Be the Bigger Person

Vanessa and I had a conversation so good that it couldn't be cut down just to one episode. In this part 2, she chronicles the crisis she and her husband navigated as they watched the health of their much-awaited newborn baby take a turn into a life or death situation, and all that happened before and after. Whether or not you are a parent or can relate to a similar situation, she shares so much for all of us about processing trauma, supporting others in their time of need, and walking in spiritual authority.

Our conversation includes:

• The emotional roller-coaster and isolation in having a miscarriage
• Fielding hurtful comments from other people who don’t know what you’re walking through
• Going through the pregnancy journey at the height of the pandemic
• Minimizing your loss or grief because you assume someone else’s situation is worse
• Walking through a life or death health crisis as an immigrant
• Aligning yourself with the Holy Spirit and taking spiritual authority over a situation
• Fostering a healthy relationship with your spouse for balance and support through trauma
• Unknowingly holding onto the heaviness, grief, and “what ifs” within your body

If you haven't yet listened to our part 1 in episode 45, I encourage you to listen before coming back to this episode.

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We all talk about it, no matter what our relationship status is... singleness, dating, relationships, marriage, situationships, etc. And yet honestly I find that sometimes singleness is viewed as the place no one wants to be and we all desperately try to get out of.

What I have found through the last almost 33 years of singleness is that there is such beauty in a season of being single and there is so much those who are dating, engaged, or married can (and should) learn from their single friends.

Some of the things we talk about are:

• Seeing singleness as a gift and finding contentment and purpose in it... while still very much desiring a relationship
• Making your single friends feel like a third wheel or outsider, if you are in a relationship
• Knowing your dating non-negotiables... and knowing when to be flexible in them
• Wanting to be pursued but not wanting to just be a sitting duck as a woman
• Feeling the pressure in a relationship to know if someone is the one… especially if you’re waiting to sleep together
• Telling someone a relationship success story similar to their situation to give them hope… and if we actually should
• Maintaining friendships when your relationship status changes
• Becoming your healthiest while you are single

No matter what your relationship status, I can pretty much guarantee there is something in this episode for you.

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Let's talk about dating and marriage...

Even before Vanessa and I began our conversation, I just had a feeling it would be one full of wisdom, inspiration, and conviction... and it did not disappoint. Vanessa didn't have the most clear-cut road to finding her now-husband Michael, and she shares all about her journey with such honesty.

If you have been through even one "we're talking" situationship, have been asked "why aren't you married yet?", have doubted if you'll find someone as you get older, or have feared commitment or marriage, I want to especially encourage you to tune in for this conversation. I think you'll really resonate with it.

Some topics we talk about are...

• Understanding how commitment precedes intimacy in a relationship
• Losing yourself through non-committal situationships and “talking”
• Focusing on personal growth during your singleness
• Turning back to the holistic view of what God intended marriage and family to be
• Navigating societal expectations of finding someone
• Answering the question of “why aren’t you married?”, especially when you’re older
• Allowing time passing to make you jaded from what you once wanted
• Remaining steady and devoted if your partner puts up walls
• Continuing counseling and health through a relationship

If you'd love to hear from Vanessa and Michael and their organization more, check out www.firmisrael.org.

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We've talked a lot about how to process grief when someone you love dies... but what about when your dreams die? We all have expectations and plans for our lives that are so important to us. What does it look like to process when they end or simply don't happen?

In this episode, we talk about...

• My own experience leaving behind what I held as my identity
• Looking back and seeing the hidden purpose for change we couldn't have otherwise predicted
• Grieving what we thought would happen that isn't
• Navigating through the situations you would have never chosen for yourself
• Supporting your friends or family through their unmet expectations
• Praying very specific bold prayers into the unknown future

... plus I share 4 super applicable ways to deal with all of this that you can implement immediately.

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Whether you call it multitasking, doing two things at once, or just straight up busyness... we all do it. We scroll through social media while watching TV. We reply to emails while waiting to pick up the kids. We listen to music while walking to the dog. We clean up while talking on the phone. Our brains are almost always doing at least two things (if not more!) at once.

... But should we?

In this episode, we talk about...

• How multitasking negatively affects our faith
• How to rest efficiently
• How our brains actually process doing multiple things at once... and if it's good or bad for you
• How to clear out our minds
• How to have a devotional dump zone
• How to still get it all done if we aren't doing a bunch of things at once... and if it's even possible!

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"Think of the things that you would say about somebody at their funeral and say it now to them while they're still with you."

I had this thought a few weeks ago and had to ask myself why we wait until someone dies to openly share all of the things we love and admire about them.

We all probably want to encourage others, but we rarely allow extended space to build others up and be vulnerable in that. As I processed through this, I couldn't help but record an episode about it. Some of the thoughts I share are...

• How to hype others up in a meaningful way
• How to not feel awkward about giving genuine compliments
• Why we feel like being vulnerable with someone makes us seem less or weak
• How to foster your gift of encouragement
• How to find the good in people and praise it
• What is holding us back from openly sharing what we appreciate about someone else
• How to get over the awkwardness of expressing what someone means to us
• How to allow yourself to receive encouragement

If you seek to empower others and point out the good in others more, as well as be open to receiving it yourself, then this is the episode for you.

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What an incredible way to kick off season 3!

This episode with Misha is so powerful. Going into our conversation, I knew I wanted to talk to her about one thing and we covered so much more! There is something in this episode for everyone, regardless of whether you're a parent or not, or have experienced loss or not. In our conversation, we talk about...

• The grief of infertility and miscarriage
• Expecting an answer from the Lord that doesn't come in your timeline
• How to hear the Holy Spirit's whispers
• Being sensitive in talking to your friends who are hoping for and trying for something that has yet to come
• The heartbreak of having to see other people receive what you're waiting for
• Surrendering control to the Lord
• Navigating the crossroads between the paths of life and death
• Recognizing that there is a time for everything

As you're processing through the wisdom in this episode, go get Misha's new album and stay connected with her in all that she does. Not only is her insight in this episode a gift, but so is her music!

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