Why do we always fantasize about being someone else?

Have you ever watched a tv show or a movie and then wanted to be like the character you just spent time watching? Think about it, we have done this since we were kids.

Watch a superman movie and then spend the rest of the afternoon running around the house with a cape made of an old sheet.

Watch the Fast and Furious and the race our 93 Astro van like it’s a 2020 Bugatti.

Okay, maybe that last one is just me.

The funny thing is we seem to always be pulled in the direction of being like others vs embracing the traits that make us amazing.

Why is this? Why do we have such a hard time with the grass being greener on the other side?

Today on social media this phenomenon run rampant. We play an ever increasing mental game of keeping up with the Joneses or wishing we had someone else’s life.

If there’s anything in life that we need to pay attention to and figure out how to manage it is this strange fact.

You see the more time we spend thinking about being like others is less time we can be ourselves. And the truth of the matter is that the world needs you to be you.

You are wonderfully made. You have lived a life that has crafted you into a special being who thinks, acts, walks, and talks, like no one else on this planet.

You are amazing, You are special. You are enough.

So instead of looking outward at all the others around you, spend time today looking inward.

Ask yourself what do you do that makes you you. Then embrace it. Nurture it. Focus on it. 

Understand that these things are the things that make you your authentic self.

Be your authentic self!

To do this, you are going to need to win the battle in your brain. You are going to need to start thinking differently. Your focus will have to be readjusted.

To start, to be authentic, to be yourself, you need to embrace being vulnerable.

You need to understand that by being authentic you are putting yourself out there and that sometimes people may say or do things that may sting. But, you have to be willing to chance it.

If you walk around this world guarded you can’t be yourself, you can’t be authentic.

With that said, you will also need to be best friends with forgiveness. You see if people say or do those things, and they will. You might start to hold it in or hold it against them.

This will start to fester and you will find yourself being and feeling negative. This is not your authentic self. This is a symptom bubbling up from not unpacking or forgiving other humans for making the mistakes they all make. The mistakes we ourselves have made.

Last but not least, you are going to need to add in a heavy dose of not caring about how others think. You can not be the perception of what others think you should be if you are truly going to be yourself. If you are going to be authentic

We need to focus on living up to our own expectations of yourself, not the expectations of others.

So today, make a vow with yourself to step off the treadmill of judging yourself. Of trying to measure up. Of comparison to others.

And be yourself. Be the best authentic version of you that you can be.

Because when you do, you will thank yourself and the world wil thank you as well.

Because they will see who you are,