In this meaningful episode, Dr. Shaw walks us through the importance of not just showing up, but HOW we show up... and more importantly, it's important we we remain open and not be reactionary to what's said to us.  We all have the tendency to defend our actions or defend our position in interpersonal relationships.  But perception is reality, and what someone feels is all that matters.  We must respond to circumstances in a way that correctly matches the understanding of others, and checking for understanding is an important principle in getting that done.  It's all about knowing your audience, noting and marking the common reality of the situation and paying attention to that which allows us to learn and evolve.