Bad Girl Gone Good

Finish out your year feeling the way you want to feel.

Ahhhh, fall is in the air. Don't you just love that feeling of coziness partnered with a renewed sense of getting shit done? Sweaters, boots, soup, dark beer, bonfires, pumpkins, changing leaves, brisk days, and all things Halloween. I love all of these things because they make me feel a certain way. 

 

 

And as I set my goals and intentions for the remainder of the year, I used this concept as my guide. The concept of 'Start With How You Want To Feel' from Danielle Laporte. Her book, The Desire Map, helped me decide what I’m going to do. And even more importantly - what I’m not going to do. 

 

 

So, to help you finish out your year working on and working towards doing things that will make you feel the way you want to feel, I share three of my favorite nuggets from her book with you.  

 

 

I truly hope they help you as much as they’ve helped me. I’ve had some new opportunities come up and some tough decisions to make. Which includes putting the Bad Girl Gone Good Podcast on hold - by far the toughest decision I had to make. And what I share in this episode was huge in helping me to do so.

 

 

Now, I highly recommend reading the whole book. But this alone should help lead you in the direction of simply feeling good. Because feeling good is the primary intention. 

There's light swearing in this one.Music: Kidmental @ patreon.com/kidmental

Are you living a life that's true to you? OR did you wake up one morning wondering how did I get here?

My favorite show growing up in the 80’s was Who’s the Boss which starred a smart and funny female advertising executive named Angela Bower. It seemed like she had it “all” including a hunky male housekeeper working for her. And I wanted to be just like her when I grew up. The big career, the big house, and a man working for me. At least that’s what I thought I wanted.

Music: Kidmental @ patreon.com/kidmental

Why you should take a lesson from your seven year old self.

As children we were able to write our stories full of personality, full of heart, and most likely full of mistakes. And that’s because the mistakes didn’t matter much at age seven. What mattered was the story. And so it should be with life.

Music: Kidmental @ patreon.com/kidmental

Do you remember being young and always asking why?

Do you remember trying to make sense of all of the rules? OMG — there were so many rules. Back when I was a teen, I was the worst at times. I could be super defiant and quite disrespectful. But there were times when I used my rebellious nature for good. Even to change the course of my future. It all started with my non-existent archery skills in gym class.

I drop an F bomb in this one.Music: Kidmental @ patreon.com/kidmental

Have you ever considered that your confidence can actually screw you over?

There's a fine line between confident and over-confident. I learned this valuable life lesson back when I was 15. I thought I was hot shit with my big earrings and even bigger hair. And then I got arrested.

I drop an F bomb in this one.Music: Kidmental @ patreon.com/kidmental

Do you remember the first time you stood up for yourself?

I’m talking about the first time you had to confront someone face to face. Not through email, social media, or over the phone. The time when you stood tall, looked them in the eye, and spoke directly. I’ll never forget my first time. It was the summer heading into 9th grade when I found my power.

There’s light swearing in this one.Music: Kidmental @ patreon.com/kidmental

Not wanting a wedding didn’t make me weird but this did.

I always felt weird because I didn’t care if I ever got married. Not to mention, I thought weddings required way too much work for only a few hours of attention that I didn’t even want. I know I’m not alone and if you’re like me, I want you to know that you aren’t alone. I have several friends over the age of 40 who aren’t married and they’re quite happy. However, I did end up getting married. But not in the way most girls dream of.

There's no swearing in this one!Music: Kidmental @ patreon.com/kidmental

I’m over it and I hope you are too.

I don’t know about you but I’m so tired of worrying about being judged! I don’t worry about people judging my decisions and actions per se. BUT I still do occasionally worry about being judged for who I am as a person. And that’s way worse! The constant messaging while growing up to not “BRAG” really took its toll on me. It is some deep seated shit. And I have a few personality traits that I’m super aware of when I’m with people who aren’t like me. 

 

 

Well, I’m over it and I hope you are too. All it does is shrink all of the unique and wonderful things about you. If you totally know what I’m sayin' and you’re with me, I have two part challenge for you. Listen to the latest episode to take the challenge and stop shrinking yourself!

Heads up – I drop "F" bombsMusic: Kidmental @ patreon.com/kidmental

Screw fear and do it anyway.

Fear is so powerful. It stops you from taking chances and trying anything new. It makes you hide. You don’t stand up for yourself, for others, or for what you believe in. As a result you become stagnant and bored and resentful and frustrated. You feel powerless and like you have no sense of purpose. And that’s a very difficult station in life. So, what do you do? Check out the latest episode to hear how my mom taught me to screw fear and do it anyway.

 

Heads up – there's very light swearing.

Music: Kidmental @ patreon.com/kidmental

We can build a voice of equality and inclusion that’s bigger and louder than hate.

Think about who’s listening to you. What do the people who look up to you look like? They look like you, right?  This means you have an opportunity to do something really special. Check out the latest episode to hear what it is, why I'm not going to talk about female empowerment, and why my grandma was the biggest badass I've ever known.

 

Heads up – there's very light swearing.

Music: Kidmental @ patreon.com/kidmental