In this episode, Dr. Shaw begins by describing a scenario in which a teen or an adolescent is being provocative and looking to bait you into a fight.  When you are baited in this manner, the way you stop yourself from over-reacting or reacting too quickly, she recommends that you pause and ask yourself, "Does this serve me?"   The answer is probably not because you don't want to answer confrontation with more confrontation.  At the same time, never responding doesn't provide anyone with closure or a learning lesson.  Dr. Shaw's recommendation is that, later, when there is a peaceful moment, you reflect and discuss what happened earlier.  If you change the way you respond to someone in a situation like this, there needs to be a time when it's discussed, and NOT in the moment of provocation.  We need to stop our habitual responses when they don't serve us anymore.