Inner Skilled

Balancing Ambition & Motherhood: Career Coaching, Parenting and Resilience with Melissa Llarena


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Melissa Llarena is a career coach with 14 years of experience helping high-achieving corporate professionals worldwide. Melissa shares her pivot during the pandemic from corporate coaching to integrating meditation and mindfulness after relocating to Australia with her family. Now back in the U.S., she uses these practices to navigate intense life challenges like caring for aging parents and raising three sons (including identical twins). The conversation explores balancing ambition with reality—stressing practical tools like meditation, breathwork, and exercise to fuel big dreams without burnout. We discuss the "sweet spot" between obligations (bills, family) and bold goals, the paradoxes of stress in high-stakes jobs, and holding conflicting emotions (e.g., grief and gratitude). A key focus is motherhood: Melissa debunks the "career woman vs. stay-at-home mom" binary, sharing her iterative approach to work-life integration, identity struggles, societal biases (e.g., no Forbes list for moms), and the biological/psychological shifts of parenting. She emphasizes supportive partnerships through communication and adaptability. Melissa promotes her book Fertile Imagination, corporate mindfulness/resilience programs (Resilient and Relaxed Leader), and ends with an empowering message for moms: "You don't need anyone to tell you you're significant." Josh closes by honoring mothers' contributions and inherent worth.


0:00 - Intro & Welcome: Josh Introduces Melissa Llarena

0:26 - Melissa's Background: 14 Years in Career Coaching High-Achievers

0:58 - Pandemic Pivot: Relocating to Australia & Discovering Meditation

2:22 - My Meditation Practice Since 2012 & Applying It to Daily Life

3:04 - The Stress Spectrum: Corporate Burnout vs. Practical Realities

4:58 - Finding the Sweet Spot: Obligations, Dreams, and Grounding Tools

6:07 - Family Adventure in Australia: "Irresponsible but Responsible"

7:04 - Fueling Ambition: Wild Dreams Like Placing Book in Library of Alexandria

8:38 - Anchors in Reality: Meditation, Breathwork, Workouts for Endurance

9:13 - Trade-Offs: Quitting Corporate Job in 2011 for Flexibility

10:40 - Meditation vs. Positive Thinking: Creating Space for Dual Realities

12:12 - Practical Mindfulness: Loving-Kindness at Trader Joe's

13:23 - Holding Paradox: Acknowledging Pain While Uplifting the Mind

15:34 - Mom Life Balance: Career Woman or Stay-at-Home? Why Not Both?

16:17 - Iterative Parenting: From One Kid to Twins & Sleep Deprivation

17:10 - Pre-Kid "Perfect Parent" Illusions vs. Biological Brain Changes

19:07 - Identity Struggles: Martyr Mom, Working Mom, Societal Expectations

20:40 - Choices & Disruptions: Career Interruptions, Therapy vs. Kid Time

22:34 - Societal Bias: No Forbes List for Stay-at-Home Moms

23:44 - Costs of Ambition: Ego, Expenses, and Questioning "Needs"

25:48 - Supportive Partners: Listening, Adapting to Changing Needs

27:51 - Melissa's Offerings: Book *Fertile Imagination*, Corporate Programs

29:31 - Parting Message: Moms, You Are Significant Without Validation

30:35 - Closing: Honoring Mothers & Inherent Worth


https://www.melissallarena.com/fertileideas/


Book: Fertile Imagination: Every Mom's Superpower – https://www.amazon.com/Fertile-Imagination-Stretching-Superpower-Maximum/dp/B0CK2ZSMLB


LinkedIn: Melissa Llarena (connect and mention "Josh sent me" or the podcast) – https://linkedin.com/in/melissallarena


Corporate Program: Resilient and Relaxed Leader (mindfulness + resilience training for companies/employee wellness)


https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena

https://www.youtube.com/@CareerOutcomesMatter

https://twitter.com/CareerOutcomes

https://www.facebook.com/melissa.llarenadiaz


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Inner SkilledBy josh dippold