Life presents us with many choices. You know that. There is no need for me to give you examples. However, it is my humble opinion that there is one choice that is far more important than the others, that being whether you will be yourself, or be boring. Unfortunately, those are the only two options. I know that you have heard that there are other ways, that there is a happy medium where you can be yourself in a secret hiding place at night, while pretending with your friends and loved ones. However, you and I both know that whole gets old after awhile.

It may be fun to pretend, for a time. It may even bring you great joy. Many entertainers will tell you how happy they are on stage. Yet most entertainers will also tell you that performing is just like any other job; as time passes, the fun fades, fatigue sets in, and you start dreaming about tomorrow. Humans have attention spans, but they are limited. No person enjoys repetition repeatedly, over and over again, not even for a little while.

Can you be yourself around your loved ones? And, if you can at all, how far are you allowed to go? What is acceptable to the people around you? What limitations are they placing on your behavior? Many people claim to be comfortable with their relationships, but many also never examine them. The narrow road to being yourself is paved with revelations. If you decide to go on such a journey, you will have the pleasure of discovering real contentedness with yourself. But this requires a hard nosed resolve to be alone.

The reality is that many people will never accept you completely, and that the vast majority of the self care you will do will be just that. The problem here is that we as humans are adverse to solitude, even when we need it to survive. Obviously we should not be reclusive because that can very easily lead to depression. However, it is not entirely necessary for us to rely so heavily on the approval of others. I would argue that doing so is actually quite damaging to our well-being, and tends to promote cult-like behavior, no matter what the education level of the follower.

Is it possible for us to have healthy relationships and be our complete selves simultaneously or are we doomed to be alone even when we are together? I think that, if we are honest with ourselves, our need for approval is slowing us down. Do we need a whole team cheering us on or can we just do our own thing? Furthermore, what is it that makes people feel the need for tribes? Do groups have benefits for the individual? Perhaps, but there do not seem to be many, and they certainly are not timely. We are taught to take one for the team, but I believe that it is time to take a moment for ourselves?

Who are you? What makes you tick? Why do you dream at night? What effect do you wish to have on the world? There are millions of people ready to tell you the answers. I would like you to find out for yourself.