In this brief but important episode, Dr. Shaw explains how our reactions and in fact our suffering can be connected to our preferences which can often guide our sense of happiness. In simple terms, when we get something we like, we are happy... when we encounter something we don't want or like, we are unhappy. The one consistent thing is how we show up, and the question becomes: how can we show up in a way that we are not driven by our preferences? If we know we are always showing up in the best possible way and in a way that allows us to do the best work we can, we can deal better with those times when things are not good. If we aren't be victimized by not getting our preferences then we can live life more successfully.