Become A Trauma Informed Coach

How did I not see it? If the fog just lifted in a hard relationship and the first thing you felt was shame, this episode is for you.

In part three of The Reckoning, Lindsay Poelman explains the neuroscience of why clarity shows up late. When your nervous system is under sustained threat, your brain runs on survival mode and the prefrontal cortex, the part that sees the big picture, gets turned down. Clarity arrives when your body feels safe enough to see. It was never about how smart you are. It was about how safe you were.

Lindsay breaks down trauma bonds (why they feel like love and like home), intermittent reinforcement (the slot machine effect that makes leaving feel like withdrawal), and co-regulation, the most underused tool for getting your sense of safety back. Then she gets personal about deconstructing and leaving the Mormon church: the moment on the Amalfi Coast that gave her the courage, the friends who stayed, and the grief of being discarded by a community. If your fog is lifting about a partner, a family, or a faith, this is why insight alone doesn’t get you out, and what does.

• 00:00 Welcome and series setup
• 01:32 The fog lifts and self-blame
• 02:47 Leaving Mormonism: context
• 05:51 The neuroscience of safety
• 10:05 Denial and awareness
• 12:02 Trauma bond basics
• 13:29 Intermittent reinforcement
• 15:01 A public example 
• 17:32 Co-regulation explained
• 20:27 The Amalfi Coast turning point
• 24:24 Reach out or isolate?
• 27:05 Everything is a relationship
• 32:18 Grief and community discard
• 34:17 Narcissism vs emotional immaturity
• 36:26 Safety first, then insight
• 38:37 The Boundaries Reset
• 39:22 Closing thanks

In this episode:

• Why “how did I not see it?” is the wrong question, and the better one.
• Survival mode and the prefrontal cortex: why you can’t think your way to clarity while your body believes it’s in danger
• Safety is a spectrum
• Denial: Nervous System Capacity or a Choice 
• Trauma bond vs love
• Intermittent reinforcement 
• Co-regulation
• Your pattern when you’re scared
• Leaving the Mormon church, religious trauma, and community discard 
• Narcissism vs emotional immaturity: one question to help tell them apart

Links and next steps:

• The Boundaries Reset, $17: 10 emails over 10 days, with a workbook and audio files, to help you get clear on internal and external boundaries and why they feel so hard to set. It’s the bridge into next week’s episode: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/boundariesreset
• Want to talk about getting support? Click here. 
• Next episode, part four: the single most clarifying tool Lindsay knows, and how setting a boundary shows you the true essence of a relationship.
• Go deeper: The Fluent Human Course™ [Course link] · The Fluent Human Certification™ for coaches [Certification link]
• Loved this one? Please leave a review. It’s the single biggest thing that helps a new listener find the show.

Lindsay is a trauma-informed coach, not a therapist. If you are in an unsafe relationship, you can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788.

Common questions (FAQ):

• Why didn’t I see it sooner? Because a nervous system under sustained threat prioritizes survival over analysis. The brain regions that plan, weigh, and connect dots get turned down so threat detection can take the wheel. When you feel even a little safer, those regions come back online and the pieces click. The sudden clarity is evidence that some part of you got safe enough to see.
• Is a trauma bond love? No. The feeling is real, but the story wrapped around it is not. If closeness and fear came bundled together early in life, that same push and pull can feel like home, because the body codes familiar as safe even when it isn’t.
• What is intermittent reinforcement in a relationship? It’s when warmth and cruelty come unpredictably. Like a slot machine, the occasional jackpot (the good week, the apology, the reprieve) is what keeps you pulling. The stress-then-relief cycle is why leaving can feel physical, almost like withdrawal.
• Why can’t I leave even though I know it’s bad? Insight lives in your head. The pattern lives in your body. You may have built enough safety to see the truth but not yet enough to act on it. That’s not failure. It’s the order of operations your biology requires.
• What is co-regulation? Humans are wired to borrow calm from each other. In the presence of a safe person, your breath drops and your body remembers it’s no longer in danger. If people feel like too much, start with a pet. If that isn’t available, go outside.
• Is it narcissism or emotional immaturity? The behaviors can look alike. One question that helps: is this person trying to exert power or control over me, or do they not know how to show up for me?
• Why does leaving the church feel like being discarded? For many people, friendships and community shift quickly after leaving a faith, and that loss can feel a lot like the discard stage of a narcissistic relationship. Lindsay also honors the active members who have loved her and her kids exactly as they are.

Support the show

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:...

In part two of The Reckoning series, Lindsay Poelman maps the full cycle of covert narcissistic abuse: idealize, devalue, discard, and hoover. Through a blended composite story she shows why the harm is in the pattern and not the single moment, why the relief is the hook, how gaslighting and a "supporting cast" isolate you, and why your nervous system kept you from seeing it sooner. 

She also mentions an important rule of thumb to keep in mind if you are dating. 

And during this month only, we're celebrating 100 episodes with a 2-for-1 on the Certification or the Fluent Human Course! 

Bring your person free for the course or cert AND up to 36 LIVE group debrief calls! through October 31. 

Certification Offer: 2-for-1 link 

Course Offer: 2-for-1 link

Boundaries Reset: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/boundariesreset. 

00:00 Welcome and offers 

01:48 Subtle warning signs 

03:05 Covert vs overt narcissism 

05:08 Idealize, devalue, discard 

07:21 Hoovering and the relief hook 

09:24 The cycle of abuse explained 

10:56 Hope, gaslighting, isolation 

13:17 Nervous system survival mode 

15:39 Boundaries Reset and next episode 

Support the show

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:...

Everyone everywhere all at once is talking about narcissism. So, are there actually more narcissists now, or are more people finally able to name it and leave?

In part one of The Reckoning, Lindsay Poelman makes the case that this is not an epidemic, it is a reckoning. 

This is the first in a weekly series on narcissism, partnership, and untangling yourself from behavior that spent a long time convincing you that you were the problem, when you may not have been. The written version is already posting on Substack, so if you cannot wait for the weekly episodes, you can read ahead.

In this episode:

• Why it feels like narcissism is everywhere, and what is actually changing
• What narcissism really is, as a pattern, not a bad day
• Overt vs covert narcissism, and why covert is so much harder to name
• Narcissist or narcissistic traits? How to tell the difference without diagnosing anyone
• What narcissistic collapse is, and why the behavior escalates instead of quietly stopping
• The extinction burst: why the loudest moment is often the last gasp, not a sign of strength
• The one tool to keep: when words and actions do not match, believe the actions

Common questions (FAQ):

• Is narcissism actually increasing, or is it just a trendy word? The behavior has likely always been here. What is new is that more people have the language and the resources to name it and leave.
• What is the difference between a narcissist and someone with narcissistic traits? A clinical diagnosis is a professional's call. Traits and patterns, like chronic blame-shifting and low empathy, you can observe and protect yourself from without a diagnosis.
• What is covert narcissism? A quieter presentation where control runs through guilt, victimhood, and rewriting reality rather than obvious grandiosity.
• What is narcissistic collapse? The destabilized spiral a person can go into when the control and admiration they depend on dry up, for example when a partner starts to leave. It usually looks like escalation, not surrender.

Offers and links:

• Cannot wait? The full series is posted now on Substack. 
• The Boundaries Reset, 17 dollars, the gentlest first step to setting a boundary from an anchored place.
• Find your circle this October: buy one seat in the Fluent Human Course or the trauma-informed Certification, and bring your person through with you, free. You buy one, email me the person you want included, and I set them up. Limited spots, especially for the certification, through October 31. 
• No person to bring, or need a scholarship? Email [email protected]
• Loved this one? Please leave an honest review. It is the single biggest thing that helps a new listener find the show.

Chapters:

00:00 Welcome and Series Intro

01:12 Offers and Scholarships

03:06 Why Narcissism Matters Now

04:15 Are There More Narcissists

05:39 What Narcissism Is

07:02 Overt Versus Covert

10:39 Labels and Body Trust

11:56 Diagnosis Versus Patterns

15:24 Actions Over Words

17:50 Why It Feels Like Epidemic

20:52 Extinction Bursts Explained

25:02 Reframe and Next Steps

Support the show

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:...

One hundred episodes. To celebrate, I am not throwing confetti. I am handing you the two practices that carried me from the woman who first sat behind this microphone to the one recording today.

First, the 100 words practice, a simple boundary for your brain that I borrowed from the patron saint of not wasting words, Ron Swanson. I get into the neuroscience of why your brain loops in the first place, and offer a tip to start shifting it. 

Then, a light touch manifestation technique I learned from a mentor of mine, which is different from the usual force-the-positive advice.

I also open up about what turning 100 stirred up in me. Being back in Utah and choosing your flavor of hard, why I keep saying the true thing out loud, and what a visibility year has to do with any of it. I also introduce The Reckoning, an upcoming series on narcissism and coming home to yourself, which has already posted over on Substack.

If this show has ever helped you, even once, my one birthday wish is an honest review. And this month, come find your circle.

In this episode:

• Why you feel like a different person year over year, and why that is a good thing
• The 100 words practice: how to set a boundary to eliminate rumination  
• Why your brain loops, explained through the default mode network, and why awareness alone starts to change it
• Light touch manifestation technique
• The difference between processing and looping, and how to tell which one you are in
• Choosing your flavor of hard, wherever you live

Offers and links:

• The Boundaries Reset, 17 dollars: [link]
• To celebrate 100 episodes! BOGO! Find your circle this October with two for one on the Fluent Human Course or the trauma-informed Certification. Buy one, bring a friend or colleague through with you. Purchase, then email our team with the name and email of the person you want included: [email protected]
• Need a partner or a scholarship? A limited number of scholarships are granted each year. Scholarship link, or email [email protected] and ask for an application.
• The Reckoning series is posting now on Substack.
• Loved this episode? Please leave an honest review. It is the single biggest thing that helps a new listener find the show.

Chapters:

• 00:00 Turning 100, a different woman behind the mic
• 00:51 A 100th-episode ask: leave a review
• 01:41 October offers: the Boundaries Reset and finding your circle
• 03:41 A visibility year and speaking hard truths
• 05:03 Returning to yourself, and introducing the Reckoning
• 07:15 Back in Utah, choosing your flavor of hard
• 09:11 The 100 words practice, a boundary for your brain
• 12:09 Why your brain loops, the default mode network
• 13:23 Light touch manifestation 
• 16:13 Your practice this week, and wrap

Support the show

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:...

What happens when a nurse with 36 years at the bedside, 22 of them in the ICU, certifies to teach other nurses to feel their feelings and complete stress response cycles? 

In this episode I sit down with Terri Petroff, an ICU nurse leader who came through The Fluent Human Certification™ and is now building an evidence-based program to reduce nurse burnout from the inside out. Terri has spent her career being with people on the worst day of their lives. She has also watched what that costs the people giving the care.

We get honest about the parts of nursing nobody trains you for. The death and dying. The violent procedures. The moral distress. The workplace violence that Terri says makes nurses more likely to be assaulted than police officers, most of it going unreported because nurses are taught it is "just part of the job." For 22 years Terri was told to never process any of it. What she learned is the thing so many high-capacity, caring people learn too late: what you do not process shows up sideways.

This is a conversation about what it actually looks like to get trauma-informed and put it to work. Terri walks through the tools from the certification that landed for her: the four lenses, the trauma responses (freeze, fawn, flight, fight, and frenzy) and how each one shows up on a real shift, and the self-compassion work that lets a nurse who made a med error write a new story instead of carrying the shame. She shares the 30-second pause her team takes after a code, the end-of-shift huddle where nurses name what was hard and who they are grateful for, and the moment she watched an entire unit exhale.

Then she tells us what she is building. An eight-week cohort program for bedside nurses with validated pre and post stress measures, designed to prove it lowers perceived stress, protects nurses, and saves hospitals the roughly 83,000 dollars it costs to replace a single nurse. Terri did not just take the certification. She is running the experiment to show it works.

If you have ever thought "that sounds great, but I am too exhausted to add one more thing," this episode is for you. Terri's answer to that is the whole point: you do not get your energy back by resting harder. You get it back by learning to process what you are carrying.

Her closing line is the reason this show exists. "To be fully human is to be fully fluent in all of those emotions."

What you will learn

• Why the tools nurses actually need are science-based, not "just go do more yoga"
• The real scope of workplace violence against nurses, and what prevention can look like (risk scoring, safety huddles, staffing two nurses to a room)
• The five trauma responses and how freeze, fawn, flight, fight, and frenzy show up on a shift
• How a 30-second pause after a code and a simple end-of-shift huddle change a whole unit's nervous system
• Why "I am too exhausted for coaching" is the exact reason to start
• Who the certification is really for, and how to know if that is you

Where to find Terri

Terri's coaching business is The Renewed RN, where she supports nurses one-on-one and in groups.

• Website: ReNewedRN.com
• Email: [email protected]

Timestamps

• 00:00 Meet Terri Petroff
• 00:57 Nursing roots and burnout
• 01:36 ICU trauma and COVID
• 04:04 The reality of workplace violence against nurses
• 06:02 Preventing nurse assaults
• 08:12 What landed most from the certification
• 11:06 Debriefs, the pause, and gratitude huddles
• 15:32 The identity and agency shift
• 17:57 The eight-week nurse program she is building
• 20:09 "I am too exhausted for coaching"
• 24:23 Who should get certified
• 25:33 Final message and where to find Terri
• 27:06 Closing

Support the show

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:...

You can read the room the second you walk in. You know your partner's mood by the way the door closes. So why is the one person you can't quite read... you?

If you've ever understood one of your own patterns perfectly and still found yourself right back in it by Monday, this episode is for you. Lindsay unpacks the difference between awareness and actual change, and why insight alone never seems to be enough. Today's AH-HA: Insight lives in your head, but your patterns live __________________, and information alone doesn't reach the place where the pattern actually lives.

You've spent your whole life becoming fluent in everyone else's needs and everyone else's weather. It kept you safe, it kept you chosen, and it was a genius adaptation. But what if you brought even a fraction of that brilliance home to yourself? That's fluency, and it might be the most freeing, sovereign thing you ever learn.

In this episode:

• Why being "fluent in everyone else" is a survival skill, not a flaw, and what it's quietly costing you now
• The trap smart, self-aware, growth-loving people keep falling into (and why it's not that something's wrong with you)
• The real difference between knowing something and being fluent in yourself
• How to tell a trigger from a true intuitive hit, so you stop gaslighting yourself
• The four lenses (neuroscience, nervous system, somatic body, and psyche/soul) that make change actually hold
• What that "oof, that's a lot" feeling about investing in yourself is really telling you

Ready to become fluent in the language of your own body? The Fluent Human Course is a self-paced program with short, easy videos, real somatic tools, journal prompts, a full workbook, and lifetime access, so you can come back to it in any season of your life.

This weekend only: Labor Day pricing is on, with 50% off the course when you use code LABOR at checkout. Live debrief calls start next week, and the sooner you join, the more intimate access you get to Lindsay on those calls. 

Enroll in the Fluent Human Course: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/fluenthumancourse

Certification-curious and want to go all in? The Fluent Human Method certification takes everything in the course and adds live semesters, peer coaching, and everything you need to become a certified trauma-informed coach. Book a call with Lindsay first and she'll help you get clarity either way: https://LindsayPoelman.as.me. If this is what your wanting, type LABORDAY in at checkout and see if you did it in time for a limited offer! 

If this landed, follow the show, share it with someone who's fluent in everyone but themselves, and come find Lindsay on your favorite platform. xo

Support the show

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:...

Ever feel like you're doing all the right things but still stuck in the same patterns? In this trauma-informed masterclass, former CPA turned coach Lindsay Poelman walks you through the five hidden layers that quietly run your life beneath the surface: conditioning, nervous system, story, wounding, and inheritance. If mindset work, journaling, or even therapy have left you feeling like something is still missing, this episode is the missing piece.

You'll learn how your subconscious, not your willpower or discipline, is actually steering the ship, and why lasting change starts with becoming fluent in the language of your own body. Lindsay breaks down what each layer sounds like, what it looks like day to day, and the research-backed long-term effects of ignoring your body's cues, from burnout and anxiety to chronic stress, rumination, and shame. Then she shows you the way back: naming your layers, meeting them with a curious, compassionate "gardener" approach, and doing the nervous-system-based, neuroscience-backed, trauma-informed work that actually holds.

This is nervous system regulation, somatic awareness, subconscious reprogramming, and trauma education brought together in one place, for every human, not just coaches.

Podcast listeners! subscribe here for your exclusive intro price on The Fluent Human Course: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/podcastsubscriber

Take the free Fluent Human Quiz to discover your most dominant layer, then listen all the way to the end for an exclusive podcast-listener intro price on The Fluent Human Course and Certification. Quiz Link: https://lindsaypoelman.typeform.com/to/smIB1wMq

Once you subscribe, watch for your special code on the thank-you page and in your welcome email, and be sure to whitelist [email protected] so nothing lands in spam.

Support the show

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:...

Lindsay Poelman returns to reintroduce the show as a brand new season and open a new series on betrayal. Drawing from her own story, a high-demand Mormon upbringing, a check-the-box life, and the turning point when her husband disclosed longstanding lies about his porn use, Lindsay names betrayal trauma out loud and explains why it lives underneath so much of the pain women carry and cannot name.

Using Jennifer Freyd's definition of betrayal trauma, Lindsay walks through the many places betrayal shows up: religion and faith transitions, family systems that silence the victim to protect the family's image, institutions and medical gaslighting (including women dismissed around perimenopause), partnership and infidelity, and the self-betrayal we learn young in order to survive. Across almost a decade of coaching, she has seen the same pattern again and again, and the same way through: rebuilding self-trust, reconnecting to the body's felt sense and intuition, and using community to dissolve shame.

She closes with the heart of her work: your body is not the problem, it is the solution. Learn more inside The Fluent Human course and certification, her live community calls, and her limited one-on-one coaching.

What you'll learn in this episode

• What betrayal trauma actually is, defined through the research of Jennifer Freyd
• Why betrayal is not only about marriage, and the shape it takes underneath religion, family, institutions, and partnership
• How medical gaslighting works, and why so many women (especially around perimenopause) were told it was all in their heads
• What self-betrayal and self-abandonment are, why they were once a survival strategy, and how to tell if the pattern is still running your life
• Why rebuilding self-trust and reconnecting to your intuition is the difference between staying stuck and moving forward
• How the body holds truth, keeps score, and can sense when something is off, even when everything looks fine on the outside
• Why community and being witnessed dissolve shame faster than trying to heal alone

Key concept: What is betrayal trauma?

Betrayal trauma, as defined by Jennifer Freyd, is the deep emotional and psychological injury that happens when a person you trust, love, or depend on for safety and survival breaks that trust in a major way. Lindsay expands it into a working definition for everyday life: betrayal is being told to trust something that was not safe. Once you see it that way, you start to notice how many places you were told exactly that.

Chapters and timestamps

• 00:00 Welcome back, season reset
• 00:28 Why betrayal, again
• 01:11 My background: the checklist life
• 02:16 The first betrayal story
• 03:51 Coaching patterns and hope
• 04:54 Self-trust and The Fluent Human
• 06:43 What betrayal trauma is (Jennifer Freyd)
• 08:22 Betrayal in religion
• 09:50 Betrayal in family
• 10:55 Institutions and medical gaslighting
• 12:04 Partnership betrayal
• 13:05 Boundaries and relationships
• 15:27 Self-betrayal and self-abandonment
• 18:20 Body wisdom and intuition
• 19:03 Work with me: options
• 21:15 Final encouragement and next episodes

Support the show

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:...

What if the life you’re living right now isn’t the one you’re meant to stay in?

In this deeply personal episode, I share my story of becoming trauma-informed and how it changed everything—my marriage, my parenting, my relationship with myself, and even the continent I live on.

This past decade has been the most transformative of my life. I open up about:

• My breaking points
• Why learning about trauma, anxiety, and depression was the catalyst for healing.
• The choices that catapulted me into an entirely different life (including moving to France!).
• What I’ve learned about re-parenting myself, setting boundaries, and finding freedom in my body.
• Why trauma-informed work is essential in our homes, workplaces, and communities.

This isn’t a polished “10 steps to healing” conversation. It’s raw, emotional, and honest. My hope is that as you listen, you’ll see reflections of your own journey and feel inspired to take the next brave step and learn what I did (and more) in my upcoming "LAST LIVE" Trauma-Informed Coach Certifications!

Check out the LINKS below to experience first-hand what it feels like to be held, celebrated, and deeply supported.

👉 Links:

• Trauma-Informed Coach Certification: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/traumacert
• Mythic Zions Retreat: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/mythiczions
• Adv. Trauma-Informed Coach Certification: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/relationship-trauma-certification-1
  
  

Support the show

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Discover the Healing Power of a Trauma-Informed Retreat

What if one weekend could shift the way your whole nervous system feels — not just for a few days, but long after you come home?

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on our Mystical Magical Zions Retreat. 

You’ll hear why a retreat isn’t just a getaway (hint: it’s a full-body reset), how intention-setting shapes the work we do together, and what it looks like to come as you are and leave with more clarity, alignment, and calm in your body.

We’ll talk about the power of gathering in community, somatic practices that open your system to change, and why nature in Zion is such a potent container for transformation.

If you’ve been craving space to exhale, recalibrate, and be deeply supported, this conversation is for you.

Don't miss out on the chance to learn about the unique experiences planned for the retreat, including:

• The importance of warm, in-person connections post-COVID, 
• The science behind using music and drumming for emotional processing, & 
• The creative ways to express and release emotions. 

Click this link to snag your spot before they're all filled up! https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/mythiczions

01:16 Meet Melissa Taylor: Somatic Practices and More
03:24 The Power of Connection and Healing
07:52 Exploring Kundalini Yoga and Breath Work
15:11 The Impact of Drumming with Jill Freestone
28:15 Song Circle with Amy: Music as a Portal

Support the show

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! 
• Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.
• New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Meet Lindsay:...