It's easy to get wrapped up, fired up and triggered when the depth of our hurt does the perceiving and thinking for us...but as A Course in Miracles shows us, the REASON we are upset is not actually linked to the current thing that's happening. The more we diminish the need to give a sliding scale to our upset, based on how much we hurt, the easier it becomes to see the gifts, find the blessings, and move through the lessons.