This episode helps Black women understand why they are single and how they can shift their focus from pursuing men to fulfilling their divine mission. All good things, including love, come from God, but through people. Learning and (unlearning) how to see your true worth is the key to being happy in spite of your marital status. *Tony Gaskins, Jr., Dr. Eric Thomas, and Jason Wilson, the author of Cry Like A Man, and Dr. Dale C. Bronner, Bishop of Word of Faith Family Worship Center are four examples of righteous Black men cited in this episode. Listen and learn. 

*These men are mentioned because they have national platforms and their materials are easily accessible to a wide audience via books and YouTube. Please note that there are countless other righteous Black men and if you know one, share their information with others. 

Learn how you can avoid stress, disease, pain, and death by NOT getting intimately involved with people merely based on "attraction". Attraction is not enough to have and/or build a strong relationship. Therefore, it is important to not form intimate liaisons with people based on a single attribute or characteristic that we find attractive. To protect yourself from unnecessary trouble, stress and pain, ask yourself is he cute or caring? Is he fine or fatal? Is he kind or a killer? Is he responsible or reckless? Is he helping you or hurting you? Only move beyond attraction when you and the other person share the same values and character and relationship goals.

Attraction is not enough to have and/or build a strong relationship. Therefore, it is important to not form intimate liaisons with people based on a single attribute or characteristic that we find attractive. To protect yourself from unnecessary trouble, stress and pain, ask yourself is he cute or caring? Is he fine or fatal? Is he kind or a killer? Is he responsible or reckless? Is he helping you or hurting you? Only move beyond attraction when you and the other person share the same values and character and relationship goals. 

While it is good to seek out wise counsel, we must make sure that we are not merely searching for cosigners, people who agree with us and convince us that what we are doing is okay when it might not be. Learn how to connect with the "best counselor" before making major decisions, solving problems...

The word, "can't" is as dangerous as a poisonous snake or hungry lion; do not allow it to enter your vocabulary. Fight the word, "can't" with all your might and armor yourself with its opposite, the word, "CAN". Inspired by the poem, "Can't" by Edgar A. Guest. Listen and learn.

God had enough sense to perfectly place the sun in our galaxy so that humans on Earth do not burn or freeze to death. When He made you, He knew exactly what he was doing. Please do not let anyone convince you that you need to attempt to permanently alter something about yourself. Instead of wasting time, money, and effort trying to alter yourself, learn how to quiet and transform the deceptive thoughts in your head. Avoid the suffering and irreversible damage that many experience when they later discover that "changing" did NOT make them feel better; it only compounded and exacerbated their mental and physical pain. When you heal your mind, you learn that our loving God did not make a mistake when He created you. Moreover, He would never cause you to mutilate and/or harm yourself. Inner peace is possible. Listen and learn. 

It is exhausting and often painful to change how God made you. Acceptance and surrendering to God's providence leads to preternatural peace. Listen and learn. 

Knowing your true worth is the key to living your best life. This episode is a continuation of "Priceless: Lessons for Understanding Your True Worth" (aired on September 19, 2022)

Two systems operate 24/7 and 365 days a year. One focuses on the physical, material, carnal... The other system involves the spiritual, the intrinsic, what is in our minds and hearts. When you understand that your identity and worth are determined by your connection to God's system, you are free from feeling less than others because of conditions and circumstances. Listen and learn.

Breakups are painful, however they do not have to lead to disaster and death. If you were living before a relationship, you can continue to live after it dissolves. Learn what to do when a relationship ends. www.badthoughttherapy.com.