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What if it's not your fault that sex is bad in your marriage?

Based on a groundbreaking in-depth survey of 22,000 Christian women, The Great Sex Rescue unlocks the secrets to what makes some marriages red hot while others fizzle out. Generations of women have grown up with messages about sex that make them feel dirty, used, or invisible, while men have been sold such a cheapened version of sex, they don't know what they're missing. The Great Sex Rescue hopes to turn all of that around, developing a truly biblical view of sex where mutuality, intimacy, and passion reign.

The Great Sex Rescue pulls back the curtain on what is happening in Christian bedrooms and exposes the problematic teachings that wreck sex for so many couples--and the good teachings that leave others breathless. In the #metoo and #churchtoo era, not only is this book a long overdue corrective to church culture, it is poised to free thousands of couples from repressive and dissatisfying sex lives so that they can experience the kind of intimacy and wholeness God intended.

A proven 21-day diet and lifestyle plan to help women with polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) take back control of their health and resolve their symptoms from a certified health coach and founder of the large PCOS Diva online community.

PCOS is one of the most common hormonal disorders, and the most common cause of female infertility, affecting roughly five million American women. Because it’s symptoms are widespread—including stubborn weight gain, acne, mood swings, abnormal hair loss or growth, and irregular menstrual cycles—women suffering from PCOS are often misdiagnosed and treated with "Band-Aid" pharmaceuticals with uncomfortable side effects that only mask PCOS’s root causes. While there is no cure for PCOS, women can learn to control their symptoms naturally. In this welcome guide, Amy Medling shows how to combine an anti-inflammatory and hormone-balancing diet, daily movement, and stress-reducing self-care to successfully treat their PCOS.

Grounded in the latest medical research and filled with the knowledge she’s acquired dealing with PCOS herself and working with thousands of women, Healing PCOS offers women small, manageable steps that help alleviate their symptoms and control the inflammation, hormonal imbalance, and insulin resistance that underlie the condition. Amy’s revolutionary program consists of:

A 21-day anti-inflammatory, hormone-balancing and gluten-free meal plan, including meal prep and plan-ahead tips to make eating this way simple and fast

85 delicious recipes—half fan favorites and half new dishes

Daily self-care exercises, including meditation and journaling prompts

Amy has helped tens of thousands of women with PCOS take back control of their health and their lives through lasting, healing, and sustainable lifestyle change. Whether you’re newly diagnosed or have struggled with PCOS, her revolutionary program can now work for you.

Something that matters to you just isn't right. First you see the problem, then you feel it. It starts with a rush of adrenaline and often a rush of words, but it ends with an overwhelming sense of irritation that impacts how we talk to those we live and work with. We know anger affects us negatively, but we don't know any other way to respond when life goes wrong.

In this groundbreaking book David Powlison undertakes an in-depth exploration of the roots of anger, moral judgment, and righteous response by looking in a surprising place: God's own anger. Powlison reminds us that God gets angry too. He sees things in this world that aren't right and he wants justice too. But God's anger doesn't devolve into manipulation or trying to control others to get his own way. Instead his anger is good and redemptive. It causes him to step into our world to make wrongs right, sending his own Son to die so that we can be reconciled. He is both our model for change and our power to change.

Good and Angry sets listeners on a path toward a faithful and fruitful expression of anger. Powlison offers practical help for people who struggle with irritation, complaining, or bitterness and gives guidance for how to respond constructively when life goes wrong. You, your family, and your friends will all be glad that you listened to this book.

Maybe you don’t know for sure: all you know is something feels off when you think about a certain relationship or interaction with an institution or organization. You feel alone and confused―but calling it “abuse” feels extreme and unsettling, a label for what happens to other people but not you. Yet you can’t shake the feeling: something’s not right.

In his debut book, researcher and advocate Wade Mullen introduces us to the groundbreaking world of impression management―the strategies that individuals and organizations utilize to gain power and cover up their wrongdoings. Mullen reveals a pattern that accompanies many types of abuse, almost as if abusers are somehow reading from the same playbook. If we can learn to decode these evil methods―if we can learn the language of abuse―we can help stop the cycle and make abusers less effective at accomplishing destruction in our lives.

Something’s Not Right will help you to identify and describe tactics that were previously unidentifiable and indescribable, and give you the language you need to move toward freedom and create a safer future for yourself and others.

This ground-breaking resource challenges and equips Christians to think and act biblically and compassionately in matters of sexuality.

Sexual abuse, sex addiction, gender confusion, brokenness, and shame plague today's world, and people are seeking clarity and hope. By contesting long-held cultural paradigms, this book equips you to see how sexuality is rooted in the broader context of God's heart and His work for us on earth. It provides a framework from which to understand the big picture of sexual challenges and wholeness and helps you recognize that every sexual question is ultimately a spiritual one. It shifts the paradigm from combating sexual problems to confidently proclaiming and modeling the road to sacred sexuality.

Instead of arguing with the world about what's right and wrong about sexual choices, this practical resource equips you to share the love and grace of Jesus as you encounter the pain of sexual brokenness--your own or someone else's.

You deserve to stop suffering because of what other people have done to you.

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of unresolved pain, playing offenses over and over in your mind? You know you can't go on like this, but you don't know what to do next.

#1 New York Times Bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst has wrestled through this journey. But in surprising ways, she’s discovered how to let go of bound-up resentment and overcome the resistance to forgiving people who aren’t willing to make things right. With deep empathy, therapeutic insight, and rich Bible teaching coming out of more than 1,000 hours of theological study, Lysa will help you:

Learn how to move on when the other person refuses to change and never says they're sorry.

Walk through a step-by-step process to free yourself from the hurt of your past and feel less offended today.

Discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and the peace that comes from living it out right now.

Identify what's stealing trust and vulnerability from your relationships so you can believe there is still good ahead.

Disempower the triggers hijacking your emotions by embracing the two necessary parts of forgiveness.

"How did I get here?"

These are the words of many Christian men on the brink of burnout or in the midst of breakdown. They are exhausted, depressed, anxious, stressed, and joyless. Their time is spent doing many good things, but their pace is unsustainable— lacking the regular rest, readjustment, and recalibration they need.

But there is good news: God has graciously provided a way for men to reset their lives to a more sustainable pace. Drawing on personal experiences—and time spent counseling other men in the midst of burnout—David Murray offers weary men hope for the future, helping them identify the warning signs of burnout and offering practical strategies for developing patterns that are necessary for living a grace-paced life and reaching the finish line with their joy intact.

Why does narcissism seem to thrive in our churches?

We've seen the news stories and heard the rumors. Maybe we ourselves have been hurt by a narcissistic church leader. It's easy to throw the term around and diagnose others from afar. But what is narcissism, really? And how does it infiltrate the church?

Chuck DeGroat has been counseling pastors with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, as well as those wounded by narcissistic leaders and systems, for over 20 years. He knows firsthand the devastation narcissism leaves in its wake and how insidious and painful it is. In When Narcissism Comes to Church, DeGroat takes a close look at narcissism, not only in ministry leaders but also in church systems. He offers compassion and hope for those affected by its destructive power and imparts wise counsel for churches looking to heal from its systemic effects.

DeGroat also offers hope for narcissists themselves - not by any shortcut, but by the long, slow road of genuine recovery, possible only through repentance and trust in the humble gospel of Jesus.

FOREWORD 11

INTRODUCTION 15

SECTION ONE: FOUNDATIONS

CHAPTER ONE: CROSSING THE BRIDGE WHEN WE GET THERE 23

SECTION TWO: LIES MEN BELIEVE

CHAPTER TWO: LIES MEN BELIEVE ABOUT GOD 35

1. God is not a whole lot different from me. 41

2. God isn’t actually involved in or concerned with the

details of my life. 44

3. I can earn God’s favor. 48

4. There are many ways to God. 51

5. Church? I can take it or leave it. 54

CHAPTER THREE: LIES MEN BELIEVE ABOUT THEMSELVES 59

6. I’m not responsible for my actions. 63

7. Pleasure and entertainment can satisfy me. 67

8. I’m the master of my own destiny. 70

9. Real men don’t cry. 73

10. I don’t need male friends. 75

CHAPTER FOUR: LIES MEN BELIEVE ABOUT SIN 81

11. Who others think I am matters more than who I really am. 87

12. If I mean well, that’s good enough. 91

13. My sin isn’t really that bad. 94

14. God could never forgive me for what I’ve done. 97

15. I can hide my secret sin since it only hurts me. 100

16. Holiness is boring. 106

CHAPTER FIVE: LIES MEN BELIEVE ABOUT SEXUALITY 109

17. A little porn is harmless. 114

18. What my wife doesn’t know won’t hurt her. 119

19. If I experience same-sex attraction, I should pursue

a same-sex relationship. 122

20. I have sexual needs my wife can’t fulfill. 127

CHAPTER SIX: LIES MEN BELIEVE ABOUT MARRIAGE AND FAMILY 133

21. Love doesn’t require spoken words. 138

22. My wife is supposed to make me happy. 142

23. I don’t have what it takes to be the CEO of my home. I can

leave that role to my wife. 145

24. I don’t have to grow up. 153

25. If I discipline my kids, they’ll rebel. 157

CHAPTER SEVEN: LIES MEN BELIEVE ABOUT WORK AND WEALTH 163

26. Making more money will make me happier. 169

27. How I spend my time is my business. 172

28. I’m not responsible to be the provider for my wife and family. 176

29. My faith and my work are unrelated. 182

30. I can’t afford to give more money away. 188

CHAPTER EIGHT: LIES MEN BELIEVE ABOUT CIRCUMSTANCES 193

31. I have the right to be angry when things don’t go my way. 199

32. Pain and suffering are always bad. 201

33. The world is rigged against me. 206

34. I can’t help how I react to certain people or circumstances. 211

35. I can run away from God. 216

CHAPTER NINE: LIES MEN BELIEVE ABOUT THE WORLD 221

36. The world is too messed up to bring children into. 228

37. I’m measured by how I compare with other men. 233

38. With everything going on in my life, it’s really not possible to

live with integrity. 238

39. Being a Christian is supposed to be cool. 242

40. My death will be the end of my story. 246

SECTION THREE: WALKING IN TRUTH

CHAPTER TEN: COUNTERING THE LIES WITH THE TRUTH 253

CHAPTER ELEVEN: THE TRUTH THAT SETS US FREE 267

“If there ever was such a thing as a ‘shortcut’ to the wisdom of the ages, you’re holding it in your hands. This is the kind of wisdom that can only be earned over a lifetime of trial and error, trial and error, and, finally, trial and success.”

-Patrick Morley

Author, The Man in the Mirror

“In 2001, I wrote a book called Lies Women Believe. Since then this message has reached millions of women and been translated into dozens of languages. But I’ve often been asked about a ‘male counterpart’ to the book. When God brought Robert into my life in 2015, I soon realized he was the ideal choice to pen this message for men. You’ll find that reading Lies Men Believe, with its warm, relatable style, is like having a conversation with a good friend. Be prepared, in the process, to grapple with some tough issues. And be prepared to experience the liberating power of the Truth—in your own life, and in the lives of those you influence.”

-Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth

Revive Our Hearts Teacher & Host;

Lies Books Series Editor

You are being hunted.

Like a seasoned angler, our enemy opens his tackle box and selects the lure most likely to attract his intended prey—usually the one you and I are least likely to consider harmful. Each lie we bite on causes us to feel pain, lose or injure relationships, and miss out on the abundant life that God wants us to have. Lies Men Believe exposes the lies that men most commonly believe, and shows you how to combat those lies with the truth.

Lies like:

Pleasure and Entertainment Can Truly Satisfy Me

If I Mean Well, That’s Good Enough

If I Discipline My Children, They’ll Rebel.

I’m Measured by How I Compare with Other Men.

Find out how lies are holding you back from freedom, joy, and intimacy with God and others. Discover the power of the truth. Because once you fully embrace the truth, nothing is ever the

Review

Clear, engaging, well crafted. And best of all, anchored in the truth. This book is going to be life changing for a lot of men. I hope you’re one of them!

Bob Lepine

Cohost, FamilyLife Today

It was the Greeks who said great communicators embodied logos (content), ethos (ethics or integrity), and pathos (passion). Well, if that be the case, then Robert Wolgemuth has checked all three boxes in this much-needed volume, Lies Men Believe. I found my heart greatly stirred as I read these inspiring words all from a man who has built a lifetime walking with Jesus and living in authentic manhood. You will be a better man after drinking in these words.

Bryan Loritts

Lead Pastor, Abundant Life

Author of Insider, Outsider

It took a long time and some unexpected circumstances for there to be a companion volume to Lies Women Believe, but in God’s good and mysterious providence it is here at last. I’m thankful for Robert’s efforts in writing a book that so wonderfully complements Nancy’s. This book will prove to be both a challenge and a blessing to you.

Tim Challies

Blogger

When presented with the opportunity, I didn’t immediately read Robert’s manuscript. Not seeing myself as a “lie believer,” I felt no urgency. Now, I stand corrected—and grateful! Those of us who know Robert regard him as accomplished, gifted, and wise. He’s ready for anything and gracious in everything. As you will discover in this volume, he’s also candid in exploring the challenges men face. Learning from him was like a workout for the soul, leaving me convicted and inspired. There were moments when I flushed with emotion, and others that left me galvanized with resolve. Lies Men Believe is personally relevant to every manand will prompt you to do business with God—as I did. I highly recommend it.

Paul Santhouse

Publisher, Moody Publishers

The most dangerous lies are always the most alluring. They come to us in the guise of the good, the delightful, and the wise (Gen. 3:6). Thankfully, in this insightful and practical book, Robert Wolgemuth not only unmasks those lies, he teaches us how to recognize them for what they are. If only I’d had this book forty years ago!

George Grant

Pastor of Parish Presbyterian Church

Even though the most prominent word on the cover of this book is “Lies,” I know from experience that the most important word can be found in the subtitle. It’s “Truth.” This is a book about truth . . . the power of truth. Truth that sets a man free. And this truth can be found in the absolute reliability of God’s Word, the Bible.

Patrick Morley

Bestselling author and founder, Man in the Mirror

For many years, I have had the privilege of preaching the gospel . . . the good news of Jesus Christ who is, Himself, the Truth. This book, Lies Men Believe, identifies some of the awful things Satan whispers in our ears . . . lies that are shattered because of freedom that God’s grace and His truth provide. I’m thankful to Robert Wolgemuth for putting this in writing and I enthusiastically recommend this book to you.

Jack Graham

Host of PowerPoint, author, and pastor, Prestonwood Baptist Church

About the Author

PATRICK MORLEY founded Man in the Mirror in 1991 and has since impacted the lives of more than 10,000,000 men worldwide. Since 1986, he has taught a weekly Friday morning Bible study to 150 businessmen in Orlando, Florida. This study is broadcast on iTunes and webcast around the world. Pat also speaks to men daily through the Man in the Mirror radio program. He has written 16 books, including The Marriage Prayer, A Man's Guide to the Spiritual Disciplines and Pastoring Men. Pat lives in Winter Park, Florida with his wife, Patsy. They have two grown children and two granddaughters.

What if I told you that you were only one step away from unlocking new levels of maturity and growth in your church?

The myth of the silver bullet still exists because we desperately want it to. We all prefer quick fixes and bandage solutions to the long, hard, slow work that produces real change. So the moment we learn about a new ministry or strategy and see its effect in another church, we run to implement it in our own. Unfortunately, this impulse is usually met by opposition, skepticism, and ultimately rejection.

What if the solution isn't a new model or a complicated strategy but a shift in perspective? What if you could keep your church's current vision, values, and model and simply make a few microshifts...leading to macrochanges?

This book explores five microshifts that have the potential to produce macrochanges in your church. As you listen you will discover how to integrate these microshifts into the life of your church, starting with the way you disciple. You will finish by developing a plan to structure, communicate, and evaluate these changes to ensure that they take root and pave the way for lasting change and kingdom impact.

About the Author

Daniel Im is the Senior Associate Pastor of Beulah Alliance Church, a multiplying multisite church focused on reaching 1% of Edmonton for Christ. His latest book is You Are What You Do: And Six Other Lies about Work, Life, and Love. He is also the author of No Silver Bullets: Five Small Shifts that will Transform Your Ministry, and co-author of Planting Missional Churches: Your Guide to Starting Churches that Multiply (2nd ed) with Ed Stetzer.

Daniel is a speaker and leader who has traveled to cities like New York, Vancouver, Los Angeles, Sydney, and Seoul to teach, consult, and coach. He co-hosts the New Churches Q&A Podcast as well as the IMbetween Podcast, and his podcasts have been downloaded over 3 million times. He has pastored in five major cities around the world in churches ranging from 100 people to 50,000 people.

Daniel has an M.A. in Global Leadership and is a Gallup Strengths Performance Coach. He has led over 500 people through the StrengthsFinder assessment in multiple countries. He is a Maximizer, Learner, Intellection, Developer, and Strategic.

Because of their love for the local church, after pioneering and leading the church multiplication initiative for LifeWay, Daniel and his wife, Christina, moved back to Canada with their three children. For more information, visit danielim.com and follow him on social media @danielsangi.

Review

"While discipling others who will then disciple others is Jesus' master plan, defining maturity is sometimes tricky. I'm grateful that Daniel outlines a research-based, yet practical way, to understand and move people toward Christlikeness. Don't miss this."

- Robert E. Coleman, distinguished senior professor of Evangelism and Discipleship, Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, author of The Master Plan of Evangelism

"Daniel Im is a brilliant young thought leader who in No Silver Bullets offers hope to every leader by showing us five micro shifts that can bring macro changes in our churches. This book is a reality check reminding us quick fixes will not bring lasting change; but a change in perspective can usher in a new day. If you are done with easy solutions and ready for a clear path to lasting change this is the book for you!"

- Dave Ferguson, lead pastor of Community Christian Church and author of Finding Your Way Back to God and Starting Over

"There may not be a silver bullet when it comes to discipleship, but this book is a must-read bullet to put in the barrel of your disciple-making environments. Daniel Im has created an incredibly insightful and practically helpful work that I will read several times over both alone and with our team. If you're wondering how you or your church can become effective at the mission Jesus gave us, this book is for you."

- Jeff Vanderstelt, pastor at Doxa Church, visionary leader of Saturate and The Soma Family of Churches, and author of Saturate and Gospel Fluency

"No Silver Bullets is as good a read as the title is honest. Finally a new, young voice enters the fray with clear thinking, rational conclusions, and a radical call. I felt lit up, called out, and calmed down all at the same time."

- Hugh Halter, US Director of Forge America and author of The Tangible Kingdom and Flesh

"While God will complete in us the good work that He began, there are no silver bullets in our spiritual growth. And there are no silver bullets in discipling and shepherding a church. There are, however, important perspectives we may adopt that will greatly impact how we lead and the direction and development of those we lead. I am grateful for Daniel's work and believe this book will challenge and encourage you."

- Eric Geiger, vice president of LifeWay Christian Resources and coauthor of Designed to Lead and Simple Church

"I've often said that the quality of a church's leadership is directly proportional to the quality of discipleship. If you fail in the area of making disciples, you will fail in the area of leadership development. Daniel gets this as he examines the systems and pathways for discipleship in the local church. Don't miss out on this important work."

- Alan Hirsch, author of numerous books on missional Christianity including The Forgotten Ways and 5Q and founder of 100Movements and Forge

"No Silver Bullets is a refreshing effort to help church leaders guide the local church to more effective ministry. Far too many books offer over-simplified solutions and over-reaching promises. In this incredible work, Daniel reveals the necessity for church leaders to focus their efforts to faithfulness to the timeless practices of healthy churches. Every leader church should read and reread this book!"

- Kevin Peck, lead pastor of The Austin Stone Community Church and coauthor of Designed to Lead

"If the central command of the Great Commission is to make disciples, and you have a plan for marketing, facilities, and organization, but not a plan for discipleship, you have missed the point. Don't miss this important work by my friend, Daniel. In it, he will help you develop a discipleship pathway for your church by leveraging research that I was a part of."

- Ed Stetzer, Billy Graham Distinguished Chair of Church, Wheaton College

"In this important book, Daniel returns discipleship to the center of the church's ministry. The discipleship process begins in evangelism and progresses all the way through healthy involvement in a local church. Daniel, who practices what he preaches, offers practical, inspiring stories and steps to guide you through every step of this process."

- J.D. Greear, pastor of The Summit Church, Raleigh-Durham, North Carolina and author of Gaining by Losing

--This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.