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Look spacemen, it takes a true spaceman to admit when they're wrong and an even truer one to admit when their wife is wrong. On today's episode, we do just that.

We don't actually admit to being wrong, but Mike and Rob talk about how men are the problem in relationships. We're not saying women are, but we are saying we need to stop blaming men for everything. You're doing a good job. Could you do better? Sure! That's why you listen to The Manspace (which, coincidentally, is how I know you are doing a good job). So keep your chin up. Listen in and be not the problem.

Keywords

relationships, men's roles, communication, societal expectations, sexual desires, self-improvement, emotional connection, therapy, understanding, feedback loops

Takeaways

• Men need to learn a different relationship with sex.
• It's important for men to express their feelings.
• Women often perceive men as the problem in relationships.
• Men are doing better than they think they are.
• Communication is key in understanding each other.
• Societal expectations can distort perceptions of men.
• Feedback loops in relationships are crucial to understand.
• Men should not feel like they are the only ones at fault.
• It's essential to focus on the couple you want to be.
• Self-improvement is a shared responsibility in relationships.

Sound Bites

• "I'm just glad to be here."
• "Don't screw this up."
• "Men are not the problem."

Chapters

00:00
Rant on Gender Roles in Relationships

00:32
Exploring Emotional Regulation

03:37
Cultural References and Music Discussions

07:35
Introduction and Anticipation for Upcoming Events

10:32
Understanding Men's Role in Relationships

12:35
The Perception of Men in Society

14:46
Expectations and Criticism in Relationships

16:39
The Importance of Communication and Understanding

18:33
Men's Emotional Needs and Societal Pressures

20:32
The Distortion of Relationships and Control

22:40
The Impact of Societal Norms on Relationships

24:35
Men's Responsibility in Relationships

26:45
The Role of Sex in Relationships

28:37
The Need for Emotional Connection

30:44
Challenging Gender Stereotypes

32:33
The Importance of Mutual Understanding

34:44
Final Thoughts on Relationship Dynamics

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Dudes. You should laugh at stuff more. Honestly, when was the last time you laughed your crack off? I mean, besides the Manspace, obviously. Turns out humor is extremely helpful.

On today's episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob break down how humor can enhance our relationships, increase connection, and improve creativity. You should listen to the episode and then make a fart joke during your next fight. It'll totally work. Maybe. 

keywords

humor, sarcasm, relationships, communication, therapy, pop culture, emotional intelligence, self-deprecating humor, interpersonal dynamics, coping mechanisms

takeaways

• Humor can be a powerful tool in relationships.
• Sarcasm can sometimes be misunderstood and may hurt feelings.
• Reading the room is essential when using humor.
• Humor should enhance connections, not diminish them.
• Self-deprecating humor can be a safe target.
• Using humor can help diffuse tension in difficult conversations.
• It's important to know when humor is appropriate.
• Pop culture references can enrich discussions about humor.
• Humor can provide a new perspective on serious topics.
• Navigating humor requires emotional intelligence.

Sound Bites

• "I have to see humor."
• "Humor can diffuse tension."
• "Read the room."

Chapters

00:00
Exploring Humor Types and Their Impact

11:23
Understanding Self-Defeating Humor

20:35
The Role of Humor in Relationships

26:38
Navigating Humor and Seriousness

38:54
The Impact of Humor on Communication

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No fear bro. Grip it and rip it. Live free or die hard. Come and take it. And other such sundry fearless phrases. That's what's happening today. We're facing our fears. Well, more just talking about how to live without fear.

Today, we review the book The Fearless Mind by Craig Manning. Matt, Mike, and Rob talk about how to have more focus on process, being more task oriented, and worrying less about the outcomes. I bet you thought AI generated that last sentence. Well it didn't. I'm just that good...or bad? Either way, listen in and lose your fear!

Keywords

No Fear, 90s nostalgia, self-regulation, ego, task-mindedness, deliberate practice, feedback, personal development, relationships, The Fearless Mind

Takeaways

• Nostalgia can evoke strong memories and connections.
• Self-regulation is key to personal growth and focus.
• Ego-mindedness can hinder performance and growth.
• Deliberate practice is essential for mastery in any field.
• Feedback should be direct but not sugarcoated.
• The role of a coach is to guide and sometimes gatekeep.
• Improvement is a process that requires self-reflection.
• Focus on what you can control in relationships.
• Personal development is a lifelong journey.
• Engaging in the process can lead to fulfillment and happiness.

Chapters

00:00
Exploring the Fearless Mind Book

05:07
Key Insights from The Fearless Mind

10:57
Deliberate Practice and Ego Mindset

17:02
Externalizing Problems in Therapy

24:41
Taking Responsibility in Clinical Practice

25:17
Gatekeeping in Education and Therapy

26:23
The Role of Emotion in Therapy

28:21
The Challenge of High Performance Coaching

30:00
Critiques of Coaching Styles

33:18
The Importance of Self-Reflection

35:16
Journaling for Improvement

36:40
Shifting Focus from Negativity to Growth

40:14
The Process of Continuous Improvement

43:35
Encouraging Client Growth and Self-Discovery

47:52
Key Takeaways from the Conversation

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SPACEMEN!!!! I think we've solved it for good this time. I know I've said that before, but this time, we really nailed it. And by we, I mean Rob. It's the Rob show today. Finally, Or unfortunately. Just Rob rambling on about who knows what.

I know what. Rob talks about looking at yourself in the relationship and taking responsibility to change things. Far too many people get stuck looking at and blaming the other person. Well guess what? You're the problem. Listen in as Rob lists off your flaws.

Takeaways

• Therapy can feel like an uphill battle for couples.
• Cultural narratives often portray men as the problem in relationships.
• Self-reflection is crucial for improving relationship dynamics.
• Both partners need to take responsibility for their actions.
• Men often feel afraid of their wives due to judgmental tones.
• Women may react harshly due to feeling overwhelmed.
• Communication styles can significantly impact relationship health.
• It's important to ask, 'What is my part in this?'
• Therapists can help couples see beyond surface-level issues.

Sound Bites

• "Hi, it's me. I'm the problem. It's me."
• "It's a little bit like doing a video journal."
• "I've noticed this thing recently..."

Chapters

00:00
Introduction to the Solo Journey

01:24
Reflections on Therapy and Relationships

05:14
Understanding 'Walk Away Wife Syndrome'

09:00
The Dynamics of Fear in Relationships

19:17
Cultural Narratives and Relationship Dynamics

23:42
The Importance of Self-Reflection in Relationships

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Spacemen, you're remarkable. You're doing a great job. Probably. I mean, you're listening to the show, so clearly you're trying to improve yourself. So nice work. 

On today's episode, we talk about the effectiveness of positive feedback and how, unfortunately, we're not so great at it. Research shows over and over that we get better results from positive feedback, but we're often afraid that if we don't highlight what was wrong, it won't get fixed. We'll that's just stupid. Stop thinking that. Listen to the episode. We'll get you fixed. 

Takeaways

• Specific feedback is crucial for both praise and correction.
• Positive reinforcement can lead to better outcomes than negative feedback.
• Generational differences affect how feedback is received and interpreted.
• Building trust in relationships allows for more effective communication.
• Focusing on what to add rather than what to eliminate can be more motivating.
• Nostalgia and humor can create a comfortable space for serious discussions.
• Understanding the motivations behind feedback can improve relationships.
• Encouragement should be genuine and specific to be effective.
• Recognizing individual strengths can help in personal development.
• The way we communicate feedback can shape our relationships significantly.

Sound Bites

• "Quit playing with your dinghy!"
• "I would take 50 Chris Farley movies!"

Chapters

00:00
The Role of Encouragement in Parenting

06:49
The Impact of Feedback on Generations

09:50
The Balance of Positive and Negative Feedback

11:37
Cultural Influences on Motivation

15:46
The Power of Positive Reinforcement

18:28
The Importance of Genuine Feedback

24:58
Understanding Motivation and Support

24:59
The Power of Hope and Expectancy

25:20
The Importance of Specific Feedback

26:18
Understanding Motivation Behind Actions

27:26
Balancing Positive and Negative Feedback

28:38
The Impact of Harsh Feedback

29:41
Recognizing Internal Struggles

30:55
The Challenge of Improvement

31:49
Communication in Relationships

33:21
The Role of Specificity in Feedback

36:27
Defining by Negatives vs. Positives

40:28
The Importance of Adding Positives

43:50
Healthy Relational Ethics

46:27
The Value of Genuine Praise

49:43
Building Trust Through Feedback

51:20
The Power of Positive Reinforcement

54:09
Focusing on Desired Outcomes

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Look spacemen, probably the only thing you need to know about this episode is that Matt does not like Ryan Reynolds. You should probably let Ryan know on social media. If I know him like I think I do, he'll want to come on our show and rectify that. I should also make a formal clarification--this episode is NOT brought to you by Ryan Reynolds or any of his affiliate companies. 

We do talk about other things on this episode too. Specifically what to do if you lost that liking feeling for your spouse. We've all had some level of that feeling. But it turns out, there are some things you can do about it. I know you want me to tell you what, but I want you to do your own work. I gotta watch Monday Night Football. 

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Spacemen, pull up a chair. Take a load off. Just relax and be in the Space. You got nothing better to do. On today's episode, we talk about the massive impact of slowing down your life--from your thoughts to your intentions and actions inside your relationship. If you're lucky, we'll even quote Miley Cyrus. But you gotta slow down to hear it.

takeaways

• Slow living prioritizes mindfulness and intentionality.
• Engaging in the process can lead to greater satisfaction.
• Technology often distracts us from meaningful experiences.
• Quality over quantity is essential for a fulfilling life.
• Finding balance is crucial in a fast-paced world.
• The journey is often more rewarding than the destination.
• Simplifying tasks can enhance our overall well-being.
• Being present in the moment fosters deeper connections.
• Slow living can counteract societal pressures to be busy.
• Engaging in hobbies can provide a sense of purpose.

Sound Bites

• "Slow down, slow the crap down."
• "Engage in a slow mindful process."
• "The process is the thing that's engaging."

Chapters

00:00
The Essence of Slow Living

01:37
Engaging in Meaningful Activities

04:38
The Process vs. The Outcome

07:40
Finding Joy in the Journey

10:36
Mindfulness and Intentionality

13:43
The Dangers of Hustle Culture

16:45
Quality Over Quantity

19:37
The Importance of Relationships

22:38
Practical Tips for Slow Living

25:47
The Value of Engaging in the Process

28:52
The Second Screen Test and Media Consumption

31:45
The Need for Simplicity

34:33
Final Thoughts on Slow Living

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Spacemen, at this point, you should really start to look at us like AI; you ask a question and we answer it. And just like AI, we have the answers. If you ask, I can even draw you a picture with a hand and 7 fingers that mesh into one. Look out Gemini.

On today's episode, Mike and Rob discuss meeting needs in relationships. Whose responsibility is it to meet needs? What expectations should have have? Don't worry. We'll tell you.

keywords

relationships, personal needs, self-sufficiency, emotional intimacy, communication, implied agreements, balance, support, expectations, connection

takeaways

• No one will advocate for you in your relationship except for you.
• It's essential to understand what your needs are before asking others to meet them.
• The balance between self-sufficiency and support is crucial in relationships.
• Implied agreements in relationships can lead to misunderstandings if not clearly communicated.
• Meeting needs is a shared responsibility, but individuals must also fulfill their own.
• Expectations can lead to disappointment if not openly discussed.
• Communication is key to understanding and fulfilling each other's needs.
• Self-awareness is necessary to articulate what you truly need from your partner.
• Relationships require ongoing effort and commitment from both parties.
• It's important to recognize when a partner cannot meet certain needs and to adjust accordingly

Sound Bites

• "Just two bald dudes with a beard."
• "No one's going to advocate for you in your relationship except for you."

Chapters

00:00
The Balance of Self-Sufficiency and Support

01:31
Navigating Seasonal Changes and Personal Reflections

04:36
The Dynamics of Expectations in Relationships

07:35
Understanding Implied Agreements in Relationships

10:44
The Role of Communication in Meeting Needs

13:37
The Importance of Self-Validation

16:51
The Complexity of Relationship Needs

19:37
The Challenge of Meeting Emotional Needs

22:42
The Role of Vulnerability in Relationships

25:56
The Impact of Expectations on Relationships

28:43
Finding Balance in Relationship Dynamics

31:44
The Importance of Mutual Understanding

34:48
Navigating the Challenges of Relationship Needs

37:43
The Journey of Self-Discovery in Relationships

40:47
Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Hey guys. This week is multimedia. Well...sorta. I mean, if you were a loyal spaceman, you would have read the book already. The book, meaning The Comfort Crisis by Michael Easter. If you haven't, it's okay. You can still read it. 

Pretend you had a book report and read the back cover. Here's all you need to know. It's important for us to challenge ourselves. There's actually a lot of value in being uncomfortable. Listen in and find out. 

Takeaways

• The importance of being uncomfortable for personal growth.
• Engaging with nature can significantly improve mental health.
• Implementing small changes can lead to significant improvements.
• The Comfort Crisis emphasizes the need for discomfort in life.
• Personal experiences shape our understanding of mental health.
• Contemplating death can lead to a deeper appreciation of life.
• Experiencing discomfort is essential for unlocking potential.
• Deliberate choices can combat the hurry sickness prevalent in modern life.
• Greatness often comes at a significant personal cost.
• Pushing boundaries is necessary for personal development.
• Choosing the right resources can influence our growth journey.

Sound Bites

• "I could stop doing that."
• "You should contemplate your death."
• "Death can come at any time."
• "We are totally missing our potential."

Chapters

00:00
Introduction and Setting the Scene

01:58
The Comfort Crisis and Its Impact

05:14
Personal Experiences with Mental Health

08:26
The Role of Medication and Self-Help

11:29
Exploring the Book: The Comfort Crisis

14:26
Finding Motivation and Implementing Change

17:19
Nature and Its Benefits

20:19
The Importance of Discomfort

23:28
Reflections on Personal Growth

26:25
Conclusion and Final Thoughts

34:59
Confronting Mortality: Lessons from Bhutan

37:38
The Impact of Death on Life Perspectives

41:41
The Role of AI in Human Potential

48:16
The Importance of Physical Engagement

50:52
Finding Balance in Life's Challenges

54:17
Mental Benefits of Physical Activity

59:33
The Sacrifices Behind Greatness

01:01:28
Deliberate Discomfort: A Path to Growth

01:09:34
Choosing the Next Book: Fearless Mind

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SpacePeeps. Let's get our casting on. On today's episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob talk about emotional dynamics in relationships and why men are sometimes willing to put up with or may not know they are experiencing emotional abuse. It's a complex term and problem, and today we're just beginning the conversation. But there are many men who accept treatment they shouldn't. We talk about why that happens and how to change that in a healthy way. 

So, head to the drink store and get your manspace on. It's spacecasting time. 

keywords

therapy, personal growth, relationships, emotional health, communication, abuse dynamics, gender roles, self-awareness, mental health, pickleball

takeaways

• Therapy can lead to significant personal growth.
• Men often struggle to express their emotions due to societal expectations.
• The origins of pickleball are often misunderstood.
• Women may react defensively when confronted about their behavior.
• Emotional abuse can be harder to identify than physical abuse.
• Men may feel inadequate when their partners express dissatisfaction.
• There is a societal narrative that often portrays men as the primary abusers.
• Communication barriers exist in relationships due to gender dynamics.
• Understanding and empathy are crucial in addressing relationship issues.
• Both men and women can experience emotional pain in relationships.

Sound Bites

• "I just felt angry the whole time."
• "Steve Jobs invented pickleball?"

Chapters

00:00
The Truth About Pickleball and Steve Jobs

02:11
Recognizing Abuse in Men

06:35
The Power of Witty Banter

07:02
Introduction

07:39
Matt's Story

08:59
Depiction of Women in Sin

10:56
Accountability for Both Genders

12:44
Equality in Relationships

15:57
Difficult Conversations

19:34
Understanding Emotions

22:02
Societal Expectations

23:53
Perceptions of Women and Men

31:52
Barriers in Recognizing Emotions

39:02
Fear of Abandonment

42:56
Importance of Open Communication

46:22
Conclusion

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