The word narcissist gets tossed around online, but the lived pattern is painfully consistent—a rush of praise, a sudden chill of devaluation, the shock of discard, and the too-familiar pull of hoovering.

In this deeply validating episode, we sit down with licensed therapist Lauren Flowers, author of Becoming Narcissist-Proof, to map the entire cycle of narcissistic abuse with clinical clarity and embodied compassion. This isn’t armchair diagnosis, it’s a roadmap for healing trauma, reclaiming your power, and rebuilding your nervous system after manipulation.

Lauren unpacks how love bombing, gaslighting, and emotional control operate beneath charming exteriors and what makes certain people especially vulnerable to the pattern. You’ll hear riveting real-life stories from her book (including her own) and learn how to recognize the red flags in romantic, family, and workplace relationships.

We break down manipulation as a simple equation and explore how it hides behind kindness, guilt, and ever-shifting rules. You’ll also learn to spot “proof of choice” moments and how the drama Triangle traps empathetic, high-responsibility people in toxic loops.

If you’ve ever felt the gut twist, fog, or whiplash of a narcissistic dynamic, this conversation is your map out.

 Recognize the pattern. Release what was never yours to hold. Reclaim who you were before the adaptations.

🪞In This Episode

• What it really means to be “narcissist-proof”
• How to recognize the signs of manipulation and gaslighting in real time
• Why your body always knows first—and how to listen to it
• The forgiveness framework that changes everything
• How to stop attracting narcissistic dynamics and reclaim your wholeness
• A surprisingly healing perspective on why narcissists behave the way they do

📘 About the Book: Becoming Narcissist-Proof

Lauren’s book is a transformational guide that blends neuroscience, psychology, and spiritual wisdom into practical, life-changing frameworks. Through seven real-life stories and powerful somatic tools, she helps readers move through the three pillars: Recognize. Release. Reclaim.

✨ Get your copy (and the companion workbook + meditations) at narcissistproofbook.com

Use code HONEST10 for $10 off your bundle.

Lisset’s Huna Introduction

During this episode, Lisset shares how her deep forgiveness work through the Hawaiian spiritual practice of Huna and Ho‘oponopono has been one of the most powerful medicines in her life and her work.

If you’ve been curious about forgiveness on a cellular level, one that liberates you from old emotional contracts and clears the path for your next level of freedom. Lisset has a few spots left in her upcoming Huna Intro Class. Feb 21 & 22 2026 

✨ Join her at LissetKing.com/Huna

Honest Feedback was created by Brittney King and Lisset King.

Note: Honest Feedback Podcast aims to provide insights and provoke thoughtful reflection. The opinions expressed in this episode are for informational purposes only and should not replace professional advice.

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