Still Building

Becoming a Mother Before Becoming Yourself


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More Than One Chapter: Identity Beyond Roles and Seasons

When she was a pregnant teenager, a nurse midwife told her something she's carried for decades: this is part of your story, not your whole story. In this episode, she returns to those words and unpacks what they've meant through every season since.

She opens up about the freer life she quietly imagined before becoming a mother at 17, and speaks directly to any woman who stepped into a role — mother, caregiver, partner, provider — before she fully knew herself, often without space to grieve the "becoming" that got interrupted.

Along the way, she shares what three very different children taught her: growing up alongside her daughter, parenting her son with more patience while rebuilding community in a new city, and learning presence and flexibility from her tender-hearted youngest. When her daughter left for college, she came face to face with the question so many mothers eventually ask — who am I beyond this?

This is an invitation to gently excavate the parts of yourself that titles and seasons may have buried. She closes with reflective questions to help you begin reclaiming the woman underneath the roles.

Chapters

  • 00:00 — More Than One Chapter
  • 01:05 — The Life I Imagined
  • 03:03 — Roles Before Self
  • 04:52 — Growing Up Together
  • 06:30 — When They Leave Home
  • 08:17 — Starting Over Somewhere New
  • 10:39 — Lessons From Our Youngest
  • 11:36 — Becoming Alongside Love
  • 12:45 — Your Story, Not the Whole Story
  • 14:57 — Questions to Reclaim You
  • 16:34 — Closing Encouragement
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Still BuildingBy faithgutierrez-us