Ever feel like you're doing all the right things but still stuck in the same patterns? In this trauma-informed masterclass, former CPA turned coach Lindsay Poelman walks you through the five hidden layers that quietly run your life beneath the surface: conditioning, nervous system, story, wounding, and inheritance. If mindset work, journaling, or even therapy have left you feeling like something is still missing, this episode is the missing piece.

You'll learn how your subconscious, not your willpower or discipline, is actually steering the ship, and why lasting change starts with becoming fluent in the language of your own body. Lindsay breaks down what each layer sounds like, what it looks like day to day, and the research-backed long-term effects of ignoring your body's cues, from burnout and anxiety to chronic stress, rumination, and shame. Then she shows you the way back: naming your layers, meeting them with a curious, compassionate "gardener" approach, and doing the nervous-system-based, neuroscience-backed, trauma-informed work that actually holds.

This is nervous system regulation, somatic awareness, subconscious reprogramming, and trauma education brought together in one place, for every human, not just coaches.

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Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma is ten short videos that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:

Lindsay Poelman returns to reintroduce the show as a brand new season and open a new series on betrayal. Drawing from her own story, a high-demand Mormon upbringing, a check-the-box life, and the turning point when her husband disclosed longstanding lies about his porn use, Lindsay names betrayal trauma out loud and explains why it lives underneath so much of the pain women carry and cannot name.

Using Jennifer Freyd's definition of betrayal trauma, Lindsay walks through the many places betrayal shows up: religion and faith transitions, family systems that silence the victim to protect the family's image, institutions and medical gaslighting (including women dismissed around perimenopause), partnership and infidelity, and the self-betrayal we learn young in order to survive. Across almost a decade of coaching, she has seen the same pattern again and again, and the same way through: rebuilding self-trust, reconnecting to the body's felt sense and intuition, and using community to dissolve shame.

She closes with the heart of her work: your body is not the problem, it is the solution. Learn more inside The Fluent Human course and certification, her live community calls, and her limited one-on-one coaching.

What you'll learn in this episode

• What betrayal trauma actually is, defined through the research of Jennifer Freyd
• Why betrayal is not only about marriage, and the shape it takes underneath religion, family, institutions, and partnership
• How medical gaslighting works, and why so many women (especially around perimenopause) were told it was all in their heads
• What self-betrayal and self-abandonment are, why they were once a survival strategy, and how to tell if the pattern is still running your life
• Why rebuilding self-trust and reconnecting to your intuition is the difference between staying stuck and moving forward
• How the body holds truth, keeps score, and can sense when something is off, even when everything looks fine on the outside
• Why community and being witnessed dissolve shame faster than trying to heal alone

Key concept: What is betrayal trauma?

Betrayal trauma, as defined by Jennifer Freyd, is the deep emotional and psychological injury that happens when a person you trust, love, or depend on for safety and survival breaks that trust in a major way. Lindsay expands it into a working definition for everyday life: betrayal is being told to trust something that was not safe. Once you see it that way, you start to notice how many places you were told exactly that.

Chapters and timestamps

• 00:00 Welcome back, season reset
• 00:28 Why betrayal, again
• 01:11 My background: the checklist life
• 02:16 The first betrayal story
• 03:51 Coaching patterns and hope
• 04:54 Self-trust and The Fluent Human
• 06:43 What betrayal trauma is (Jennifer Freyd)
• 08:22 Betrayal in religion
• 09:50 Betrayal in family
• 10:55 Institutions and medical gaslighting
• 12:04 Partnership betrayal
• 13:05 Boundaries and relationships
• 15:27 Self-betrayal and self-abandonment
• 18:20 Body wisdom and intuition
• 19:03 Work with me: options
• 21:15 Final encouragement and next episodes

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma is ten short videos that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:

What if the life you’re living right now isn’t the one you’re meant to stay in?

In this deeply personal episode, I share my story of becoming trauma-informed and how it changed everything—my marriage, my parenting, my relationship with myself, and even the continent I live on.

This past decade has been the most transformative of my life. I open up about:

• My breaking points
• Why learning about trauma, anxiety, and depression was the catalyst for healing.
• The choices that catapulted me into an entirely different life (including moving to France!).
• What I’ve learned about re-parenting myself, setting boundaries, and finding freedom in my body.
• Why trauma-informed work is essential in our homes, workplaces, and communities.

This isn’t a polished “10 steps to healing” conversation. It’s raw, emotional, and honest. My hope is that as you listen, you’ll see reflections of your own journey and feel inspired to take the next brave step and learn what I did (and more) in my upcoming "LAST LIVE" Trauma-Informed Coach Certifications!

Check out the LINKS below to experience first-hand what it feels like to be held, celebrated, and deeply supported.

👉 Links:

• Trauma-Informed Coach Certification: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/traumacert
• Mythic Zions Retreat: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/mythiczions
• Adv. Trauma-Informed Coach Certification: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/relationship-trauma-certification-1
  
  

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma is ten short videos that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:

Discover the Healing Power of a Trauma-Informed Retreat

What if one weekend could shift the way your whole nervous system feels — not just for a few days, but long after you come home?

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on our Mystical Magical Zions Retreat. 

You’ll hear why a retreat isn’t just a getaway (hint: it’s a full-body reset), how intention-setting shapes the work we do together, and what it looks like to come as you are and leave with more clarity, alignment, and calm in your body.

We’ll talk about the power of gathering in community, somatic practices that open your system to change, and why nature in Zion is such a potent container for transformation.

If you’ve been craving space to exhale, recalibrate, and be deeply supported, this conversation is for you.

Don't miss out on the chance to learn about the unique experiences planned for the retreat, including:

• The importance of warm, in-person connections post-COVID, 
• The science behind using music and drumming for emotional processing, & 
• The creative ways to express and release emotions. 

Click this link to snag your spot before they're all filled up! https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/mythiczions

01:16 Meet Melissa Taylor: Somatic Practices and More
03:24 The Power of Connection and Healing
07:52 Exploring Kundalini Yoga and Breath Work
15:11 The Impact of Drumming with Jill Freestone
28:15 Song Circle with Amy: Music as a Portal

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma is ten short videos that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:

For centuries, we’ve been told to move on, stay quiet, be grateful, or trust the system—whether that system was religious, medical, familial, or societal. But what if the very institutions we were taught to trust are where the deepest betrayals took root?

In this raw, deeply personal episode, I walk you through a trauma-informed lens of betrayal in all its forms—and why naming it is not "playing the victim," but a powerful act of nervous system repair and reclamation.

We explore:

• 🔥 What betrayal trauma actually is (and why it lives in the body)
• 💔 The hidden cost of religious, medical, and societal betrayals
• 😶‍🌫️ How women especially are conditioned to betray themselves to belong
• 🧠 What neuroscience and trauma research say about repair, healing, and hope
• 💡 Why witnessing ruptures is sacred—not shameful
• 🌿 My own story of healing from personal and systemic betrayals

If you've ever felt dismissed, gaslit, silenced, or ashamed for being too sensitive or too much—this one is for you. Your wounds are real. And your healing? It’s revolutionary.

🔗 Resources & Mentorship Mentioned:

• Apply for 1:1 Mentorship: [Insert your mentorship link here]
• Join the free ReSourced Community: [Link]
• Learn more about trauma-informed coaching: [Link to certification or about pag

01:00 Personal Journey into Betrayal Coaching

04:25 Types of Betrayal

18:39 Internalized Betrayals

20:47 Healing and Moving Forward

24:34 Mentorship Opportunities

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma is ten short videos that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:

What if the parts of you that sabotage, overachieve, numb out, or shut down… were just trying to help?

In this 2 part series, I sit down with trauma therapist and IFS expert Kathy Kinghorn to explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) gives us a radical, compassionate map of the human psyche. You'll learn how the different “parts” of you—yes, even the ones that seem chaotic or contradictory—are showing up for a reason. 

✨ Topics We Cover:

• What IFS actually is (& how it mirrors your external family)
• Why they're ALL trying to help you
• The neuroscience of parts
• What happens when we speak, lead, or parent from unintegrated parts

🔗  Know an immigrant who needs a mental health eval with Kathy's team? Click here. Kathy's website: here.
💫 Become trauma-informed? Click here.
🌄 Somatic retreat this fall: Mythic Zions
🤍 Work w/ me privately: Mentorship for Coaches + Creatives

✨ Tik-Tok-er who insipired this interview: here.

Overview:

01:17 Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS)

04:55 Exploring Parts and Self-Energy

14:23 Real-Life Examples and Applications of IFS

29:00 Conclusion & Teaser for Part Two, w/ how this all relates to the current state of the US

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma is ten short videos that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:

In this episode, host Lindsay continues her insightful discussion with trauma therapist Kathy Kinghorn. They delve into the dynamics of Internal Family Systems, drawing parallels between individual trauma responses & societal behaviors in the USA. They explore the roles of different internal 'parts' & how these dynamics manifest in current socio-political climates. They emphasize the importance of conscious inner work, understanding personal values, and fostering self-energy to drive positive change. The conversation also touches on systemic racism, privilege, and the power of collective healing. Tune in for an episode that offers hope and actionable insights for personal & societal transformation.

00:50 Understanding IFS

01:57 State of the USA: A Metaphor

02:31 The Role of Firefighters in Society

03:22 Addressing Systemic Issues

06:07 Personal Values & Beliefs

08:36 Privilege & Systemic Racism

17:19 Legacy & Intergenerational Trauma

21:22 Hope for the Future

🔗  Know an immigrant who needs a mental health eval with Kathy's team? Click here. Kathy's website: here.
💫 Become trauma-informed? Click here.
🌄 Somatic retreat this fall: Mythic Zions
🤍 Work w/ me privately: Mentorship for Coaches + Creatives

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma is ten short videos that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:

What is Spirituality? What is Religion? How much overlap is there, and can one exist without the other? 

Have you ever felt like spirituality was only available through organized religion? Or that questioning religious dogma meant risking exile, shame, abandonment, or spiritual ruin?

In this episode, Lindsay Poelman shares a heartfelt, trauma-informed snippet from her FREE ReSourced program—a powerful and supportive offering for people who are leaving or have left high-demand religions like Mormonism and are seeking to reconnect with their spirituality in a safe, embodied, and empowered COMMUNITY.

Lindsay unpacks:

• The difference between spirituality and religion—and why unbraiding them is essential for spiritual reclamation.
• How patriarchal systems codified and controlled spirituality throughout history.
• The neuroscience of spiritual connection and how your nervous system plays a crucial role.
• How trauma can disconnect us from our intuition, and why it's not your fault.
• What it looks like to return to spiritual safety through your body.
• Multiple definitions and lenses for spirituality—from Jungian archetypes to earth-based wisdom.

This episode isn’t about convincing anyone to leave religion. It’s about honoring your journey, supporting your sovereignty, and offering a space for you to reclaim your inner knowing—on your own terms.

Want in on this FREE OFFERING? Click here.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma is ten short videos that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:

Someone on my email list asked me a question, so I thought it'd be helpful to talk about on today's episode.  

“Why bring politics into nervous system regulation?”

If you’ve ever wondered whether you should be bringing your values into your coaching, your healing, or your business...

If you’ve been told nervous system work is “neutral”...

If you’ve been praised for being the “quiet one,” the “good girl,” or the one who never rocks the boat...

This is the episode you need to hear.

I share:

• Why nervous system regulation is rarely apolitical (even if yours feels that way)
• How public policy and systemic harm get embedded in our bodies—and passed down
• What dentists, trauma survivors, and traffic stops have in common (yep, really)
• Why silence isn't always sacred—and can sometimes be complicity in disguise

I also get real about:

• The moment I stopped performing palatable neutrality
• Why I want my kids to know I used my voice
• How to reclaim your unique way of creating change 

But don’t just read about it—listen in.

The nuance lives inside the conversation. And the invitation at the end? It might just change your life.

00:00 Introduction and Email Context

01:04 The Interconnectedness of Health and Politics

01:47 The Impact of Trauma on Health

03:00 Politics and Nervous System Regulation

05:16 Real-World Examples of Political Impact

09:39 Personal Responsibility and Advocacy

15:53 Invitation to Join Certification Programs

17:14 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma is ten short videos that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:

We always hear about bad spending habits—but no one talks about the worst ways we try to save money.

In this episode, I share a personal story from a family gathering that led me to reflect upon what it really costs us to make "practical" money decisions that compromise our wellbeing, our joy, and sometimes even our health.

This episode will make you rethink everything from how you spend on yourself… to the deeply subconscious reasons you don’t.

You'll hear:

• The one line from an A/C installer that stopped me in my tracks.
• The surprising connection between attachment styles and money habits.
• How trauma, nervous system dysregulation, and childhood conditioning shape our spending choices.
• Why some of your worst spending patterns might actually be self-protective—and how to shift that with compassion.
• Prompts to explore the energy behind your past decisions .
• A loving challenge to stop glorifying suffering in the name of saving.

Whether you tend to over-give, under-spend, or freeze when it comes to investing in yourself—this episode is here to bring awareness to ultimately rewire your money relationship with clarity & care.

🎧 Listen now to explore the hidden cost of staying stuck—so you can start making decisions that support the version of you you're becoming.

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If this episode resonates, I’d love to hear from you.
Come find me on Instagram @lindsaypoelmancoaching and share:
🗣️ What’s one “worst way to save money” that stuck with you?

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma is ten short videos that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay: