Workaholism is something that is not discussed very frequently. We value hard work and even though we might complain about a member working too much, deep down we sort of envy his work ethic.

Being a workaholic can have negative results not just on one's health, but also on one's spiritual life.

IN THIS EPISODE

• The 7 Marks of a Workaholic.
• The difference between working long hours and being a workaholic.
• Adverse health effects of workaholism.
• The temperaments that are drawn to workaholism.
• Workaholism as sloth.
• What you can do to stop being a workaholic.

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Is it sinful to refuse the marital debt?

A lot of people hate the term "marital debt" because it sounds so technical and devoid of love. The marriage debt is the mutual obligation that the spouses have, within a valid marriage (natural or supernatural) to have marital relations.

However, we do indeed have a marital debt, as stated in 1 Corinthians 7:3:

"Let the husband render the debt to his wife, and the wife also in like manner to the husband."

IN THIS EPISODE

• What is the marital debt and where does the term come from
• Why do Christian couples have a marital debt to pay?
• Mayo Clinic reasons for decreased libido.
• Moral theologian licit reasons for refusing the marital debt.
• When is it a sin to refuse the marital debt?
• What you can do when you are not in the mood?
• What if you have a higher libido than your husband?

Episode Notes

Whether or not we are attracted to the person we're dating is a lot more important than we think. But how important is physical attraction when it comes to courtship and marriage?

If you believe that because you're a Christian, your spouse doesn't care about your appearance, you are wrong.

First of all, the love of beauty is innate. The reason we have physical attraction is that it drives us to get married and procreate.

A pious person knows not to prioritize physical beauty over everything else, but it doesn't mean it doesn't matter.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Does physical attraction matter and should it matter?
• Do both men and women prioritize physical attraction?
• What about the changes in physical beauty as we age?
• What can happen if you marry someone you are not attracted to?
• What can I do to increase my attractiveness

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What exactly is feminine speech and why should traditional women be concerned about it?

If you are a woman who believes that the man should be the head of the home, it's important that you learn how to moderate your speech so that you're not bossing him around.

Women with assertive personalities, specifically those with choleric temperaments, have a hard time communicating without sounding like they are issuing commands.

Traditional women are not all phlegmatic. A smaller percentage have choleric temperaments - and for those cholerics, it is a daily struggle to have a more feminine speech when addressing their husbands.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Why it's important to moderate "declarative statements" when speaking to one's husband.
• How to use "affective" tags to soften statements.
• "Uptalk" is not always a bad thing.

Show Notes

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Intuitively, women know they shouldn't pursue men. In the vast majority of these kind of cases, things never work out.

However, women are quick to point out the exceptions without acknowledging just that - they're exceptions.

A woman should not pursue a man or ask him out, but there are ways she can signal her interest.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Why you shouldn't pursue a guy.
• Why he might not be interested in you.
• Ways to signal your interest without making a fool of yourself.

Episode Notes

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Phlegmatics are the quintessential "nice" people.

The phlegmatic is prone to sloth and does not like to work, but once he takes on a task, he perseveres.

He doesn't demand much from life and doesn't have a lot of internal motivation. A phlegmatic soul must cultivate an aspiration to do better, especially when it comes to piety.

He must focus on fulfilling his duties of life.

Today, we take a look at the phlegmatic section of Rev. Conrad Hock's the Four Temperaments, as we study the phlegmatic's path to holiness.

IN THIS EPISODE

• A phlegmatic must focus on his duties of life.
• A phlegmatic must be careful to aspire to greater sanctity.
• A look at the "mixed temperaments".

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The after-mass coffee hour is meant to foster a sense of community and provide an opportunity to meet the Catholics who you see at Mass every day.

Unfortunately, because humans are going to human, you invariably have the formation of cliques which leave some people out.

You end up with a lot of people who go to Mass and leave with a sense of loneliness.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Poor social relationships were associated with a 29 percent increase in risk of coronary heart disease and a 32 percent rise in the risk of stroke.
• We will always have some sense of loneliness because our hearts will continue to seek God, whether we know it or not.
• Why we need friends.
• Why people do not reach out to strangers at coffee hours.
• What is attractive about cliques.
• Can you be part of a clique and not be "cliquish"?
• What you can do to reach out to others.

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Sanguines are the life of the party.

They are extroverted, with a lot of friends, are optimistic, and scatter-brained, and does not hold grudges.

A sanguine soul must cultivate a love of meditation, so that they can focus on spiritual instead of temporal things.

Today, we take a look at the sanguine section of Rev. Conrad Hock's the Four Temperaments, as we study the sanguine's path to holiness.

IN THIS EPISODE

• A sanguine must reflect on spiritual things.
• Instead of "winging" it, a sanguine must learn to plan for all possibilities.
• He must practice mortification of the senses.
• He must look for good influences and accept direction and counsel.
• Spiritual aridity purifies him.
• He must struggle against his bad traits, such as vanity, love of friendships, jealousy, levity and superficiality.

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We live in a confusing time - a time when men are afraid to be men, where men are afraid to be a gentleman.

Men are confused because we live in a quasi-matriarchy which celebrates womanhood and denigrates manhood.

What men need is a code of chivalry.

Circa 1839-1997, The Virginia Military Institute, the oldest state-supported military college in the United States had the "Code of a Gentleman", a code which listed the attributes and the actions of a gentleman.

IN THIS EPISODE

Gentlemanly precepts you might consider adopting if you haven't already.

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Someone with a melancholic temperament has a great attraction to the interior life, which is a great benefit.

They are reserved, are hard on themselves and others and tend to be distrusting and pessimistic.

A melancholic soul who abandons himself to the interior life and the Crucified Christ can make great strides in the interior life.

Today, we take a look at the melancholic section of Rev. Conrad Hock's the Four Temperaments, as we study the melancholic's path to holiness.

IN THIS EPISODE

• A melancholic must cultivate a great love for God and a love of Suffering.
• During attacks of melancholy, he should remind himself that things are not as bad as he imagines.
• He must resist every spirit of aversion, diffidence, discouragement or despondency.
• He must keep himself busy.
• A choleric's path to holiness involves humiliating himself voluntarily.
• He must cultivate the good characteristics of his temperament and continually struggle against the weaknesses

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