The masculine grows by challenge, but the feminine grows by praise. A man must be known unabashed and expressed in his appreciation for his women. Praise her freely - David Deida

"Keeping your word" is a masculine trait, in men or women. A person with a feminine essence may not keep her word, yet it is not exactly "lying." In the feminine reality, words and facts take a second place to emotions and the shifting moods of relationship. When she says, I hate you or ill never move to Texas or I don't want to go the movies it is often more a reflection of a transient feeling wave than a well considered stance with respect to events and experience. On the other hand, the masculine means what it says. A mans word is his honor. The feminine says what it feels. A women's word is her true expression at the moment - David Deida

A women often seems to test her mans capacity to remain unperturbed in his truth and purpose. She test him to feel his freedom and depth of love, to know that he is trustable. Her tests may come in the form of complaining, challenging him, changing her mind, doubting him, distracting him, changing her mind, doubting him, or even undermining his purpose in a subtle or not so subtle way. A man should never think his women's testing is going to end and his life will get easier. Rather. he should appreciate that she does these things to feel his strength, integrity, and openness. Her desire is for his deepest truth and love. As he grows, so will be her testing - David Deida

Whatever the specifics of a man's purpose, he must always refresh the transcendental element of his life through regular meditation and retreat. A man should never get lost in the details of his life and forget that, ultimately and in the truth, life amounts to nothing other than what is the deepest truth of this present moment. Task don't get a man anywhere more conscious or free than he is capable of being in this present moment - David Deida.

If a man never discovers his deepest purpose, or if he permanently compromises it and uses his family as an excuse for doing so, then his core becomes weakened and he loses depth and presence. His women loses trust and sexual polarity with him, even though he may be putting much energy into parenting their children and doing housework. A man should, of course, be a full participant in caring for children and the household. But if he gives up his deepest purpose to do so, ultimately, everyone sufferers - David Deida

A man must be prepared to give 100% to his purpose, fulfill his karma or dissolve it, and then let go of that specific form of living. He must be capable of not knowing what to do with his life, entering a period of unknowingness and waiting for a vision or a new form of purpose to emerge. These cycles of strong specific action followed by periods of not knowing what the hell is going on are natural for a man who is shedding layers of karma in his relaxation into truth - David Deida

Without a conscious life-purpose a man is totally lost, drifting, adapting to events rather than creating events. Without knowing his life-purpose a man lives a weakened, impotent existence, perhaps eventually becoming sexually impotent, or prone to mechanical and disinterested sex - David Deida

A mans capacity to receive another man's direct criticism is a measure of his capacity to receive masculine energy - David Deida

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The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his women: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openness, and depth - David Deida.

In any given moment, a mans's growth is optimized if he leans just beyond his edge, his capacity, his fear. - David Deida

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