What if unlearning prejudice—racism, sexism, homophobia—was treated less like a test to pass and more like a recovery journey?

That’s the heart of Becoming Less and Less, a framework I’ve developed through Inclusive Psychologists Ltd., inspired by the 12-step recovery structure and grounded in the Six Stages Framework (SSF).

This approach invites us to move beyond perfectionism and shame by asking one powerful daily question:
“What am I becoming less and less of?”

Not overnight. Not performatively. But slowly. Honestly.
With sustained effort, accountability, and reflection.

The idea is brought to life in our new podcast episode, Conversations Around the Dinner Table, which draws on the real-life story of Robbie Mullen—former neo-Nazi turned informant—as portrayed in ITV’s The Walk-In. When asked in court if he was still a racist, he replied simply:

“Less so.”

That response stays with me.

Because it reminds us: progress is possible—even for those stuck at Stage -1 or -2 of the SSF.
But it doesn't happen by accident. It happens through daily commitment, support, and the courage to stay in difficult conversations.

🌀 This isn’t about making excuses.
It’s about telling the truth: change takes time.
And we all have a role to play in helping one another grow.

✨ Explore the guide.
🎧 Listen to the podcast.
🔁 Share with someone starting their journey.

Let’s make space for imperfection—and keep becoming less and less of the problem, and more and more of the solution.

🎧 Listen to the 5 minute podcast: Conversations Around the Dinner Table

YouTube

https://youtu.be/2kye12iztVM

TikTok video

https://www.tiktok.com/@sixstagesframework/video/7569714634421292291?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7541368627523470870

🎧 Listen to the 16 minute podcast: Becoming Less and Less: 12 Step Journey to Inclusion

YouTube

https://youtu.be/_evHppiHclc

The 12 Steps: Your Reflection Guide

The following 12 steps are not a checklist for perfection. They are a reflection guide for those committed to the ongoing journey of growth, one step at a time.

1. I acknowledge that I have internalized bias and prejudice.

2. I commit to becoming less and less of a racist, sexist, homophobe, ableist, or discriminator.

3. I listen to voices I’ve ignored or silenced.

4. I reflect on the impact of my words and actions.

5. I accept discomfort as part of growth.

6. I notice when I want to shut down or walk away.

7. I speak up when I hear harm—even when it’s uncomfortable.

8. I surround myself with people and spaces that challenge me to grow.

9. I apologize when I get it wrong—and learn from it.

10. I support others on their journey without expecting perfection.

11. I understand this is lifelong work.

12. I engage in a daily check-in, asking myself: What am I becoming less and less of, and what am I becoming more and more of?

Conclusion: Your First Step Is Today

Meaningful change doesn't come from perfect performance, but from consistent practice. By reframing the work of unlearning bias as a recovery journey, we are freed from the paralysis of perfectionism and empowered to take small, meaningful steps every day. The goal is not a final destination but a continuous process of becoming better. So, the only question left to ask is the one that starts the journey: Today, what will you become less and less of?

And to be clear-this isn’t about making excuses for racism, sexism, or any form of harm.

It’s about recognising that deep change doesn’t happen overnight.

We don’t leap from denial to liberation in a day. We take small, consistent steps-and those steps matter.

This is about doing the work, not avoiding it.

Because growth is possible, especially when it’s personal.

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