The Self Love Model

attachment styles: what is it? and how it impacts our relationships


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Ever wonder why you show up the way you do in relationships?
Why certain patterns keep repeating even when you want something different?


In today’s episode, we’re diving into attachment styles — what they are, where they come from, and how they shape the way we connect in our relationships.


This conversation was inspired by a recent girls night where I realized that some of my friends had never even heard of attachment styles before. So if this is new to you, don’t worry — class is in session, besties 📚✨


In this episode, we talk about:

  • What attachment is (and the difference between attachment vs. connection)

  • Where attachment theory comes from

  • The four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized

  • My personal experience going from anxious to secure through therapy

  • Why understanding your attachment style can improve the quality of your relationships

  • Steps you can take to move toward a more secure attachment


Understanding your attachment style isn’t about labeling yourself — it’s about gaining awareness, healing at the root, and creating healthier, more fulfilling relationships.


Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or mental health professional. I’m simply sharing what I’ve learned through my own healing journey, therapy, and personal research.


📚 Resources Mentioned in This Episode

🎧 Podcast: On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Episode:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3w5q3VQQaygJ2dV3EWttNm?si=Xqeql0ZXRw2pqdJmrhXAEA

📖 Book: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find — and Keep — Love
by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139

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