous says his excuse was that he lost anonymous’ no. and that’s why he couldn’t get hold of her while he was gone…

Anonymous says she dated a certain lady, lady no.1, back in 2011 and they never actually broke up, their relationship just faded. Anonymous says they recently reconnected and lady no.1 told anonymous that she’s currently married but she’s frustrated in her marriage and wants to have a relationship with anonymous. Anonymous says they then started dating but along the way anonymous says she had to find her own girlfriend because lady no.1 is married and not giving anonymous all the attention she needs. Anonymous says she told lady no.1 that she now has a girlfriend and lady no.1 is not happy with this. Anonymous says lady no.1 has asked anonymous to break up with her girlfriend, but lady no.1 refuses to divorce her wife. Anonymous says things have gotten sour between them and she doesn't know what to do.

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner for a few years and they moved in together in order for her to be closer to her tertiary institution. After she was done, she moved out as their parents said they need to do things right way in order to live together. Anonymous says they had some troubles in their relationship and he says he’s been verbally abusive towards her which affected their relationship. Anonymous says he also felt like his partner was too sensitive even when he’s trying resolve conflicts in their relationship. Anonymous says he eventually broke up with his partner out of frustration. He now wants her back and says she’s being advised not to get back together with him. Anonymous says he’s not sure if he should continue pursuing her.

Anonymous says she has 3 kids with three different guys. She says things are ok with the father of her first child as they were together at a young age. Anonymous says she broke up with the father of her second child after he cheated on her after she fell pregnant. Anonymous then moved on and had a third child, she says things were initially fine with the father of her third child but they’ve now broken up because of his cheating ways and the way he treated her second born child.

Anonymous says he got divorced in 2021 and after about a year and half last year he started dating again. He says things were fine but her partner started behaving in a weird manner, not taking his calls and avoiding him. Anonymous says they now live together but earlier this year she started ignoring him more and wasn’t as responsive to his calls and messages. Anonymous says she then complained about him sending her ‘check-in messages’ and asked him to stop. Anonymous says he started spying on her phone and found out that she was in fact chatting with three other men. Anonymous says she seems to have dodgy dealings with these guys and she’s also currently having an affair with one of them.

Anonymous says he’s been with his partner since around 2017 and says this past Good Friday he visited her place and after she left for work he stayed behind, and wanted to surprise her by cleaning her place. Anonymous says as he was doing that he found ARVs hidden in a shoe box. Anonymous says about two months have gone by and he hasn’t gotten the courage to speak to her about this.

Anonymous says when she called us last year she had broken things off with guy no.1 who had slowly stopped giving her attention and she moved on from him. A few months after that she started dating another guy no.2, who was the perfect partner until she discovered that he was lying about being in the process of divorcing his wife. Anonymous says she broke things off with guy no.2, she got reconciled with guy no.1 but things ended because guy no.1 wasn’t happy about how messy her situation was with guy no.2. Anonymous says she went into depression after all this and she now feels like she’s struggling to date other men.

Anonymous says his marriage is ending and his wife has separated from him. Anonymous says he has anger issues and that’s led to him being emotionally and physically abusive. Anonymous adds that over the years they’ve both cheated on each other, their families don’t get along and he even had a child with someone outside of his marriage. Anonymous says it’s a messy situation as their kids also don’t live with him or his wife. Anonymous wants to put his family together but he doesn’t know how to repair the situation.

Anonymous says she moved with her husband he found a job in another area and they moved with their two kids. Anonymous says things fell apart in their relationship when she fell pregnant with their third child and her husband lost his job. Anonymous says during this time she found comfort in another man at her workplace. As time moved anonymous’ partner got a new job but it was in another area and he moved away on his own this time around. Anonymous says things are not the same with her husband and she barely sees him, Anonymous says she’s now fallen in love with her colleague. She doesn’t know if she should fight for her marriage