So you’re working hard and you’re doing your own thing. You know in your core you work harder than the vast majority of men. You’ve got plans in the works and you apply yourself with dedication and discipline. And you love your woman and you love your children like crazy. They’re lucky to have you.

But take a step back and be honest with yourself.

Are you the very best version of you?

The. Very. Best.

Are you consistently educating yourself? Are you physically lean and mean? Mentally and emotionally, are you on point? Have you quit all the shallow distractions you know you should quit? Are your financials where they should be? Do you get the respect and attention you deserve from your woman? Is it entertaining just to be you? Do you Enjoy Your Own Company?

In other words, are you walking around right now as your Ideal Self?

Or to put it more powerfully, are you walking around as the Force of Nature you were meant to be?

If so, then congratulations, you’re on your way to the High Country and justifying every breath you take. Perhaps I will see you there, if I can keep up.

But if you cannot honestly say you currently exist as a living, pulsating Force of Nature, then let me put forth a cold hard fact—

There’s a Whole Other Level.

Even though when you come home from work you’re tired and fed up, there is still a whole other level.

Even though you’ve taken a few hits and a bit of a beating over the years, there is still a whole other level.

And even though you think there’s no possible way you can do any more, there is still a whole other level.

At some point a man has to get fed up with himself, if he still wants to truly live; if there is still a fire that burns within.

The fact that you’ve read this far tells me there is indeed a fire that burns deep. It’s in there looking for a way out to greatness.

And the way out to greatness is find your Reason.

Until you find your Reason, you’ll remain where you are. All the same excuses and diversions will continue to get in the way unless you find your Why. There has to be something you can sink your teeth into; something that will harden your resolve to the point where you just won’t let go—ever.

For me, it was a Life Storm that set things on fire. I was blind sided. To be honest, I was surprised I was able to function. But the fact that I was, turned on the Light in my Soul. It dawned on me one day, I was more than I gave myself credit for—much more.

This was my Reason. I was leaving way too much on the table and it was a waste of potential. It was simply wrong. I’d been shown the Light and there was no way I could refuse to pursue it.

And I suspect it’s the same for all of us—

The same for you.

I would become the damn storm. I was going to go all out until my last day. I was going to push back in Righteous Defiance. For me this was the only Answer.

Find your Reason and then find your Answer.

Perhaps this can be your Reason as well: you’re simply not living up to your God given potential. It’s wrong and there’s no time to waste. Period.

And besides, what could be more exiting and worthy for a man than to pursue Personal Greatness?

And perhaps this—Personal Greatness—can be your Answer.

Justify your life

Think of the glory, benefit and Virtue that will come about by developing all the innate talents you’ve been given. What better way could there be to justify your life and exemplify sincere gratitude for every breath you take?

Find your Reason and then find your Answer.

You don’t have to do it all at once. All that matters is that you Burn the Bridge Behind...

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Max

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Max

You know who you are. And you know what your Ideal Self should look like.

But life keeps getting in the way and you’re just not cutting it.

You keep letting yourself get knocked off track. Sometimes it’s by outside forces. But mostly, if we’re really being honest, it’s your own damn fault.

You realize this now; that you’re ultimately the author of your own circumstances.

But the day has finally come and you’ve made the final decision. Finally, you’ve exhausted all excuses and you’re sick of committing only half-way.

And you’re sick and tired of disappointing yourself. It’s become tiresome and it’s become unbearable.

Regardless of what happens from now on, you will take full responsibility for your life—you will go all in.

You will commit all the way.

And Burn the Bridge Behind You.

You’re going to put your life on the line. No matter what happens you’re going to keep pushing forward.

It’s finally dawned on you, there is no other answer. This is the only way to begin the glorious path to your Ultimate Self.

And you’ve got to get there because you’re wasting your life, your potential and it’s not right.

You’ve pretty much seen it all by this point. There’s been family issues, a crash and burn love life, personal weaknesses, shallow distractions, failures, laziness, betrayals and more. Some of this is from others and some of it is from you.

But for some reason you just don’t care anymore about any of it; past, present or future. All that matters is that you will pursue Your Life’s Destiny and become the very best you can be.

Everything that happens to you will now pass through this prism. Pursuing Excellence and Virtue is the only answer. Everything else is just a meaningless diversion.

You will use it all, everything that comes at you, as a means to an end.

The starting point is right now, this very instant; there is to be no delay. And because you’ve made an irreversible decision, you will take the Long View.

Once the decision is made and you know it’s non-negotiable, there’s a certain comfort and confidence in the Long View.

After all, you’ve burned the bridge behind you so there’s no turning back. You might as well settle in.

You might as well persevere. You will persevere.

What other choice do you have? You know you can become who you need to be. And when you get right down to it, the only thing that’s been missing is the guts and perseverance.

As we said at the beginning of this essay—you know who you are. You know what you’re capable of. And you’ve got a sneaking suspicion there is an untapped level or two beyond what you can currently see. It will be an exhilarating ride to test yourself and find out.

There's no way you can fail

If you just never quit, there’s no way you can fail.

It might not happen as quickly as you want. And everything might not work out exactly as you want it to. But there’s no way you can fail to become the man you want to be, if you just never stop.

Action is now the answer. You will take action and persevere. If necessary, you will fail your way forward. Even if you do make some mistakes and crash, at least you’ve got the guts to pursue your Destiny. To hell with what anyone else thinks. You’re now your own man.

The bottom line is that you will get out there every day and get after it. It’s not complicated. Like most of life, you will work the fundamentals; these same fundamentals that you’ve ignored in the past. You will work them until they become a reflex, until they become instinct.

Patience and repetition are the key—practice, practice, practice. You will practice and work until you’re sick of...

One of the pleasures that a man should rightly enjoy in this life and one that is in congruence with the natural order, is the polarity between the sexes. It is no accident, there is as much contrast between men and women as there is. It is the way it is supposed to be and it is good.

And as you pursue Your Life’s Destiny with a vengeance each day, this contrast will become more and more evident.

Your woman will see with her own eyes that you’ve hardened yourself physically and that you’re now a standout among men. Innately she will enjoy this purely physical aspect of your being. She will find your raw power and explosiveness extremely alluring. And she won’t be able to help herself, it is built into her evolutionary core.

She will also see that you’ve hardened your character. You’ve now got direction and focus like never before. And this too will be of significant interest.

There is nothing quite as exciting for a woman as experiencing first hand her man’s potential. Especially when she begins to see that potential become manifest. It will thrill her to no end, when she senses the fact that you’ve gone hardcore and you just won’t stop. She will feel secure and it will please her.

But what will become the most enticing for her, is your heightened and growing masculine energy. All of your planning, effort and Dynamism will begin to transform you over time; not just physically, but metaphysically. There will be something more to your Being. You will project a new and intangible energy that only few men possess. And it will make you magnetic.

As you walk around and interact with both her and others your energy will affect them. Most won’t be consciously aware of why it is they feel so good, just that they do. And that’s all that will matter. She will enjoy how it makes her feel and how it affects others as well. It will give her direct and vicarious pleasure to be in your company.

You will see this with your own eyes.

You will look over at your woman and there she will be.

She will be happy, sultry and never more feminine.

She will be standing there bursting with life and glowing like never before, Simmering in Female Delight.

Bursting with life and glowing like never before

Yes indeed, these are some the things that make life worth living.

And this is how you will get there:

Suddenly one day, your woman will surprise you when she begins to take a keen interest in your endeavors. At first it’s likely that she will pay scant attention to your efforts. In fact, there might even be some annoyance and shit testing on her part as you begin to change course.

No matter though, you’re out there carving a new path based the core principles you’ve committed to and are willing to go it alone if necessary. At some point a man’s got to do what a man’s got to do, regardless of what his woman thinks. Mission first and woman second. You know this now; this is the only answer.

But then it will begin to happen. You’ll catch your woman staring at you at some point and she’ll have interesting look in her eye; you’ll remember this look fondly from back in the day. And when you look up to meet her gaze she’ll suddenly realize she was staring and react quickly to inquire you about your new interests and commitments.

These questions will continue and as she sees your character, energy and physical nature transform, she will begin to adopt your path. Whether it be your spiritual, diet, training, reading, writing or financial pursuits, slowly but surely your interests will begin to align. Your lives will become in congruence.

And this gentlemen, will be sweet; sweet indeed. It is how things are supposed to be between a man and his woman. Enjoy.

Yes indeed, she’s the lucky one in your relationship and she knows it. You’ve become an embarrassment of riches in your quest to become a Force of Nature. You’re the complete package and she stands aghast some days at her good fortune as she admires you going about your business.

And the best part is that she sees no end in sight to your rising Trajectory. It’s only going to get better and more exciting. There is just something innately natural about being included in the life of a man on a Mission—a man who is driven and indomitable. It’s an instinctive high that seems to make just about everything in her life seem right.

The energy you walk around with is addictive. You can tell that she feeds off it as you sense her longing gaze every day. More often than not you’ll catch her watching you. She tries to look you off as your eyes meet, but it’s obvious you caught her doing it again. It’s a little embarrassing, but she can’t help herself; there is a certain thrill for her in getting caught in this implicit admiration.

Your steely countenance as your eyes meet, also acts like a magnet and keeps her on her toes. She is keenly aware you’re Outcome Independent regarding her affections. You’ve made it very obvious what your expectations are, but on any occasion you can take it or leave it. There are many layers to your life and you’ve always got plenty that interests you.

This makes you the one worth pursuing—you’re the prize. You’ve got what she needs and she’s not ashamed to admit it. And you’re only going to get better.

Plus, she is acutely conscious of the reality that many other women sense the same things about you that she does. She’s seen it with her own eyes when you’re out together; the smiles, the preening and the attention make it plainly obvious.

This is a double edged sword for your woman. There’s always a little worry for her that you have many viable options—too many. But then, the idea that other attractive women find you alluring on a primal level is also very exciting for her. It’s tangible evidence that she chose well. Such is the nature of evolutionary selection over the millennia.

She chose well

So what is it that you’ve done to create this relationship that exists as the way it was meant to be?

And why is it exactly that She’s The Lucky One and you both know it?

This is why:

There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a man driven with a Force of Purpose. You’ve got your Life Mission, the foundational principles for everything you do. And you’ve got your Life Vision, the accomplishments and the lifestyle you’ve committed to pursue. Every day is treated as a field of dreams. Everything is about challenge and opportunity. You are indomitable and overflowing with ambition and potential. All of this is exciting and addictive for her and she can’t get enough of it.

As a hardened man of Virtue your character is second to none. Your principles are as solid as cold steel and there’s no question in her mind about your honor and loyalty. In short you’re dependable and she feels secure under your leadership. You’ve got it all—ambition, excitement, toughness, tremendous potential and dependability. You are both shield and tip of the spear and she is keenly aware that most other men can only pale in comparison.

Physically you’re lean, fit and explosive. You condition yourself relentlessly as a matter of principle. She can see that you do indeed embrace the comfort of physical discomfort. This distinguishes you among men and adds another impressive layer to your persona. And once again, most other men don’t even come close. She can see that you have hardened yourself both physically and mentally through your training. And as the natural order would have it this is something she just cannot resist.

There is something to be said for some of the finer pleasures of life during our time here on earth.

Virtue, destiny and accomplishment will create purpose and meaning; without them you will lead a shallow existence. And your Mission must always come first. But a man should always make time for enjoyment during his pursuits—it’s the little subtleties purposely crafted into each day that will ease you through your ambitions.

God created joy for a reason. And He also created the polarity between the sexes for a reason.

Put yourself in congruence with the natural order of things and make it a priority to enjoy this polarity.

Enjoy Your Woman.

The Physical

You will harden yourself in both mind and body as you pursue Your Life’s Destiny to become the very best you can be. And as you do so the contrast between you and your woman will grow. Nature will take its course and the energy and positive tension between the both of you will transform and become a source of delight.

As spirited and independent as your woman might be, she is not the same as you. Her Soul and intrinsic value as a human being are as incalculable as yours. But as a woman in this life she is different.

Take note of these differences and enjoy them. This is the way it is supposed to be.

There is an inherent softness to a woman that is innately attractive; from her lips, to her arms and shoulders, to the subtleties of her womanly figure. Surely, there is not much more on this great earth that is more pleasing to the eye and to a man’s primal nature.

Take some time each day to appreciate the physical aspects of your woman. Let her know of her beauty. Tell her explicitly she is beautiful. She needs to know this, it will be inherently satisfying to her. Kiss her without reserve, constantly. Touch and embrace her passionately. Enjoy the softness of her being.

The Emotional

And the same goes for her mental and emotional states. Especially learn to appreciate these differences. A woman’s evolutionary survival has bread certain characteristics into her nature; characteristics that will leave you frustrated if misunderstood or ignored. But they can also make life very interesting if leveraged and turned in the right way.

To put it simply, your woman will need to test you. Some of these tests will be subtle. And some of them not subtle, as you are no doubt aware. She must be confident that you are worthy and will remain worthy; and so she should. This is simply an evolutionary adaptation. For virtually all of human history a woman and her offspring’s literal survival depended on the vitality and viability of her man.

Thus, even in today’s world when a woman can live as independently as she wants, there is still the reality of hard coded programming from which there is no escape. Consider her still, even as a modern woman, a little bit wild in a sense. This is good, is it not?

If you’re unaware and unprepared in this regard, it can lead to the worst of outcomes. Without a doubt, if you don’t measure up, eventually nature will take its course and she will find a better mate. Or at bare minimum the magic will disappear and it will all go stale. Sound familiar?

But since you are now aware of your woman’s evolutionary programming, you will embrace and enjoy her inherent nature. After all, there has to be some challenge. There has to be some excitement. And a little bit of wildness, tension and taming in this respect seems like it will fit the bill.

Consider it a challenge from now on to handle these fitness tests as well as her emotional ups and downs, with mastery and ease. Let them remind you about your necessary role in the relationship and use them as a tool to keep you at your best. Just smile and enjoy, it’s all part and parcel of what makes her who she...

So you’ve finally found your center. You’ve found your way.

The chase is on and it’s something special. Every day is a new opportunity to get better. With each morning there’s an excitement and purity of spirit that has you seeking a higher realm. You’ve had a taste of it, you’ve seen the Light and there’s no turning back.

The discipline you’ve lacked in the past now comes easy. The shallow distractions of old are simply of no more interest. You’ve gotten out of your own way and cleared a path. And your Life Vision is now crystal clear.

The only question that remains now, is not if, but when. Regardless, you will enjoy the process. You will Make the Journey Its Own Reward. All that really matters is that you are doing what’s right; that Virtue paves the way and that your are pursuing Your Life’s Destiny with a vengeance.

All of this new clarity has allowed you to truly see; to see the waste of it all—the needless conflict, the brainwashed masses and the false path that is leading them all to darkness. Instead of anger as in the past, there is now only pity. It’s all such a waste of human potential. Life can and should be so much better.

Your answer to all of this is to simply press on, to forge ahead and stay true to your Mission. The plan is to leave all of those mired in darkness and folly behind in your wake; to get so far ahead and set the standard so clearly that eventually they will have no choice but to take note. And then perhaps for those whose hearts are still open to the truth, that your example will help to send them on a better way.

For you realize now that it’s about more than just you. The pursuit of Your Life’s Destiny is now the axis upon which you will be able to affect people and turn them in the right direction. This is an unexpected result and has added a whole new level of meaning to all that you do.

This is true power, righteous power. It is pure, imbued with the Light and selfless.

It has become obvious now the path to a better world comes from the inside out. It starts at the individual level. One must get his own life in order first and foremost. There is nothing more powerful a man can do. And that maintaining this core focus is the fundamental answer to it all because it all bleeds out from there.

You can feel this implicitly when you interact with others. There is a new energy that you possess. And it affects people. It lifts them up and in turn does the same for you. You’ve become aware that after each interaction, most will walk away the better for it.

Sometimes it confuses them a little, this energy of yours. You can see it in their eyes. They will have a look at you, more than just casually; it will freeze them up for an instant. There is something they like, but they’re not exactly sure what it is. But in a sense you have done your job, you’ve passed on some of your manifest potential and energy; humbly and willingly. You’ve given them a taste of personal greatness and given them a slight view into their own potential.

Although you’re motivated and driven like never before, there is also a new calmness underlying all that you do. There is a serenity that emanates from your core. You’re not bulletproof, but most of what used to bother you no longer does. The negative emotions of old have been largely brushed aside. Instead of anxiety and frustration there is a confidence you will simply handle things as they come; without fanfare and without worry.

Yes, you will conduct yourself with composure, confidence and ease. You will employ Willing Acceptance to all external events and then take Right Action. And if things should get difficult or spiral out of control, you will push back with all of your might, will and perseverance.

And if things should completely fall apart regardless of your very best,

All the peace and tranquility you could want is waiting for you. There will be no more worry and no more strife. Yes indeed, life will be easy for you on this planet one day …

… when you’re six feet under.

So if you want to live and you want to live well you had better Toughen Up and then Toughen Up Some More. There is no other choice. The time is going to pass anyway. You might as well get to work hardening yourself and sharpening your edge.

You will always need to get tougher; tougher and smarter. No sense leaving anything in the table. And no sense giving up any leverage.

Better to be tough and smart than just one or the other. You might as well pile it on give yourself the best chance to get it all done.

A tough guy without much in smarts might end up just spinning his wheels and never get very far at all. And a wise man without any toughness might not have the backbone necessary to finish the job.

Combine toughness and smarts and you’ll be a force to reckon with.

Smarts

You don’t know what you don’t know. Keep this maxim at the fore of your thinking always. Adding knowledge, understanding and insight will make all of your efforts that much more effective. And thus, you’ll have more to give and be able to strike at your target that much harder—it will make you a tougher adversary.

Add some layers and thickness to your character by making it a priority to always be learning. You live in the best time in all of human history. Literally all of human knowledge is no further away than your fingertips. But then you know this because you are here reading this material at this very moment.

Perhaps though, it’s time to take it to the next level. Remove television as a daily habit. Limit your time in front of the screen. Limit your time in social networking and limit your alcohol. Open up your time outside of work to expanding your mind.

Read books, read blogs and listen to podcasts.

Study technology, acquire knowledge and learn from successful and insightful people. Make this a life long habit and it will provide you with more leverage and power than anything else you could do.

Technology and knowledge will sharpen your edge and learning how to think from the best minds in history will toughen you up. Combine both of these together and you’ll become twice the man; a man of leverage, power and toughness.

And then take your newfound knowledge and insights and combine them with Right Action. Apply what you learn. Get out there in the world and get some things done. The more you do, the more you will be able to do.

Create a positive feedback loop for yourself where you learn and apply and then learn and apply some more. Become a man of action who operates in the real world; a man who turns his thoughts and words into reality.

Fail your way forward if you have to. Better to be out there making mistakes and learning than letting life pass you by. Adjust and learn some more and you’ll be just fine.

Keep at it as a matter of principle. Tough it out and you will become like heat treated metal. You will get harder and harder and the cuts you make into each day will become cleaner and sharper.

Just a little bit dangerous

Physical

Cutting away the fat, adding some muscle mass and developing some explosiveness will make for a cool parallel and help to reinforce your new steely countenance. It will pay tremendous dividends to sharpen both sides of the blade so you can cut both ways and become just a little bit dangerous.

There is nothing wrong with a strong physical presence and a little intimidation. Men will respect you for it and women will be attracted to it. This is simply the natural order.

Create the ideal prototype for how you would like to carry yourself—design the best possible version of the future you. As with everything else, it all starts in your mind. You’ve got to see it before you can become it. You do have this choice and you do have this ability.

Take the time and entertain yourself with just how good you could be. And then get to work creating your masterpiece.

Whatever you end up with, make sure it includes a never say die, never stop and never quit attitude.

And then work to harden yourself and toughen up.

Consider your mental and physical toughness as a high priority from now on. Make it an essential part of your character and a core principle—see yourself as getting tougher and tougher.

To succeed over the long term will require guts, backbone and grit; no matter your situation and no matter your smarts. There’s no question that mental and physical toughness are key ingredients for success in this difficult and broken world.

So let us endeavor then to toughen you up.

Set the Bar High

It’s time to make yourself uncomfortable. It’s time for you to embrace the comfort of discomfort. Set the bar high and then get to work. You don’t need to do it all at once; the plan is to get a little bit better every day; even if that means just holding the line until hard becomes easy.

You know what it is you need to work on. A man knows where he is weak and where he needs to improve. Pick one area or a few and then raise the bar. Raise the bar and then hold your ground. If you should fall or backslide, get right back up and right back to it. Get right back to the new normal.

Don’t expect to be perfect. The goal is to get your overall Trajectory on an upward run. As long as you keep the pressure on and always jump right back in you are headed in the right direction. Be honest with yourself and hold your feet to the fire. Redouble your efforts and harden your will.

What you’re working to do here is increase your capacity. You will stretch your limits and then hold the line. Just as with resistance training, you will tear at your outer edges and then naturally acclimate to the new standard.

You will find the time and You Can Do More. Put your life on the line for once—not in terms of your personal safety or health, but who it is you want to become. At some point it’s worth taking off the gloves. At some point it’s worth letting it all hang out and going for it.

So raise the bar, harden yourself until it becomes easy and then raise the bar again. What you’ll find is that as you slowly ratchet up and refine your character, each improving aspect of who you are will begin to bleed over into the others.

And then one day as you wrap things up from another exciting excursion into your pursuits it will suddenly dawn on you; you have become tireless. You’ll be able to go all day everyday. You’ll only become tired when your work is done and it’s time to rest. And when the next morning rolls around, it will be second nature to just turn it on and go full throttle again.

Keep at it and Make the Journey Its Own Reward. Enjoy the process. Enjoy the new you. As it all becomes instinct, a synchronicity of sorts will begin to accrue. You will begin to find your way. You will begin to find your center.

All the energy and focus you need will be right there and available. What used to be hard will become easy and you’ll begin to see the Light.

You will begin to see your Life’s Destiny.

Willing Acceptance of all external events

Willing Acceptance

Work to become world class at the Willing Acceptance of external events. In other words, do not let difficulties, circumstances or people over which you have no control affect your morale and your state of mind.