What does it really mean to "be yourself"?
In this episode, Tricia speaks with Meredith Walker about her new book and the deeper work of self-discovery. Meredith's motto, "get your hair wet," becomes the perfect entry point for a conversation about joining the moment instead of protecting the version of ourselves we think we need to present.
Together, they explore why identity is not something we solve once, but something we keep returning to. Meredith shares how her work with young people, storytelling, comedy, friendship, and even dogs has shaped the way she thinks about confidence, connection, and becoming.
This conversation is especially useful for educators, families, and anyone supporting adolescents as they ask bigger questions about who they are, what matters to them, and how they want to move through the world.
In this episode, we discuss:
Why "just be yourself" is not enough guidance for young people
How self-discovery changes as we meet new people and gain new experiences
Why rethinking success matters at every age
What storytelling can offer young people who need to feel seen and heard
How comedy helps us loosen shame and make room for play
Why friendship can be a bridge to deeper self-understanding
The role of face-to-face connection in a digital world
What dogs can teach us about attention, love, and belonging
Memorable moments:
00:01 — Meredith explains the story behind her motto, "get your hair wet"
01:13 — Why being yourself requires reflection, not just confidence
03:32 — Rethinking success beyond career ladders and external approval
04:13 — Meredith shares a powerful story from a storytelling workshop with girls living in a Syrian refugee camp
06:02 — What good listening makes possible
07:07 — How comedy helps us question the scripts we take too seriously
09:46 — Why trying something badly can still help us grow
12:00 — Meredith reflects on creating across TV, radio, podcasts, digital work, and books
13:11 — How the book can become a bridge for friendship
14:35 — Dog wisdom, connection, and the most loving version of ourselves
Pull quotes:
"Get your hair wet" is really an invitation to stop guarding your look and join the moment.
Identity is not a one-time answer. It is a conversation we keep returning to.
Sometimes success is not the next step on a ladder. Sometimes it is helping someone feel seen enough to tell their story.
Comedy can help us loosen shame and make room for becoming.
Friendship helps us find ourselves more interesting.
Dogs remind us that connection does not always require perfect language.
For educators and families:
This episode offers a gentle but powerful way to talk with young people about identity. Instead of asking them to simply "be themselves," we can help them build the habits that make self-understanding possible: reflection, curiosity, humor, friendship, storytelling, and care.
Meredith's work invites us to give young people better questions, not just better advice.
Listen for this question:
What would change if we treated "be yourself" not as a slogan, but as a practice?
Learn more about the summit mentioned at the top of the episode:
https://www.sidecarcounsel.com/
Connect with Bridget:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/bridget-mcnamer/