Perception is so interesting and tricky.

For example, we are used to perceiving the aggressor as disruptive dominant because violence implements fear, yet even for an adult, yelling or disruptive behavior is a cry for help.

People do not reach elevation states (mental development) via punishment or aggression.

Inequality, violence, and fear simply block the expression.

In appearance, the aggressor might win by implementing fear, and will have extra free meals, and stolen objects, yet communication based on intimidation opens defense chains and always turns bad. It´s the worst way you can propel yourself into the dialog.

Tremendous efforts for winning and no possible victory, because there is a natural logic of reaching the top, and that´s connected memory, by ending trauma, never by starting it.