Becoming Lit AF

Anne Zemba tells her story of love and unimaginable loss. Brian Zemba, her beloved husband and soulmate died unexpectedly at only 43 years old. His loss created a ripple throughout the local community as his effervescent energy touched the lives of many, in fact many more than any of us knew. 

Anne walks us through the story of their love, the experience of losing him, and the aftermath of walking through immense grief publicly and privately.  It took her years, and the right encounter with a friend that finally led her to a treatment that ultimately saved her life. 

She gives us a peak at the lessons she has learned as the one facing deep grief, and offers insight on how to support others who are walking a similar path. 

Trigger warning: Suicidal ideation and death are part of this conversation. 

If you or someone you know needs help, please call (800)273-8255
OR go to this website for live chat support: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

If you want to learn more about EMDR or find a clinician: https://www.emdr.com/SEARCH/index.php

To join the Citizen Yoga community online or in person check out: www.citizenyogastudio.com -- I teach live classes online, in person and On Demand

Xo, Ann

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An inspiring conversation on intuition with one of my nearest and dearest soul friends Lori Lipten. Lori is a thought-leader, spiritual teacher, and shaman whose soul-mission is to normalize intuition. She is one of the most heart-centered people I know and I am grateful to simply publicize one of many of the deep conversations we have on the regular. I hope you find this conversation helpful and inspiring to remember that you have everything you need to live a more intuitively guided life.

LoriLipten.com
Follow her on Facebook
Follow her on Instagram
Learn more about the Intuitive Practitioner Certification Program

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From the parking lot of Costco in the midst of a global pandemic, I received a phone call that has changed my life and changed my beloved friend Melissa's too. What if, after 40 years of living, you realize that much of the ways the world has been so hard are simply because of undiagnosed neurodiversity... even more so, what if much of your overwhelm, anxiousness and depression were symptoms of a missed diagnosis of ADHD. 

Women and girls are commonly underdiagnosed in ADHD because we all expect it to look a particular way. We all know that boy from grade school who could never seem to sit still, stop talking, or stay out of trouble. I assumed for much of my life that I had ADD and considered it a strength in many ways, but I was missing some crucial information. 

I didn't understand how much of a player it was in my relationships, my ability to keep up with work, motherhood, parenting, and how often it led me to avoid conflict at all costs. 

Melissa had a similar experience, though it was never even on her radar until a friend posted about her experience which sent Melissa down a very familiar ADHD rabbit hole of discovery. 

In this episode we talk about life before and after diagnosis, all the things that might have bene different and all the ways we are learning to understand ourselves, our children, our lives and look back with perhaps a little more grace. 

Wondering if this might be you? Here are some common symptoms in women and girls: 

• Daydreaming and in a world of her own 
• Difficulty maintaining focus; easily distracted 
• Disorganized and messy (in her appearance and physical space)
• Doesn’t appear to be trying 
• Doesn’t seem motivated
• Forgetful 
• Highly sensitive to noise, fabrics, and emotions
• Hyper-talkative (always has lots to say, but is not good at listening)
• Hyperreactivity (exaggerated emotional responses)
• Looks to be making "careless" mistakes
• Might often slam her doors shut 
• Often late (poor time management) 
• Problems completing tasks 
• Seems shy
• Seems to get easily upset 
• Shifting focus from one activity to another
• Takes time to process information and directions; seems like she doesn't hear you
• Verbally impulsive; blurts out and interrupts others
• Appears withdrawn
• Cries easily

https://www.verywellmind.com/adhd-in-girls-symptoms-of-adhd-in-girls-20547
https://www.additudemag.com/category/manage-adhd-life/relationships/

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Amanda is a badass human being. Her tagline tells it like it is. #notdeadyet

While you'd be tempted to think this conversation is all about cancer. It is really about how our circumstances define us, and what it really means to be ALIVE. 

At 29 years old, living in San Francisco, with her dream job,  a husband, and travel, she was taken, quite literally, to her knees by the big-bad C-word,  ovarian cancer.  Now, at 41 years old, she has been in and out of remission countless times, and lives with the diagnosis of terminal cancer and weekly treatments to prolong the inevitable.

What makes Amanda so incredible is far-reaching beyond her cancer chronicles, it is how she has chosen to show up.  While we would all like to imagine the person we'd become when shit hits the fan on repeat, Amanda is who I would aspire to be. She is hilarious, joyful, fierce, and has found powerful ways to create a meaningful life. She is an advocate, an activist, a public speaker, a patient advocate and the kind of person who sends you a hand-made card in the mail to say thanks.

I am honored to have spent time with Amanda in conversation, laughter, reflection and mutual respect. I hope you enjoy her energy and learn from her story.

And remember Amanda's sentiment, while cancer in many ways defines and rules her life, her autonomy, her body, it is in no way the totality of who she is. No one thing is the totality of you.

Where you can connect with her:
[email protected] 

Twitter: @MIShouldTalk

IG: MIManda 

Helpful links about ovarian cancer....

https://ocrahope.org/

https://www.ovarian.org/

Helpful links for young adults with any cancer...

https://firstdescents.org/

https://stupidcancer.org

Some of my inspiration...

https://gostanford.com/news/2017/6/21/track-field-the-magic-of-tyrone-mcgraw.aspx

http://web.stanford.edu/class/engr110/2020/AlexTung.html

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*** Trigger Warning, this episode contains references to childhood sexual abuse and PTSD.

Marianne Steele's story is one that could fill the pages of a novel. She so graciously allows us to peek inside a story that begins with a traumatic childhood and launches from the era of free love, communal living in none other than San Franciso, and catapulted into an adventure born of her impulse to survive.

Marianne speaks frankly about so often she had met her own trauma from the healing born of the mind and it wasn't until she had a major breakdown of the body in the last few years that she began to truly reckon with what healing looks like, how to self-care and facing the diagnosis of complex PTSD.

Marianne now words as a Shiatsu bodyworker, an energy worker, an intuitive teacher, and a medium. 

You can connect with her here: https://www.pacificspirit.de

Referenced in this episode:

The Courage to Heal  by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis

Peter Levine Ph.D. and Somatic Experiencing

National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (also Peter Levine)

NIACMB YouTube Channel

Healing Trauma and Spiritual Growth: Peter Levine & Thomas Huebl

Spirituality Archetypes and Trauma:

Marianne's blog that documents her early channeling experiences

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David Bedrick is a psychologist, speaker, teacher, and attorney, and author, but that does not sum up the heart of David and his work. He is a deeply gentle, thoughtful, and compassionate human being who shares an insatiable curiosity to both understanding human beings and advocating for those who are oppressed. 

Together we share stories, deep questions, and a loving look a the world of body shame,  and the expansive world of diet and body obsession masquerading as wellness. He has written a beautiful book of women's stories through the lens of a compassionate witness. Not only are the stories he shares relatable, but they also hold the wisdom of looking into our own hunger to find the answer to what it is we really crave. 

I have worked diligently to lean away from conversations on body, diet, and weight-loss because I do not want to give more energy to what has consumed so many of us. However, this conversation is different, it is deeper, more radical, and an invitation to look beneath the story for your own body's innate wisdom.

https://www.davidbedrick.com
https://www.facebook.com/david.bedrick.9

Pre-order his book "You Can't Judge A Body By Its Cover" at your favorite bookseller. 

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Did you love taking quizzes in teen magazines when you were a kid? I always wanted to know more about myself, what made me tick, what was in store for me.  Ros is an expert in human design, a system that offers in her words" the most incredible and accurate interpretation of personality and life calling." 

Admittedly, I was impressed with my own human design map and its accuracy.  This system and the way it was created is pretty fascinating, a bit trippy and totally worth a listen. Perhaps it will speak to you! 

Find Ros Isabel: 
https://findyournaturalgroove.com/

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**Trigger Warning: This conversation briefly touches on trauma and abuse.

Lindsay's heart is in sharing her life story in order to help others see that they are not alone. She is the byproduct of young lovers who never belonged together. Her father, a born-again Christian who traded heroin for Jesus. Her parents traded her back and forth her entire life and she often felt like a pawn. She was gaslit, abused,  and suffered a myriad of challenges because of it. She has learned to lean in, to forgive, and also to create a chosen family of friends. 

We talk about the current world and how triggering 2020 has been for so many who have a shared history of abuse, trauma, bullying, and gaslighting. 

Marble Jar Friends reference: https://www.catherinebruns.com/who-do-you-trust-marble-jars-and-empathy/

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Kacee Must is the owner and founder of Citizen Yoga and a dear friend. Six months into a global pandemic and the chaos of 2020 we decided to sit down for a chat. I am not sure who was interviewing who, but we had a great conversation on life, business, scarcity, authenticity, and the weight of the world right now. 

I hope you listen in and enjoy. I sure did. 

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Linda T. exudes strength, poise, and power. She is an incredible human being and someone I am grateful to call a friend. Linda gives us a heartbreaking and inspiring snapshot of what it means to be a black woman in America.

Just wait until you hear the cafeteria story. It will blow your mind and break your heart.

This conversation is honest, raw, and eye-opening. I hope that this conversation calls you to listen, to seek to understand, to look at the bigger picture, and find hope in our ability to create actionable change.

Follow Linda:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lindataliaferro
https://www.lindataliaferro.com


Resources Linda recommends:

How To Be A Strong White Ally: https://www.maxwellboise.com/read

It Does Not Matter If You Are Good: 
https://www.elle.com/culture/career-politics/a32712287/cnn-omar-jimenez-arrest-response/

Professionalism in the Age of Black Death: https://medium.com/@shenequagolding/maintaining-professionalism-in-the-age-of-black-death-is-a-lot-5eaec5e17585

Talking About Racism in the Workplace with Black Friends: 
https://www.linkedin.com/posts/bobby-earles-442a8756_morethanjusttalk-activity-6678443500444385280-RL4p/

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