Becoming DISScomfortable | Dissing the Comfort with Lyla Sheikh

NOT just a rant…this episode contains ACTUALLY useful points to choose between college, freelancing, entrepreneurship & travel (or doing all of these?!) — from someone currently *trying* to do all! :) this video took over a year to finish so you get to see my perspective shift from 19 to 20 years old! 

BONUS included: networking tips, my GAP YEAR, personal examples from my freelancing experience before uni, & university right now. I took a gap year before university! so I also reveal whether or not that gap year was worth it 👀

this episode is meant to be a community discussion starter on the opportunity costs of college & uni, so please be brave and share your own experiences with college & life in the comments! I’d love to hear your thoughts. 

NOTE: Becoming DISScomfortable is NOT going away...these ✨shower thoughts✨ are just a new side quest I'm exploring haha. Join the community by subscribing!

⭐️ Don't forget to FOLLOW for NEXT episodes on Mondays! ;) 

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⭐️ LYLA'S MAIN VLOG/BOOKS CHANNEL #2:  @VivaciousLyla⁩  

^ subscribe for upcoming 📚 book reviews + life vlogs

⭐️ LYLA'S TRAVEL CHANNEL #3: @hospitalitybylyla

^ 🥘✈️ HONEST reviews + ideas 🎆 things to do in Toronto & GTA, Canada | 🌮 halal eat recs | 💃 rating Toronto's BEST social events & MORE 

⭐️ all links: https://beacons.ai/vivaciouslyla ​​ 

*add me on socials!* maybe you'll motivate me to start taking insta seriously :))

☾ instagram- @lylasheikh 

☾ tiktok- @.lylasheikh and @hospitalitybylyla 

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*follow the podcast socials for exclusive BTS 👀 & updates NOT on my main page*

☾ PODCAST instagram- @disscomfortable 

☾ PODCAST tiktok- @disscomfortable

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hi. welcome to ✨shower thoughts✨ -- a podcast to voice your inner monologue. i lowkey think i have adhd so enjoy this new side quest series *in addition* to our Becoming DISScomfortable self development videos ⬇

if you're new to the channel, you better start stalking my page to catch up on all the episodes of Becoming DISScomfortable you've missed 👀

⭐️ Don't forget to subscribe for NEXT episodes ever Monday! ;) 

⭐️ listen to the podcast on the go: https://linktr.ee/disscomfortable

^ also available on Spotify + Apple Podcasts!

⭐️ LYLA'S MAIN VLOG/BOOKS CHANNEL #2:  ⁨@VivaciousLyla⁩  

^ subscribe for upcoming 📚 book reviews + life vlogs

⭐️ LYLA'S TRAVEL CHANNEL #3:  ⁨@lylatravelsandeats⁩

^ 🥘✈️ HONEST reviews + ideas 🎆 things to do in Toronto & GTA, Canada | 🌮 halal eat recs | 💃 rating Toronto's BEST social events & MORE 

⭐️ all links: https://beacons.ai/vivaciouslyla ​​ 

add me on socials!

☾ instagram- @lylasheikh 

☾ tiktok- @.lylasheikh and @lylatravelsandeats

☾ pinterest- https://www.pinterest.ca/vivaciouslyla 

^ add my main IG for mini vlogs!! and join our self improvement & book club broadcast channels!

**follow the podcast socials for exclusive BTS 👀 & updates NOT on my main page**

☾ PODCAST instagram- @disscomfortable 

☾ PODCAST tiktok- @.lylasheikh

^ add the podcast IG so you never miss an update on the latest episodes and our community!!

in this episode, Lyla explores the key lessons from The Wizard Liz's recent ex relationship that young girls and women can apply to their own lives to protect themselves. including: The Wizard Liz manifestation, consequences of going viral, marriage, and the power of detaching from this duniya (world). 

Don't forget to subscribe for future episodes ;) 

⭐️ business inquiries ONLY: [email protected] 

➤ Based in Toronto #toronto #ontario 

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^ for the girls that desire financial freedom outside of traditional pathways. fill out the form to get access to exclusive resources in the upcoming months!

⭐️ LYLA'S MAIN CHANNEL!!  @VivaciousLyla 

^ subscribe for monthly book reviews, productive vlogs to motivate you, bts of my life in toronto, and more!!

⭐️ listen to the Becoming DISScomfortable podcast on the go:

https://linktr.ee/disscomfortable

^ also available on Spotify + Apple Podcasts!

⭐️ SHOP MY VIDEOS (use links for $$ off)

✿elegant gold/silver jewelry: https://zudo.co/LYLA

code: LYLA

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code: VIVACIOUSLYLA

**socials:**

☾ instagram- @vivaciouslyla 

☾ tiktok-  @gossipia    

☾ pinterest- https://www.pinterest.ca/vivaciouslyla 

^ add my main IG for mini vlogs!! and join our self improvement & book club broadcast channels!

☾ PODCAST instagram- @disscomfortable 

☾ PODCAST tiktok- @disscomfortable

^ add the podcast IG so you never miss an update on the latest episodes and our community!! 

⭐️ MY MISSION: 

Becoming Disscomfortable is a podcast for gen Z, BY gen z, dedicated to preparing you to become the BEST version of yourself through self-improvement, which involves DISSING the comfort (getting out of your comfort zone). 

If you are looking to feel more confident, beat your insecurities, prioritize your mental health, get healthier, stronger, & become a higher version of yourself, then this podcast is for YOU! Self development completely TRANSFORMED my life and now, my goal is to inspire YOU to invest in yourself, LEVEL up your life and turn your vision board into your dream reality! :) 

✿PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY HAVE MISSED...

how to build REAL confidence, beat your insecurities, stop being jealous, and more:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vjv8RS6nprY&list=PLz6gOostpHsjel9KHFUnB5kSs751Or_cg&index=1

⁠thought-provoking video essays⁠:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VRNbiuT-1H8&list=PLlzn5RNvtihUAWdRu3EH1uGMjHbNDruxt&index=1

✿HOW I FILM/EDIT MY VIDEOS: 

i mainly use epidemic sound and thematic for all my music! you can try them for FREE ↓

Epidemic Sound → https://share.epidemicsound.com/ynvykr

Thematic → https://app.hellothematic.com/?via=lyla

My Pink Microphone → https://amzn.to/3M97xKY

**FTC Disclaimer: some of the above links are affiliate links. 

thank you for watching! 

with love, 

lyla 

timestamps:

00:00-1:00 The Wizard Liz did NOT 'get' cheated on...

1:01-3:03 lesson 1

3:04-6:24 lesson 2

6:25-9:42 scandal (The Wizard Liz scandal)

9:43-12:45 lesson 3

12:46-18:33 lesson 4

18:34-19:27 lesson 5

19:28-21:22 lesson 6

: *✧･ﾟ: t a g s *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧

The Wizard Liz and Landon, TheWizardLiz and Landon Nickerson, TheWizardLiz manifestation, The Wizard Liz dating coach, The Wizard Liz pregnancy, TheWizardLiz husband cheated, thewizardliz breakup, thewizard liz confidence, thewizardliz detachment, self development, Becoming DISScomfortable by Lyla Sheikh, Becoming DISScomfortable podcast

in this episode, lyla explores the sentiments surrounding modern chivalry and questions whether or not "chivalry is dead". she provides examples of chivalry in real life and the resurgence of "princess treatment" as is popularized on social media, but also considers that everyone has different experiences and prefers to keep an open mind. the emphasis is the importance of bringing nuance into discussions about gender roles, and to deviate from extremism on either ends of the spectrum. 

*lyla's opinions might change at any point as she continues to evolve and grow as any normal person, so keep in mind all thoughts in this video are ONLY a reflection of the time it was recorded.

Don't forget to subscribe for future episodes ;) 

CHANNELS MENTIONED:

➤HEALTHY Masculinity Channels to Watch --  ⁠@TheRealSpeechProf⁠  and ⁠ @ex.patriarch ⁠ 

➤Video Essays For the Girlies --  ⁠@therealmanifestelle  ⁠

⭐️ business ONLY 📩: [email protected]

➤ Based in Toronto #toronto #ontario 

⭐️ JOIN OUR DISCORD COMMUNITY! (reactivating soon!) https://discord.com/invite/wXZHMqj75x

⭐️ Generation Self Employed ➤ https://forms.gle/i2VEzwHzK8rZE3Aw5

^ for the girls that desire financial freedom outside of traditional pathways. fill out the form to get access to exclusive resources in the upcoming months!

⭐️ LYLA'S 2ND CHANNEL!!  ⁠@VivaciousLyla  ⁠

^ subscribe for monthly book reviews, productive vlogs to motivate you, bts of my life in toronto, and more!!

⭐️ listen to the Becoming DISScomfortable podcast on the go:

⁠https://linktr.ee/disscomfortable⁠

^ also available on Spotify + Apple Podcasts!

⭐️ SHOP MY VIDEOS (use links for $$ off)

✿elegant gold jewelry: ⁠https://zudo.co/LYLA ⁠

code: LYLA

✿Palestinian high-end modest fashion: ⁠https://guestinresidence.com/VIVACIOUSLYLA⁠

code: VIVACIOUSLYLA

**socials:**

☾ instagram- @vivaciouslyla 

☾ tiktok-  @gossipia    

☾ pinterest- ⁠https://www.pinterest.ca/vivaciouslyla ⁠

^ add my main IG for mini vlogs!! and join our self improvement & book club broadcast channels!

☾ PODCAST instagram- @disscomfortable 

☾ PODCAST tiktok- @disscomfortable

^ add the podcast IG so you never miss an update on the latest episodes and our community!! 

⭐️ MY MISSION: 

Becoming Disscomfortable is a podcast for gen Z, BY gen z, dedicated to preparing you to become the BEST version of yourself through self-improvement, which involves DISSING the comfort (getting out of your comfort zone). 

If you are looking to feel more confident, beat your insecurities, prioritize your mental health, get healthier, stronger, & become a higher version of yourself, then this podcast is for YOU! Self development completely TRANSFORMED my life and now, my goal is to inspire YOU to invest in yourself, LEVEL up your life and turn your vision board into your dream reality! :) 

✿PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY HAVE MISSED...

how to build REAL confidence, beat your insecurities, stop being jealous, and more:

⁠watch here⁠

⁠thought-provoking video essays⁠:

⁠watch here⁠

**FTC Disclaimer: some of the above links are affiliate links

thank you for watching! 

with love, 

lyla 

timestamps:

00:00-0:29 video chapters 

0:30-1:40 modern chivalry

1:41-17:22 the KEY to chivalry (E)

17:23-27:42 is chivalry TRULY dead? 

27:43-37:26 is chivalry sexist? outdated?

37:37-44:30 is chivalry BACK? rise of princess treatment

44:31-47:17 final ingredients

: *✧･ﾟ: t a g s *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧

chivalry is dead, acts of chivalry, is chivalry dead?, modern chivalry, relationships, acts of chivalry in relationships, why aren't men chivalrous anymore?, how to give princess treatment to your girlfriend, the rise of princess treatment, self development video essay, becoming the BEST version of yourself, Becoming DISScomfortable by lyla sheikh, lyla sheikh, vivacious lyla

from dysregulating your nervous system to causing acne flairs as a stress response, toxic people can make your life a living hell. in this episode, lyla shares her experience of dealing with such people and how they caused her health to deteriorate. she assesses the opportunity costs of toxic people and encourages you to practice distance over disrespect if you're surrounded by people that display any of these 7 signs of toxicity. take care of yourself because there is only one of you and we're not immortal. life is too short to waste it on such people--especially when there are plenty of amazing, kind souls in this world to surround yourself with instead!!

how old are you? ➡ 19!

what's your nationality? 🇵🇰 and 🇨🇦 (based in ON, Canada)

what do you use to film/edit? ➡ iphone XR (still works like a charm!) + capcut

what's the best part of making this podcast? ➡ getting to be the big sister i never had, and building a community of lovely, driven people!! i love reading your comments and connecting with you all on social media :)

0:50-1:30 type 1 signs

1:31-4:24 type 2 signs

4:25-5:40 type 3 signs

5:41-9:47 type 4 signs

9:48-12:35 type 5 signs

12:36-13:54 type 6 signs

13:55-15:15 type 7 signs

15:16-17:49 make you UGLY (societally)

17:50-19:34 OPP COSTS of toxic people

19:35-21:15 distance over disrespect

how to get rid of toxic people, how to deal with toxic people, watch out for these 7 signs of toxic people, self respect 101, self care, distance over disrespect

In this episode, Lyla analyzes the relationships between fictional characters Chuck and Blair, Dan Humphrey, Serena Van Der Woodsen, and Vanessa Abrams from the popular show Gossip Girl, highlighting the toxicity of these characters and how it is often brushed under the rug as a justification for "drama". She emphasizes the importance of maintaining your self respect and an INDEPENDENT life outside of relationships, because your relationships do NOT define you. Whether we like to admit it or not, pop culture and famous TV shows such as Gossip Girl influence the minds of millions of young women and men around the world, so it is crucial to point out the toxic behaviour of characters to separate drama from real life. 

Don't forget to subscribe for future episodes ;) 

⭐️ business inquiries: [email protected] 

➤ Based in Toronto #toronto #ontario 

⭐️ Generation Self Employed ➤ https://forms.gle/i2VEzwHzK8rZE3Aw5

^ for the girls that desire financial freedom outside of traditional pathways. fill out the form to get access to exclusive resources in the upcoming months!

⭐️ LYLA'S MAIN CHANNEL!! @VivaciousLyla 

^ subscribe for monthly book reviews, productive vlogs to motivate you, bts of my life in toronto, and more!!

⭐️ listen to the Becoming DISScomfortable podcast on the go:

https://linktr.ee/disscomfortable

^ also available on Spotify + Apple Podcasts!

⭐️ all links: https://beacons.ai/vivaciouslyla ​​ 

*socials:*

☾ instagram- @vivaciouslyla 

☾ tiktok-  @gossipia    

☾ pinterest- https://www.pinterest.ca/vivaciouslyla 

^ add my main IG for mini vlogs!! and join our self improvement & book club broadcast channels!

☾ PODCAST instagram- @disscomfortable 

☾ PODCAST tiktok- @disscomfortable

^ add the podcast IG so you never miss an update on the latest episodes and our community!! 

⭐️ MY MISSION: 

Becoming Disscomfortable is a podcast for gen Z, BY gen z, dedicated to preparing you to become the BEST version of yourself through self-improvement, which involves DISSING the comfort (getting out of your comfort zone). 

If you are looking to feel more confident, beat your insecurities, prioritize your mental health, get healthier, stronger, & become a higher version of yourself, then this podcast is for YOU! Self development completely TRANSFORMED my life and now, my goal is to inspire YOU to invest in yourself, LEVEL up your life and turn your vision board into your dream reality! :) 

thank you for watching! 

with love, 

lyla 

timestamps:

00:00-1:13 welcome!! :)

1:14-2:35 vanessa dan's mom or GF?

2:36-8:26 self respect & attraction

8:27-13:01 blair & chuck (TOXIC)

13:02-16:49 mommy & daddy issues

: *✧･ﾟ: t a g s *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧

gossip girl toxic characters analysis, blair and chuck toxic relationship, how to avoid toxic relationships, how to heal your attachment style, self respect 101, mommy issues, daddy issues, healthy relationships, gossip girl analysis, serena van der woodsen, blair waldorf analysis, chuck bass analysis, dan humphrey analysis, vanessa abrams analysis, toxic tv show tropes

*watch the video for full evidence* -- in this episode, lyla explores how george orwell's predictions in his famous dystopian novel "1984" are coming TRUE in our current world, as our society today does not look much different from the looming totalitarian future of Oceania which Orwell warned us about, with the wealth gap and inequality continuing to grow between the rich and the poor, shifting power dynamics controlled by politicians and elite, and the repercussions students are already facing when they speak out against the so called "democratic" America, a nation run on oligarchy.

⭐️ business inquiries: [email protected]

*socials:*

thank you for watching!

in this episode, Lyla reveals the secrets to becoming an ACADEMIC WEAPON through back to school prep, while also maintaining a healthy social life in high school to get the ultimate success experience. learn how to develop REAL, EVERLASTING confidence during high school, beat your insecurities, and create a NEW you. as an IB alumni (International Baccalaureate Diploma Program), Lyla explains the difference between regular courses, AP classes, and the IB program, and the importance of solid extracurriculars for the girls that want to challenge themselves.

in this episode, lyla breaks down how to be MAGNETIC, so you can attract your desired partner, career opportunities, friendships & relationships, success, business opportunities, and more!

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in this episode, Lyla highlights how to balance being soft and kind WITHOUT letting others step over you, by setting personal boundaries and developing a strong self concept.