In this practical and challenging session from Marriage Weekender 2026, Pastor Richard Rossiter of Cornerstone Baptist Church explores the common pitfalls in conflict resolution through the lens of King Saul's failures in 1 Samuel 15. Conflict is an inevitable part of marriage, but the goal for a Christian couple is not to "win" as enemies, but to seek resolution as allies. Pastor Rossiter identifies the various ways we evade true resolution—through excuses, spiritualizing our failures, or focusing on public perception—and calls husbands and wives to embrace the humility and ownership required to build a stronger, Christ-centered relationship.

Chapters:

0:00:00 - Introduction to Conflict Resolution

0:01:21 - The Goal: Allies vs Enemies

0:03:13 - Conflict as a Source of Strength

0:05:41 - The Value of Alternative Opinions

0:07:01 - Mistake One: Avoiding Conflict Entirely

0:10:35 - All Sin Conflicts are with God

0:12:05 - Tactic One: The Assumption of Correctness

0:14:50 - Tactic Two: Excusing Failure Circumstantially

0:16:34 - Tactic Three: Spiritualizing Failure

0:18:18 - Tactic Four: Generalizing Successes

0:21:28 - Tactic Five: The Caveat Confession

0:23:13 - Tactic Six: Resolution Without Repentance

0:25:39 - Tactic Seven: Valuing Public Perception Over Private Truth

0:27:14 - The Legacy of Unresolved Conflict

0:29:43 - Choosing the Heart of David Over Saul

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