If you keep finding yourself failing at the same things, it's time to consider that you might suck at those things. The problem isn't outside external forces; it's you.

Life can be tough for sure, but thank goodness for the successes, wins, and joyful moments! Well, that's if you can actually enjoy those moments. Too often Imposter's Syndrome, Survivor's Guilt, and other neuroses prevent us from basking in the great things that happen. How 'bout we stop stealing our own joy?

Entrepreneurship and carefully sculpted personal brands are hot right now. Jobs suck more and more, and nobody wants to be an employee. So many people are on a quest to be the next great mogul. But, as Kay learned after her foray into consulting full time, just as a shitty job can feel like a prison, so can building a business or personal brand.

Chances are you've got a lot going on. There's all of life's stresses, and then there's all the extra stuff you willingly expose yourself to. We live in a media and content-heavy society folks, so every day we're bombarded with images, words, and sounds about things that are bound to elicit emotions or sensory reactions. Sometimes the best thing you can do is tune out all the unimportant stuff that just fills empty space, and turn inward so you can focus on your life and your joy.

Life doesn’t go according to plan. Careers don’t launch. Dream jobs turn into your own little version of hell. Visions of marital bliss slip away with each year that someone doesn’t put a ring on it. We’ve all had our share of life “fails”. Maybe it’s time to redefine success.

Kay and special guest Bianca J. Gay have a candid conversation about what happens when life doesn’t go according to plan, and how to redefine success based on what you want for your life.

Episode 15 | No Reciprocity, No Friendship

Friendships are hard work. But when they fall short on reciprocity, you have to decide if they’re still worth your precious time and energy. Kay talks about not investing in friends who don’t reciprocate, and why distancing yourself from friendships doesn't have to be dramatic. Plus: House of Cards; Donald Trump, the ethos of America; BJ the Chicago Kid; Black Woman Wonder: Sulma Arzu-Brown.