Becky & Ben's Fertility Spotlight

How do you mentally recover from IVF? For many, it’s a long, gruelling process. 1 in 4 fertility patients experience PTSD. We reflect on how we felt after bringing home our baby, Ida. Her birth was not the end of the story, and we speak openly about the mental challenges we faced. Despite our elation as new parents, an undercurrent of grief, trauma and sadness remained. We discuss how we coped. Sadness is part of joy: it’s possible, and normal, to feel both simultaneously. Assessing our own childhoods also helped us heal. We end in a hotel, being parented ourselves – alive for the first time in five years.

Official podcast website: https://fertility-spotlight.com

Instagram: @fertilityspotlight

Producer: David Roper, Heavy Entertainment

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IVF is a serious business, but can humour help? We speak to comedian, actor and writer Kate-Lois Elliott about the comedy of conception. On stage, she tackles it head-on. Privately, her fertility journey is ongoing. We discuss the connecting force of comedy, particularly stand-up. We look for laughs in IVF clinics (dishy doctors and Ben’s sperm collection dilemma included). And we review how TV and films have tackled IVF and parenting choices, notably Friends, Sex & The City and Trying. (Less notably, Maybe Baby!) An honest, revelatory interview with a rising comedy star.  

Official podcast website: https://fertility-spotlight.com

Instagram: @fertilityspotlight

Kate-Lois Elliott: https://www.kateloiselliott.com/

Instagram: @kateloiselliott 

Producer: David Roper, Heavy Entertainment 

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Some fertility journeys are dramatic, and Rebecca Coxon’s story is a shining example. An IVF triplet, she took a DNA test in her late twenties, discovering she was conceived using a sperm donor. She talks openly about this experience, and its effect on her and her family. We discuss her own attempt at IVF, and how the cycle was abandoned for personal reasons. And we explore her decision to donate her own eggs. Thoughtful and pragmatic, Rebecca goes deep into family emotions, conception and identity – and how her natural curiosity altered the course of her life. There’s a happy ending to this multi-layered story. And an acclaimed book, Inconceivable, that chronicles this remarkable adventure.         

Official podcast website: https://fertility-spotlight.com

Instagram: @fertilityspotlight

Inconceivable, by Rebecca Coxon: https://amzn.to/49ogX0E

Rebecca Coxon on Instagram: @rebeccacoxon 

Producer: David Roper, Heavy Entertainment 

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What role does the breast really play in fertility? We speak to author and surgeon, Dr. Gabriel Weston, about this remarkable organ. We assess its sexual and maternal function, and how the two seem inextricably linked in history and culture. In fertility treatment, the breast is often ignored. But it’s an active participant in the reproductive system, conception and pregnancy. Referencing her acclaimed book about the human body, Alive, Gabriel assesses the breast in the context of western art, asking the question: what are we really seeing? We also discuss the remarkable biology behind breastfeeding, and the reality of breast cancer. The image of the breast has captivated humans for centuries. Away from all the noise, we reflect on its quiet role, in the female mindset, as companion and friend.                    

Official podcast website: https://fertility-spotlight.com

Instagram: @fertilityspotlight

Dr. Gabriel Weston on Instagram: @gabrielwestonalive 

Producer: David Roper, Heavy Entertainment

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Can music make fertility treatment less stressful? Or more successful? We meet one of the world’s leading music therapists, Dr. Alison Short, associate professor at Western Sydney University. Music can humanise and de-stress, making it a compelling tool for managing anxiety and promoting wellbeing. We discuss how and when music can be used during the fertility process, and the role of music therapy in addressing issues in more depth. Our music choices are unique, says Alison, but she talks about the kind of music that may work best. She shares her research findings on music and fertility treatment, reflecting on the music tracks that comforted us during our own fertility struggles. Music is uniquely powerful. IVF patients could benefit from this. Close your eyes – and listen.

Official podcast website: https://fertility-spotlight.com

Instagram: @fertilityspotlight

Alison Short: https://researchers.westernsydney.edu.au/en/persons/alison-short/

Producer: David Roper, Heavy Entertainment  

Extract from Dum Transisset Sabbatum, by John Taverner, performed by The Choir of The Queen’s College, Oxford, conducted by Owen Rees. Label: Signum Classics. Used with permission.

Extract from Dido’s Lament, from Dido and Aeneas, by Henry Purcell, performed by Armonico Consort, conducted by Christopher Monks. Soprano: Rachael Lloyd. Label: Signum Classics. Used with permission.

Extract from La Fille Aux Cheveux De Lin, by Claude Debussy, performed by Anna Tysbuleva (piano). Label: Signum Classics. Used with permission.

Extract from Messiah, by George Friderich Handel (arr. Mozart), performed by The Huddersfield Choral Society, The Royal Philharmonic Orchestra, conducted by Sir. Charles Mackerras. Label: Signum Classics. Used with permission.

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What really happens in the lab at a fertility clinic? We speak to Suzanne Cawood, one of the UK’s top consultant-embryologists. They work behind the scenes but, as Suzanne explains, embryologists play a crucial role in the IVF process. We talk about the passion and dedication required, and the multi-faceted nature of the job. We go in-depth on the technology, including the embryoscope, genetic testing, egg and embryo vitrification, AI and robotics. The embryologist’s workday is a busy mix of human and technical interactions, requiring stamina, sensitivity and a steady hand. Suzanne speaks enthusiastically about the privilege of working at the forefront of human life – and the unique set of skills every embryologist possesses.                                         

Official podcast website: https://fertility-spotlight.com

Instagram: @fertilityspotlight

Producer: David Roper, Heavy Entertainment 

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What’s really involved when you freeze your eggs? We speak to Heather, who decided to freeze hers aged 35. Social egg freezing is the fastest growing fertility procedure in the UK. But, as Heather explains, it comes with its own set of mental and physical challenges. We discuss the duality of feeling both lonely and proud, the medical treatment itself, and the supportive role of her friends and family. Her eggs are treasures, Heather says, and this candid interview reveals her positive and thoughtful approach to the whole process. This extends to the future, as she considers her options for motherhood with or without a partner. 

Official podcast website: https://fertility-spotlight.com

Instagram: @fertilityspotlight

Heather Long: https://www.heatherlongcoaching.com/

Producer: David Roper, Heavy Entertainment 

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Many women try own-egg IVF in their early 40s. But do the success stats make this a fruitless quest? We speak to Dr. Pavel Otevřel, head doctor at the renowned Reprofit clinic in Brno, Czech Republic. Age and ovarian reserve play their part, he argues, but things get challenging at 44. At that age, donor eggs and embryos hold the power. We discuss the benefits of genetic testing, mild stimulation cycles and how tactical freezing of eggs and embryos can help certain IVF patients. Treatment decisions by older women can be psychological, not simply medical. A good clinic presents options with care and respect. From there, patients can make informed choices – and brave ones.  

Official podcast website: https://fertility-spotlight.com

Instagram: @fertilityspotlight

Producer: David Roper, Heavy Entertainment 

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What happens when IVF doesn’t work? Meet Lucy Frank, whose fertility struggles led directly to the break-up of her first marriage. She talks openly about this difficult time in her life and her decision to cease treatment. A life without one’s own children, Lucy argues, should not be a label. Your life can thrive, but the conversation around child-free living needs to change. Ostracization and prejudice persist, and Lucy explores these obstacles in her job as a sex and relationship therapist. A deeply reflective interview, reconciling the pain and complexity of letting go with the impulse to reset and renew.

Podcast website: https://fertility-spotlight.com

Instagram: @fertilityspotlight

The Y Xologist: https://theyxologist.co.uk/

Instagram: @theyxologist

Producer: David Roper, Heavy Entertainment 

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What does male infertility feel like? We speak to Ciaran Hannington, whose own fertility battle took him to rock bottom. He talks movingly about his identity crisis, his partner’s support, and the realisation that self-kindness was his route back. We discuss his work as co-founder of NeXYs Fertility, an online resource for men facing fertility issues. A judgement-free space, he argues, is what truly connects. Infertility doesn’t define you. Ciaran’s difficult road to parenthood was, eventually, inspirational. We also talk about the use of donor sperm, declining sperm quality worldwide, and what fertility clinics can do about it.

**Content warning**: This episode discusses themes related to suicide, which some listeners may find distressing and/or triggering. Listener discretion is advised.

Podcast website: https://fertility-spotlight.com

NeXYs Fertility: https://www.nexysfertility.com/

Instagram: @fertilityspotlight

Producer: David Roper, Heavy Entertainment

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