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Spacemen, at this point, you should really start to look at us like AI; you ask a question and we answer it. And just like AI, we have the answers. If you ask, I can even draw you a picture with a hand and 7 fingers that mesh into one. Look out Gemini.

On today's episode, Mike and Rob discuss meeting needs in relationships. Whose responsibility is it to meet needs? What expectations should have have? Don't worry. We'll tell you.

keywords

relationships, personal needs, self-sufficiency, emotional intimacy, communication, implied agreements, balance, support, expectations, connection

takeaways

• No one will advocate for you in your relationship except for you.
• It's essential to understand what your needs are before asking others to meet them.
• The balance between self-sufficiency and support is crucial in relationships.
• Implied agreements in relationships can lead to misunderstandings if not clearly communicated.
• Meeting needs is a shared responsibility, but individuals must also fulfill their own.
• Expectations can lead to disappointment if not openly discussed.
• Communication is key to understanding and fulfilling each other's needs.
• Self-awareness is necessary to articulate what you truly need from your partner.
• Relationships require ongoing effort and commitment from both parties.
• It's important to recognize when a partner cannot meet certain needs and to adjust accordingly

Sound Bites

• "Just two bald dudes with a beard."
• "No one's going to advocate for you in your relationship except for you."

Chapters

00:00
The Balance of Self-Sufficiency and Support

01:31
Navigating Seasonal Changes and Personal Reflections

04:36
The Dynamics of Expectations in Relationships

07:35
Understanding Implied Agreements in Relationships

10:44
The Role of Communication in Meeting Needs

13:37
The Importance of Self-Validation

16:51
The Complexity of Relationship Needs

19:37
The Challenge of Meeting Emotional Needs

22:42
The Role of Vulnerability in Relationships

25:56
The Impact of Expectations on Relationships

28:43
Finding Balance in Relationship Dynamics

31:44
The Importance of Mutual Understanding

34:48
Navigating the Challenges of Relationship Needs

37:43
The Journey of Self-Discovery in Relationships

40:47
Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Hey guys. This week is multimedia. Well...sorta. I mean, if you were a loyal spaceman, you would have read the book already. The book, meaning The Comfort Crisis by Michael Easter. If you haven't, it's okay. You can still read it. 

Pretend you had a book report and read the back cover. Here's all you need to know. It's important for us to challenge ourselves. There's actually a lot of value in being uncomfortable. Listen in and find out. 

Takeaways

• The importance of being uncomfortable for personal growth.
• Engaging with nature can significantly improve mental health.
• Implementing small changes can lead to significant improvements.
• The Comfort Crisis emphasizes the need for discomfort in life.
• Personal experiences shape our understanding of mental health.
• Contemplating death can lead to a deeper appreciation of life.
• Experiencing discomfort is essential for unlocking potential.
• Deliberate choices can combat the hurry sickness prevalent in modern life.
• Greatness often comes at a significant personal cost.
• Pushing boundaries is necessary for personal development.
• Choosing the right resources can influence our growth journey.

Sound Bites

• "I could stop doing that."
• "You should contemplate your death."
• "Death can come at any time."
• "We are totally missing our potential."

Chapters

00:00
Introduction and Setting the Scene

01:58
The Comfort Crisis and Its Impact

05:14
Personal Experiences with Mental Health

08:26
The Role of Medication and Self-Help

11:29
Exploring the Book: The Comfort Crisis

14:26
Finding Motivation and Implementing Change

17:19
Nature and Its Benefits

20:19
The Importance of Discomfort

23:28
Reflections on Personal Growth

26:25
Conclusion and Final Thoughts

34:59
Confronting Mortality: Lessons from Bhutan

37:38
The Impact of Death on Life Perspectives

41:41
The Role of AI in Human Potential

48:16
The Importance of Physical Engagement

50:52
Finding Balance in Life's Challenges

54:17
Mental Benefits of Physical Activity

59:33
The Sacrifices Behind Greatness

01:01:28
Deliberate Discomfort: A Path to Growth

01:09:34
Choosing the Next Book: Fearless Mind

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SpacePeeps. Let's get our casting on. On today's episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob talk about emotional dynamics in relationships and why men are sometimes willing to put up with or may not know they are experiencing emotional abuse. It's a complex term and problem, and today we're just beginning the conversation. But there are many men who accept treatment they shouldn't. We talk about why that happens and how to change that in a healthy way. 

So, head to the drink store and get your manspace on. It's spacecasting time. 

keywords

therapy, personal growth, relationships, emotional health, communication, abuse dynamics, gender roles, self-awareness, mental health, pickleball

takeaways

• Therapy can lead to significant personal growth.
• Men often struggle to express their emotions due to societal expectations.
• The origins of pickleball are often misunderstood.
• Women may react defensively when confronted about their behavior.
• Emotional abuse can be harder to identify than physical abuse.
• Men may feel inadequate when their partners express dissatisfaction.
• There is a societal narrative that often portrays men as the primary abusers.
• Communication barriers exist in relationships due to gender dynamics.
• Understanding and empathy are crucial in addressing relationship issues.
• Both men and women can experience emotional pain in relationships.

Sound Bites

• "I just felt angry the whole time."
• "Steve Jobs invented pickleball?"

Chapters

00:00
The Truth About Pickleball and Steve Jobs

02:11
Recognizing Abuse in Men

06:35
The Power of Witty Banter

07:02
Introduction

07:39
Matt's Story

08:59
Depiction of Women in Sin

10:56
Accountability for Both Genders

12:44
Equality in Relationships

15:57
Difficult Conversations

19:34
Understanding Emotions

22:02
Societal Expectations

23:53
Perceptions of Women and Men

31:52
Barriers in Recognizing Emotions

39:02
Fear of Abandonment

42:56
Importance of Open Communication

46:22
Conclusion

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Sup Sigmas. Get your skibbity toilets ready and put on that sweet Ohio rizz. Go get your middle-schooler and they'll tell you how cool I am. Or that I don't know what I'm talking about. Fanum Tax. 

On today's episode, we talk about mental health trends and how they lead us to believe in quick fixes. Look, Rob doesn't believe in them, but he's trying to stay open to the possibility that maybe there are some? Or maybe we just have to be cool with work and taking a quick hit, then using that to fuel the work. I don't know. You listen. Especially to Matt, cause it sounds like he falls down a well at some point. Technology, am I right? 

keywords

annual checkup, colonoscopy, therapy trends, quick fixes, TV shows, survival, skepticism, hypnosis, psychedelics, lasting change, doing the work, integration, temper expectations, holistic perspective

takeaways

• Trends in therapy modalities, such as EMDR and IFS, can create unrealistic expectations for clients seeking quick fixes.
• Personal growth and change are necessary for overcoming challenges and improving mental health.
• Doing the work and integrating insights are crucial for sustainable transformation.
• Change is a multifaceted process that requires ongoing effort and exploration.
• Tempering expectations and taking a holistic perspective can help navigate the complexities of personal growth.

Sound Bites

• "What did I pay for?"
• "Hypnosis can be very effective for treating tobacco use and cessation."
• "I don't believe in a fix that is so quick that it required no effort out of me."
• "People are having life-changing experiences with psychedelics and ketamine-assisted therapy."

Chapters

00:00
Favorite TV Shows

14:51
The Illusion of Quick Fixes

22:14
The Importance of Doing the Work

30:43
Integration and Lasting Change

41:02
The Complexity of Change

50:46
Tempering Expectations for Sustainable Transformation

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Spacemen! Tune in for a very special episode. Sort of like an after-school special on the importance of getting your colon checked. I know. You were like, "Hey, how come we're not talking more about colonoscopies." Well put your wonder to rest. Today, we talk about Rob getting a colonoscopy.

I mean, really only for a minute. Then we talk about why men don't want to go to doctors. Should we go? Yes. Are the reasons we don't go legitimate? Sometimes. But really, go to the doctor. And listen to this episode on the way. It'll give you courage. Get out there!

keywords

health, colonoscopy, dental visits, physical check-ups, men's health, women's health, doctor, medical advice, reluctance, resistance to change, fear, lifestyle changes

takeaways

• Regular check-ups and screenings are important for maintaining good health.
• Men may be less likely than women to seek medical care or undergo certain procedures.
• Humor can be a coping mechanism when discussing uncomfortable or embarrassing health topics.
• Men often have a reluctance to go to the doctor and receive medical advice, especially if they feel like they already know what the doctor will tell them.
• There is a resistance to change and a fear of being told that lifestyle changes are necessary for better health.
• Men may have a tendency to downplay the importance of their health and prioritize other aspects of their lives.
• It is important for men to take care of their health and seek medical help when needed, even if it means facing uncomfortable truths.

Sound Bites

• "I'm getting a colonoscopy tomorrow"
• "Let me tell you about this one time I heard a dude pooping at QT"
• "When was the last time you guys went to a dentist?"
• "Something dumb like that."
• "Why did I just pay for this? He's not helping me lose weight."

Chapters

05:09
Taking Care of Dental Health

08:47
The Need for Physical Exams

13:12
Gender Differences in Seeking Medical Care

16:05
Using Humor to Discuss Uncomfortable Procedures

32:46
Living in Blissful Ignorance

41:08
Taking Proactive Steps Towards Health

46:05
The Role of Doctors in Providing Guidance

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Sup Spacemen. It's me, the spaciverse. Welcome to another episode. Today, Mike and Rob talk about hobbies and all the benefits that come with them. If you're wondering, you'll feel more confident, and have more joy and fulfillment in your life. So get down to the hobby shop and pick up a pinewood derby car, pop a squat and whittle that bad-boy down while you engage in your other hobby: The Manspace!

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hobbies, benefits of hobbies, social connection, hobbies, challenge, development, fulfillment, joy, interests, accomplishment

takeaways

• Hobbies can provide social connections and benefits
• Having hobbies can bring joy and fulfillment to life 
• Hobbies should challenge and develop you
• Consider your budget and find affordable options
• Don't worry about what others think of your hobby
• Hobbies can help you feel like yourself and provide a sense of accomplishment

Sound Bites

• "Spacemen, get off your hobby horse and then get back on."
• "Part of me wants to not, just to, so I can draw attention to the fact that you're not participating in this podcast right now."
• "A hobby is something that can pull you out and kind of get you in the zone or the flow of something that feels like, man, I just enjoy doing this. It feels really fun."

Chapters

00:00
Excitement of Starting School

22:25
The Benefits of Hobbies

25:23
Connecting with Others Through Hobbies

26:36
Hobbies as a Source of Joy and Fulfillment

27:55
Personal Growth and Skill Development

28:47
Creativity and Self-Expression Through Hobbies

29:50
Creating a Work-Life Balance

30:44
Hobbies that Make You Feel Like Yourself

31:05
Reflecting on Hobbies and Life Satisfaction

31:35
The Importance of Hobbies

36:41
What Makes a Good Hobby?

45:24
Fulfillment and Feeling Like a Kid Again

52:50
Accomplishment and Sense of Achievement

57:10
Exploring Interests and Goals

01:01:13
Hobbies and Personal Identity

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Spacemen, gather your fellow nerds and prepare to discuss Dave Grohl's The Storyteller. On today's inaugural book club episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob break down what we can take from the book. Things like the importance of connecting with oneself and pursuing passions, the power of parental support and the impact it can have on a person's life. 

Some of the themes we pull out are deep relationships and seeing adventure and opportunity in life. If you haven't read it, pick up a copy and be inspired to be a drummer? Or whatever else gets you going. 

Don't forget, next months book will be The Comfort Crisis by Micheal Easter on 9/18/24. Read, nerds!

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deep relationships, being true to oneself, overcoming fears, parental support, pursuing passions, Dave Grohl, The Storyteller, authenticity, self-discovery, connection, music, self-expression

takeaways

• Deep relationships with people, places, values, and interests are important for personal growth and fulfillment.
• Being true to oneself and pursuing passions can lead to a fulfilling life.
• Parental support and the ability to overcome fears can have a significant impact on a person's success and happiness.
• Open yourself up to new experiences and be willing to learn and grow
• Connect with people from different backgrounds and find your tribe
• Value authenticity, self-discovery, and connection

Sound Bites

• "You really do have to just deeply connect with yourself and be yourself."
• "The power of a parent who can get over their own fear and get out of the way so you can be you."
• "This is just another dude"
• "A path without knowing where I'm going next"
• "Just do what you do"

Chapters

00:00
Dave Grohl's Musical References and Drumming

03:27
Musical Talents and Band Experiences

04:15
Starting the Book Discussion

05:18
Expanded Edition and Missing Topics

06:07
Nirvana's Influence and Kurt Cobain

07:25
Nirvana vs. Foo Fighters

09:29
Dave Grohl's Relationships and Connections

10:21
Deep Relationships and Impactful People

12:36
The Importance of Being Yourself

17:04
Themes and Takeaways from the Book

21:10
Embracing Authenticity and Relationships

28:01
Finding Your Own Path

35:38
Expanding Horizons and Embracing Different Styles

40:48
The Value of Self-Discovery and Understanding

45:51
Lessons for Fatherhood

51:32
Living the Life You Want to Live

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Spacemen, sometimes (read often) on the show, we like to go ahead and speak for all women. Today's episode is no exception. Today, Mike and Rob reveal what attracts women. Is it the big car? Or maybe money? Muscles? I don't want to spoil the surprise, but maybe? 

Turns out confidence is a key ingredient to attraction. We don't actually speak for women, but more humans in general. Confidence is attractive. So we'll tell you how to develop it. Have we ever steered you wrong? 

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Bruhs. I'm getting sigma on this skibidi ohio. That way, my social media platform will take off. On today's episode, Mike and Rob talk about how to understand 'truth' we find on the internet and social media. And when I say 'talk about,' I really mean Rob rants for a while.

Basically, it matters to be careful about what you consume and trust on the internet. Make sure you do your own research before you run off and start sharing your wisdom. Only listen to The Manspace. We'll never lead you astray. 

takeaways

• Starting a social media platform exclusively for men could provide a space for discussions and resources related to men's issues.
• Information on social media should be critically evaluated and fact-checked before accepting it as true.
• The controversy surrounding sleep training highlights the importance of considering scientific research and expert opinions when making parenting decisions. Be skeptical of diagnoses and understand their limitations
• Question the information you consume on social media
• Consider the potential negative effects of sleep training on family dynamics
• Conduct your own research and consider multiple perspectives
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Sound Bites

• "Welcome to becoming the first."
• "Can anybody just start a social media company?"
• "You should know that what you're throwing around is not a diagnosis."
• "The only thing that qualifies someone to be an expert on social media is good looks usually."
• "We get to craft these narratives that relieve us of all responsibility. It's now somebody else's problem."

Chapters

00:00
Authenticity in Social Media

01:29
The Lack of Resources for Men

06:05
The Impact of Social Media on Society

08:27
The Importance of Trustworthy Information

18:39
Conflicting Information on Sleep Training

27:14
The Limitations of Social Media Diagnoses

33:53
Recognizing the Impact on Relationships

37:14
The Importance of Healthy Skepticism

45:44
Recognizing Personal Biases and Emotions

54:57
Approaching Parenting and Mental Health with Humility

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Spacemen, have you ever given much thought to how you smell? Or wondered if others have given much thought about the way you smell? Do you wear cologne? Too much? Wrong scent? Is your lady friend impressed? Does it matter? 

Today, Matt, Mike, and Rob tackle smell. Matt got all smelled up for the show and really impressed us. Does he ever not? But maybe, we're just impressed with Matt and he just feels more confident when he smells of musk and manliness. So spritz on the ol' Drakkar Noir and listen in. 

keywords

men's scents, fragrances, cologne, lotions, body sprays, book club, scent, masculinity, success, memories, preferences, personal confidence, attraction, emotions, moods, individual, hygiene, grooming

takeaways

• Men's scents can have an impact on attraction
• Popular fragrances from the past include Obsession, Drakkar Noir, and Cool Water
• Some men use lotions and body sprays as an alternative to cologne
• The hosts announce an upcoming book club discussion on Dave Grohl's 'The Storyteller' 
• Finding the right balance with cologne is important, as overdoing it can be overpowering and off-putting.
• Scent preferences are subjective and can vary between individuals.
• Certain scents, such as wood or leather, can be associated with masculinity and success.
• Women may have a higher sensitivity to musk scents, which are commonly found in colognes. 
• Wearing certain scents can make individuals feel more confident and attractive.
• Scents can be more for the individual wearing them rather than for attracting others.
• Personal hygiene and grooming play a significant role in self-confidence.

Sound Bites

• "Cannibals functioning on pheromones, rational thought lost to instinctual"
• "It just smelled like something good was happening in there."
• "It just smells like power and confidence in this place."
• "Smells like Papa."
• "Like they're almost kind of like getting in the mood themselves"
• "I feel confident, I feel like a million bucks"
• "Maybe the scent is much more for you"

Chapters

00:00
Nostalgia for Popular Fragrances

03:10
Discussion on Smells and Fragrances

06:51
Using Colognes and Lotions

09:47
Importance of Hygiene and Pleasant Smells

14:49
Men and Scents: What Attracts Your Wife?

23:48
The Power of Scents: Memories and Aspirations

31:02
Wood Shop Smells and Positive Associations

34:33
Introduction to the topic of wearing cologne

36:23
The allure of a good cologne applied in the right amounts

38:36
The perception of cologne as a lack of confidence

41:27
The personal nature of wearing cologne

47:19
The science behind attraction and body odor

52:28
Generational differences in wearing scents

57:51
Embracing personal preference and confidence in wearing cologne

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