November 20th is Transgender Day of Remembrance, a day where we take the time to honor the trans people who have lost their lives in the fight for justice, for simply being trans. Stigmatization and fear is used to justify violence, and this is something that cannot be ignored in our communities.  We would like to dedicate this episode to Brooklyn Deshauna Smith, a 20 y/o trans woman who was shot and killed in Shreveport last month.  To her family and friends, we offer our deepest condolences. Shreveport close to all of us involved in this podcast, so her loss hits close to home.  Today, we are joined by Yngrid, who will be discussing her experiences as a transwoman with us, as well.

Please check out these wonderful resources and charities: 

https://www.latransadvocates.org

https://marshap.org/

https://www.glitsinc.org/

https://www.theokraproject.com/

https://www.hrc.org/news/hrc-mourns-brooklyn-deshuna-black-trans-woman-killed-in-louisiana

RIP Brooklyn Deshauna Smith.

Welcome back to Because I’m a Lady That’s Why, a podcast about responding to anti-femme issues in a ladylike fashion.

In today’s episode, I would like to discuss the red flags that indicate an abuser in relationships.  No two relationships are the same, but there are patterns that appear in abusive relationships. It can take years and years to see abuse for what it is.

This was a difficult episode to record. It was emotional, but it is imperative that those who recognize that they are being abused seek help.  Here are some valuable resources: 

http://www.usafvshelter.org/red-flags-warning-signs-of-an-abusive-personality

https://www.thehotline.org/ Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) for Domestic Abuse Hotline

https://ncadv.org/STATISTICS

https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/types-of-abuse/

https://lcadv.org/programs-resources/

Reading:

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/224552.Why_Does_He_Do_That_

Freyd, J.J. (1997) Violations of power, adaptive blindness, and betrayal trauma theory. Feminism & Psychology, 7, 22-32.

Today’s episode is about breastfeeding in public and the free the nipple movement! This is part 3 in a series about modesty culture and women’s health.  Please excuse the delayed release of this episode.  Work and distractions have been abundant recently. Thank you for continuing to listen because I am excited to tell you all about the history of the movement, the facts about the law, and to introduce our special guest today! My dear friend Jessica joined me to share her experience as a breastfeeding mother.

Resources:

https://gotopless.org/topless-laws

https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Topfreedom_in_the_United_States

For doula, Brittany Maddox (reopening in DEC 2020): 

https://www.advanceddoulacare.com/

Tips and Laws for Nursing Mothers:

https://www.whattoexpect.com/first-year/breastfeeding/breastfeeding-in-public/

 I will be discussing the importance of breast cancer awareness.  This is part two in a series discussing modesty culture and women’s health. Breast cancer is the second biggest killer of women (second to lung cancer). Early detection and awareness are the best defense, but many young women are ignoring the steps they should take to monitor their own health.   My guest today is Amanda Tamaccio, a talented, little bombshell of a lady who was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2019. In a year’s time, her whole life has changed. I asked to interview her in today’s episode so that listeners may hear about how important breast cancer awareness is from someone who knows better than I.

Venmo to support Amanda @amandatamaccio

Listen to her croon with her band Star Chamber on Spotify.  (They are amazing!) @starchamberband (Insta)

Check your boobies! 

https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/breast-exam/about/pac-20393237

This episode is Part one in a series that exploring of the culture of modesty and how it affects women’s health!  We shouldn’t be ashamed/scared/bullied into covering up our bodies! We have liberties that should be protected. So when I say, “cover it up” here, I’m not just talking about covering up the parts of the body, the skin. I am also talking about covering up issues that are important. What do you say? Shall we expose them?

As the spooky season Falls upon us, I will be doing a three-part series on how embarrassment and shame should be tossed OUT the window when it gets in the way of your health and wellness. Breast is not a dirty word. You should not shy away from taking care of your body or your safety for the sake of modesty. 

Pt. 1 Modesty Culture and Rape Culture (Thursday, October 15th!)

Pt.2 Breast Cancer Awareness w/ Special Guest Amanda Tomaccio

Pt. 3 Breastfeeding in Public and the Free the Nipple Movement

P.S. My wonderful co-host Sav is taking a hiatus to focus on self-care. If you would like to send her some encouraging words, please send an e-mail to [email protected] 

Feel free to e-mail topic requests or your experiences/thoughts with topics that we have discussed on the show anytime!

Ladies tend to bear the Mental load known as the “worry work” when it comes to household management. This accounts for stress gaps between men and women, work-family conflicts, and conflict between partners. In this episode, Jen and Sav discuss how the inequity of the mental burden in the home affects women and examine the actions that men and women could take to promote equity in the home.

This week will be the first in our series of monthly installments entitled, "Because She's a Lady" in which we will honor on of our she-roes.  This month, we are going to be discussing the incredible life of Ruth Bader Ginsburg!  The world is mourning the loss of this iconic figure in the legal world...but who was she as a person? What motivated and inspired her, and what lessons can we learn from her?

So why is it that women have such anxiety over controlling and changing the shape of our bodies?

In this episode we discuss the shifting ideal body types in history and address the dangerous and lingering effects they have on our culture. 

The ladylike thing to do? Push back against the idea of a single, idealized, beautiful body type. Foster body positivity and embrace diversity. Recover from the disordered eating habits and anxiety that might have become a normal part of your life. You have to love your body as it is in order to care for it in the way that brings about healthy change. You deserve to take up space and to grow and to be anything but “small”.

Content Warning: 

The content and discussion in this episode will necessarily engage with eating disorders, self harm, and body hatred. Although the end-goal of this podcast is to create a safe space and to push back against negative issues with positivity, this episode includes  potentially emotionally challenging or triggering content.

Resources for listeners:

App-

Recovery Records- Free on Apple and Android

This app was developed by a team of psychologists and engineers to be the best app for the management of eating disorders. It is also based on CBT (cognitive-based therapy) and self-monitoring research.  Recovery Record is geared toward anyone with anorexia, bulimia, and/or binge eating disorder. It’s also helpful for people with general eating, weight, and/or body image problems.

Websites-

NEDA

https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline

Eating Disorders Anonymous

https://eatingdisordersanonymous.org/ 

Books-

Evelyn Trivoli's Intuitive Eating- learning how to eat intuitively with a workbook to use for practice

Registered Dietitian in your area-check with your insurance provider or use free resources!

On today's inaugural episode,  we’ll be looking at a topic that affects all women: Finances. We’ll be discussing the Pink Tax, The Wage gap, and the way society pushes for women to consume more while making less. Why do we fall for the trends and marketing ploys so often, and what is a classy response to this unladylike pressure to buy more while earning less? 

Source Links: 

https://www1.nyc.gov/assets/dca/downloads/pdf/partners/Study-of-Gender-Pricing-in-NYC.pdf

https://www.nationalpartnership.org/our-work/resources/economic-justice/fair-pay/african-american-women-wage-gap.pdf

Glynn, S. J. (2018, April). Gender wage inequality: What we know and how we can fix it. Retrieved 19 March 2020 from Washington Center for Equitable Growth website: https://equitablegrowth.org/research-paper/gender-wage-inequality/?longform=true