A men's fear in the relationship
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Fear is different from insecurity – fear is uncontrollable unpleasant energy that is triggered by actual peril or threat.
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Fear of Being Controlled and SmotheredSince most men grow up in a fatherless society with strong mothering pressure, they develop a fear of being controlled by women,
this is a common pattern and can be expressed in different ways. I have found that men value their independence and freedom.
Unfortunately, many mistake ego, narcissism, and other forms of stupidity for freedom and independence.
"You are not my mother or father, so don't tell me what I should and should not do"
They do this by being stone heads, closed to other person's ideas on doing things,
which later makes the relationship a hard place to be.
The contrary of this could be a mommas boy,a big boy who completely gives away control. Eish
2. Fear of rejection - This creates a Yes Babe guy, Yes Mem, the guy who cannot say no.
The guy who will not speak his mind frankly and is afraid of conflict.
A person who avoids the truth despite the repercussions.
Consequently, they keep their partners happy by lying about everything.
I have a question ladies: what is a guy who is at the opposite end of this stick? that would be interesting to know.
I perceive this kind of guy to be dangerous, the Perfect Match Guy, if you know that movie, you know what I mean.
Last but not least is the
3. Fear of Not Being Lovable
This is usually a trait that shows a lack in a person, people with a yearning feeling to become complete.
In the beginning, he tries hard and works overtime to make people happy. Close to the Nurse Archetype as Senzo would call it
His feelings depend on what people think and feel. There is a fundamental lack of self-worth.
I met a guy on a train while traveling to Johannesburg who once told me about a guy he knew that was in a long-distance relationship with a girl he had never met, but he would pay her rent,
give her allowance and grocery money, now me I call that witchcraft. How could you??
you need a slap of self-love if you do this as a person.
Anyway, that concludes our show tonight, this is just part one of this series.
I think we are going to have 3 episodes on this topic. So stay tuned.
The last thing, I just want to say that the BDSA has recognized the abuse that has been inflicted
onto the LGBTQIIA+ and as men we are saying this is just immoral, the killing of human beings
because they hold different views from us is unjustified.
Deepest condolences to the Khoza family.
We are inviting you to partake in bringing awareness about these immoral, criminal, and
unjustified acts that have been happening. Shout out to the rainbow dash.
Anyway, as we always say peace and love
