Boundary settings is a learned skill. It’s particularly hard for people who have experienced trauma, for whom pleasing people feels necessary to stay physically and emotionally safe or prevent love from disappearing. Valuing your own desires can also be particularly hard for women, LGBTQ people or Black, Indigenous and people of color, who regularly receive the message in society that their needs and desires don’t matter. 

In this episode, Roxie Valentine describes the process of learning how to ask for what she wants. A recent experience stands out in her journey when she expressed to her polycule a kink fantasy that took some bravery to request. She examines what parts of herself changed to reach the place of self-acceptance and belief that she is worthy of having and expressing her own desires.

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