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What do you do when you’re not invited, added to the group chat, or included in the plans?

Instead of spending all your energy trying to get people to choose you, what if you took your power back?

Start your own group chat. Make your own plans. Invite someone else. Look around for people who might need a friend. You might meet some of your best friends when you stop chasing the people who aren’t choosing you.

You get to decide what it means when someone doesn’t pick you. It doesn’t have to mean you’re not good enough or that you don’t matter.

In this episode, we’re talking about getting outside of yourself, taking initiative, and realizing you don’t have to wait around to be chosen.

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Have you ever had someone say something that made you suddenly question yourself?

One comment can send your brain into a spiral: “Was I embarrassing? Did I do something wrong? What do they think of me?”

That happened to me recently, and it reminded me of something I teach all the time: someone else’s opinion is not a fact about you.

In this episode, I’m sharing what happened, how my brain reacted, and how I had to remind myself that I get to decide what I make someone else’s words mean.

We’ll talk about embarrassment, other people’s opinions, getting stuck in your head, and how to stop letting someone else’s thoughts become your story.

Because you can’t control what other people think about you.

But you CAN choose what you think about you. ❤️

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What if confidence isn’t something you’re born with… but something you build?

In this episode, JoDee breaks down the surprising connection between confidence, identity, and knowing who you are. She shares research involving hundreds of teenagers that found something fascinating: helping teens connect with their personal values and identity can actually help protect their self-esteem.

You’ll learn why trying to look confident isn’t the same as actually feeling confident, how to stop letting other people’s opinions determine how you feel about yourself, and how to start building evidence that you are the person you want to be.

Because real confidence isn’t about walking into a room and hoping everyone notices you.

It’s walking into the room knowing who you are.

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Done Is Better Than Perfect

Do you ever get so stuck trying to make something perfect that you end up not doing it at all?

Maybe you keep rewriting the assignment, overthinking the text, waiting until you feel ready, or telling yourself you’ll start when you can do it “right.”

In this episode, we’re talking about perfectionism and how the need to get everything just right can actually keep you stuck. I’ll show you how to recognize all-or-nothing thinking, calm yourself down when you feel overwhelmed, and start moving forward even when things aren’t perfect.

Because you can always go back and make something better. You can fix it. You can change your mind. You can try again.

But you can’t make progress on something you’re too afraid to start.

So this is your permission to do it imperfectly, make progress, and learn as you go.

Done is better than perfect.

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Have you ever been at school and thought, “I literally cannot do this. I need to go home”?

If you have, this episode is for you.

I’m talking about something I see with teens all the time: the anxiety → escape → relief cycle.

You feel anxious.
 You leave.
 You feel better.

So your brain learns, “Leaving worked!”

But then the next time you’re anxious, your brain wants to escape even faster.

I share the story of a girl I worked with who was leaving school almost every day because she was anxious. At first, going home made her feel better. But eventually she was behind in her classes, missing assignments, worried about her grades, and even MORE anxious about school.

The thing that changed everything wasn’t changing her classes, finding her a new friend group, or making school easier.

We changed how she responded to the anxiety.

Because you don’t have to make anxiety disappear before you move forward.

You can learn:

“I can feel anxious and still stay.”
“I can feel uncomfortable and still do hard things.”
“Anxiety doesn’t get to decide what I’m capable of.”

🎧 Listen to the newest episode of Be Real with JoDee — especially if you’ve ever felt like running away was the only way to feel better.

You might be more capable than your anxiety has been telling you. ❤️

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What if the thing holding you back isn’t that you’re not capable… but that you’ve already decided how it’s going to turn out?

In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between optimism and pessimism and why being pessimistic can feel like you’re just being “realistic” or protecting yourself, when sometimes it’s actually keeping you from trying, growing, and staying in the game.

As you head into a new school year, this matters. Maybe your schedule isn’t what you hoped for. Maybe you don’t have classes with your friends. Maybe you’re worried about making new friends, harder classes, or whether you’ll be able to handle everything.

But what if it all works out?

Not because you sit back and hope for the best but because believing things can work out changes how you show up. Optimism gives you the courage to try, the resilience to keep going, and the willingness to do the work required to create the life you want.

You don’t have to know exactly how everything will happen. You just have to believe there is a way forward.

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Do you ever feel like everyone else is naturally confident except you?

In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest myths about confidence: that some people are just born with it. The truth is confidence isn’t a personality trait. It’s a skill you build.

We’ll talk about why confident people still feel nervous, why waiting to feel ready keeps you stuck, and how confidence actually comes after you take action, not before.

I’ll also give you a simple challenge you can use this week to start building real confidence in school, sports, friendships, dating, or any situation that feels uncomfortable.

If you’ve been waiting to feel confident before you do the thing, this episode is for you.

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 Dreading camp this summer?Thinking:

 “It’s going to be boring.”

 “I won’t know anyone.”

 “What if I don’t fit in?”

In this week’s episode of Be Real with JoDee, I’m sharing simple confidence hacks to help you survive camp, make friends, handle homesickness, and actually enjoy yourself even if you don’t want to go.

Because confidence isn’t feeling comfortable.

Confidence is being willing to feel uncomfortable and still participate in your life.

And here’s the truth:

 Camp’s not fun. You’re fun! 

Listen now and send this to a friend who’s being forced to go to camp this summer!

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Do you ever walk into a room and immediately start thinking:

“Say something.”

“Don’t be awkward.”

“Be more social.”

And then suddenly your mind goes blank?

In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’re talking about why forcing yourself to “be social” actually creates more anxiety and overthinking. I’ll teach you a simple mindset shift that helps calm your nervous system, stop the pressure, and make conversations feel more natural.

One of the biggest confidence mistakes teens make is believing they HAVE to perform socially to be accepted. But confidence actually grows when your body feels safe, not pressured.

In this episode we talk about:

• Why your brain freezes in conversations

• The hidden pressure that creates social anxiety

• A simple “social anxiety hack” to calm your body fast

• How to stop overthinking what to say

• Why confident people don’t force conversations

• How to feel more like yourself around other people

If you’ve ever felt awkward, anxious, quiet, or stuck in your head socially, this episode is for you.

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What if the reason you feel stuck, unmotivated, or overwhelmed… isn’t because your goal is too hard?

In this episode, I’m breaking down something that will change the way you see your brain forever:

 Your brain doesn’t care what’s true.

 It believes whatever you repeat.

So if you keep thinking “I can’t do this” or “this is too hard,” your brain will accept that as fact and you’ll start showing up like it’s true.

That’s why you procrastinate.

That’s why you avoid your goals.

That’s why you end up proving your own thoughts right.

But here’s the good news: you can change it.

I’ll show you how to:

• Understand why overwhelm actually happens
• Stop believing every thought your brain gives you
• Choose thoughts on purpose that help you feel motivated
• Take small, doable action (even when it feels uncomfortable)
• Start creating results you actually want

If you’ve ever felt stuck, lazy, or like you just can’t follow through… this episode will show you what’s really going on and how to change it.

Because confidence and motivation don’t come from your circumstances…

they come from the thoughts you practice.