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Today we talk about the importance of male friendships and some common barriers we experience.

3:43 - Jason Hibbs with Shop Sounds Podcast making friends at the urinal (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/shop-sounds-podcast/id1514814400)

7:40 - Barriers to communication in male friendships.

10:16 - We don't always need to talk or talk about deep things, but we do need to be there for each other.

11:40 - Dr. Steve Harris and his way of being with his friends (www.the-manspace.com; https://www.cehd.umn.edu/fsos/directory/HarrisS.asp).

16:53 - Cultural differences in male affection.

17:40 - Male affection in the late 1800s (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/bosom-buddies-a-photo-history-of-male-affection/).

20:20 - Depictions of men being there for each other without communicating in the film Secondhand Lions (https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0327137/).

21:15 - The Men's Shed (https://usmenssheds.org/). Men need three things; 1) somewhere to go, 2) something to do, and 3) someone to talk to.

24:50 - Esther Perel's observations about how the loss of community has led to all of our social needs being put on the couple relationship (https://www.amazon.com/Mating-Captivity-Unlocking-Erotic-Intelligence/dp/0060753641). Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam discusses loss of community (http://bowlingalone.com/)

28:29 - Impact of retirement on loss of community for men and how that contributes to loneliness and suicide (

29:45 - Matthew McConaughey book Greenlights (https://www.amazon.com/Greenlights-Matthew-McConaughey/dp/0593139135); Greenlight moments can be invitations for connection.

30:25 - Risking to communicate how we feel about each other; connecting with the important guys in our lives.

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