today I am back from hiatus with a very special guest and dear friend, ria patag. on this episode we get deep into her breakup experiences and everything from loving a porn addict, dealing with feelings of inadequacy, how to set boundaries--and most importantly--focus on yourself.

be sure to follow ria on instagram and check out her clothing brand, bolt active!

plus, for those interested in the book chop wood carry water (I do not make commissions if you purchase from this link) 

my self-love community breakup group is now accepting new members! join us on our weekly calls here

make sure you're following my tiktok and instagram, and checkout my website for all of my healing resources.

submit your ask ev questions and stories to [email protected], or comment on any of my social media posts with #askev !

now, back to you <3

*music sample credits: excited by hessel_vanO via Free Music Archive - CC BY

I've gotten a lot of requests on how to effectively co-parent while you're going through a breakup, since no-contact is not an option. coming from a child of divorce, much of this episode is based on what I witnessed from my parents while I was growing up, coupled with what I've learned in my training to be a coach.

co-parenting resources mentioned in this episode (I am not affiliated with any of thee platforms):
https://www.ourfamilywizard.ca/
https://www.cozi.com/
https://talkingparents.com/home
https://www.2houses.com/en/

my self-love community breakup group is now accepting new members! join us on our weekly calls here

make sure you're following my tiktok and instagram, and checkout my website for all of my healing resources.

submit your ask ev questions and stories to [email protected], or comment on any of my social media posts with #askev !

now, back to you <3

*music sample credits: excited by hessel_vanO via Free Music Archive - CC BY

this month's segment of ask ev answers questions like, do cheaters change? do all men in their 20s have commitment issues? how to be friends with your ex, how to get back together and manage expectations. why did my ex ghost me? and why am I still ruminating after a year?

if you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, it is more than okay to reach out for help, you don't need to go through it alone.

canadian mental health crisis line: 1-833-456-4566
kids help phone canada: https://kidshelpphone.ca/ 1-800-668-6868
american mental health crisis line: 988
american crisis text line: text HOME to 741-741
american youth line: 877-968-8491 or text teen2teen to 839863
more mental health crisis lines by country: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

my self-love community breakup group is now accepting new members! join us on our weekly calls here

make sure you're following my tiktok and instagram, and checkout my website for all of my healing resources.

submit your ask ev questions and stories to [email protected], or comment on any of my social media posts with #askev !

now, back to you <3

*music sample credits: excited by hessel_vanO via Free Music Archive - CC BY

this week's episode gets into the complexities of people pleasing, how it affects all kinds of relationships, and how you can start to transform yourself from pushover to powerhouse. 

my self-love community breakup group is now accepting new members! join us on our weekly calls here

make sure you're following my tiktok and instagram, and checkout my website for all of my healing resources.

submit your ask ev questions and stories to [email protected], or comment on any of my social media posts with #askev !

now, back to you <3

*music sample credits: excited by hessel_vanO via Free Music Archive - CC BY

this week's episode gets into how you can rebuild your confidence after going through a breakup, no matter what the circumstances were. plus a little on dating again!

find the exercise I mention in the episode here on my instagram <3

my self-love community breakup group is now accepting new members! join us on our weekly calls here

make sure you're following my tiktok and instagram, and checkout my website for all of my healing resources.

submit your ask ev questions and stories to [email protected], or comment on any of my social media posts with #askev !

now, back to you <3

*music sample credits: excited by hessel_vanO via Free Music Archive - CC BY

this month's segment of ask ev is a week early because I can't read calendars apparently! this month we get into how to answer the "why" questions about your breakup, getting over the fear of your next relationship not working out, dealing with the failure of your relationship, how to stop delaying no-contact and when can no-contact end. plus, should you keep the letters your ex wrote to you?

my self-love community breakup group is now accepting new members! join us on our weekly calls here

make sure you're following my tiktok and instagram, and checkout my website for all of my healing resources.

submit your ask ev questions and stories to [email protected], or comment on any of my social media posts with #askev !

now, back to you <3

*music sample credits: excited by hessel_vanO via Free Music Archive - CC BY

this episode is a little bit different; this week we take a look at the internet phenomenon known as the "red pill" community, and how this loud and proud group has influenced our conversation on gender roles, casual sex, and dating. 

my self-love community breakup group is now accepting new members! join us on our weekly calls here

make sure you're following my tiktok and instagram, and checkout my website for all of my healing resources.

submit your ask ev questions and stories to [email protected], or comment on any of my social media posts with #askev !

now, back to you <3

*music sample credits: excited by hessel_vanO via Free Music Archive - CC BY

this week's episode gets into the mindset on how to cope with being "discarded" or "disposed of" by someone. maybe they broke up with you in a really cold way, maybe they moved on quickly, cheated on you, or you just really have the feeling that they used you for emotional validation and disposed of you when they got what they needed.

whatever it may be, i'm sure this episode has something for you <3

my self-love community breakup group is now accepting new members! join us on our weekly calls here

make sure you're following my tiktok and instagram, and checkout my website for all of my healing resources.

submit your ask ev questions and stories to [email protected], or comment on any of my social media posts with #askev !

now, back to you <3

*music sample credits: excited by hessel_vanO via Free Music Archive - CC BY

this episode cover's a bit of the neuroscience of breakups based on a 2005 study form Anthropologist Helen Fisher, and how to use that information to accept what you're going through. 

my self-love community breakup group is now accepting new members! join us on our weekly calls here

make sure you're following my tiktok and instagram, and checkout my website for all of my healing resources.

submit your ask ev questions and stories to [email protected], or comment on any of my social media posts with #askev !

now, back to you <3

*music sample credits: excited by hessel_vanO via Free Music Archive - CC BY

part 4 of the ask ev segment gets into some important questions from y'all; "why am I still thinking of him after 10 years?" "what if we didn't agree to no contact, it just happened and there was no actual closure?" and, "why am I dreaming about my ex?"

you can find the breakup healing dopamine menu I mentioned on my instagram, here!

my self-love community breakup group is now accepting new members! join us on our weekly calls here

make sure you're following my tiktok and instagram, and checkout my website for all of my healing resources.

submit your ask ev questions and stories to [email protected], or comment on any of my social media posts with #askev !

now, back to you <3

*music sample credits: excited by hessel_vanO via Free Music Archive - CC BY