Becoming Sound

What happens when men are finally given permission to talk about what they're really carrying?

In this bonus solo episode, Krista reflects on a powerful Unfiltered AF event focused on men's mental health and the hidden emotional weight many men carry every day. After hearing stories of vulnerability, struggle, pressure, and resilience, she shares the lessons that stayed with her and how we can all become better listeners.

This episode is a reminder that sometimes people don't need advice. They need space. They need curiosity. They need someone willing to stay in the silence long enough for the truth to emerge.

If you have a man in your life, or if you've ever felt unseen yourself, this conversation is for you.

If this resonates with you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who may need to hear it.

Key Takeaways

• Why vulnerability is often contagious and how one person's courage can create permission for others.
• The hidden pressures many men carry as providers, protectors, and problem solvers.
• The difference between listening to fix and listening to understand.
• Questions that create meaningful conversations instead of surface-level answers.
• Why presence, patience, and compassion can be more powerful than solutions.

Connect with Us:

🔗 Website:  https://kristazaft.com/

🔗 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/zaftkrista/

🔗 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/krista.zaft/

🔗 Unfiltered AF: https://www.instagram.com/unfilteredafvoices/

Please Note: The views, information and opinions expressed during the Becoming Sound podcast series are solely those of the individuals involved. The content of this podcast is to educate, inform and for entertainment purposes only. This podcast series  and the content presented does not constitute for medical or other professional advice or services. If you are in crisis or in need of help, please contact your medical or professional provider.

What if the stories you've been carrying for decades were never really yours to begin with?

In this powerful conversation, Krista sits down with resilience coach, author, and trauma survivor Terri Kozlowski to explore how childhood wounds, fear, and limiting beliefs can quietly shape our lives long into adulthood.

Terri shares her personal story of surviving childhood trauma, living through years of fear-based decision making, and ultimately discovering what it means to live authentically. Together, they discuss how trauma lives in the body, why so many women struggle with worthiness, and how learning to pause can change everything.

This episode is a reminder that healing isn't about becoming someone new. It's about coming home to who you've always been.

In This Episode We Discuss:

• How childhood trauma can influence adult relationships and parenting
• The connection between fear, people pleasing, and giving away your power
• Why authenticity feels so scary and why it's worth pursuing anyway
• How triggers reveal wounds that still need healing
• The difference between reacting from fear and responding from love
• Why worthiness has nothing to do with productivity
• How to quiet the ego and reconnect with your true self

Connect with Terri 

https://linktr.ee/TerriKozlowski

Books:

• Raven Transcending Fear
• Soul Solutions for Awakening Awareness

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🔗 Website:  https://kristazaft.com/

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🔗 TikTok:   https://www.tiktok.com/@kristazaft?lang=en

🔗 YouTube: https://youtu.be/iuG8RXYSihE

👉 Grab the free Self Love guide at kristazaft.com to start unlearning the patterns of over-functioning and begin building a life where you're supported, seen, and thriving.

💬 Want personalized support? Book a free strategy call to explore how coaching can help you reclaim your energy, self-trust, and vision for a life that actually feels good.

Please Note: The views, information and opinions expressed during the Becoming Sound podcast series are solely those of the individuals involved. The content of this podcast is to educate, inform and for entertainment purposes only. This podcast series  and the content presented does not constitute for medical or other professional advice or services. If you are in crisis or in need of help, please contact your medical or professional provider.

What if the reason you keep attracting the wrong relationships has less to do with dating... and more to do with the relationship you have with yourself?

In this episode, Krista sits down with dating and relationship coach Lilli Bewley to explore the deeper patterns that influence love, connection, boundaries, self-worth, and emotional healing. What begins as a conversation about dating quickly becomes a much bigger discussion about identity, self-abandonment, childhood conditioning, attachment patterns, and learning to trust yourself again.

Lilli shares her own journey from feeling unseen and unheard to creating a life and relationship built on authenticity, alignment, and self-trust. Together, Krista and Lilli unpack why so many women struggle to feel fulfilled despite doing all the "right" things and how healing old wounds can transform every area of life, not just romantic relationships.

Whether you're single, dating, married, divorced, or simply working on becoming more connected to yourself, this episode offers powerful insights into the patterns that may be keeping you stuck and how to begin creating healthier relationships from the inside out.

Key Takeaways

✔ Awareness is the first step, but healing requires action.

✔ Your triggers are not the problem. They are information.

✔ The patterns showing up in your relationships often started long before your current relationship.

✔ Self-love is not something you earn through achievement.

✔ Healing isn't about fixing yourself. It's about building a new relationship with yourself.

✔ The healthiest relationships begin when your thoughts, actions, emotions, and values are aligned.

Connect with Lilli Bewley

🔗 Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz: www.datingarchetype.com

🔗 https://www.instagram.com/lillibewley/

🔗https://linktr.ee/lillibewley

Connect with Us: 

🔗 Website:  https://kristazaft.com/

🔗 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/zaftkrista/

🔗 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/krista.zaft/

🔗 Watch Us on: https://youtu.be/ODSjVunqMEk

👉 Grab the free Self Love guide at kristazaft.com to start unlearning the patterns of over-functioning and begin building a life where you're supported, seen, and thriving.

💬 Want personalized support? Book a free strategy call to explore how coaching can help you reclaim your energy, self-trust, and vision for a life that actually feels good.

Please Note: The views, information and opinions expressed during the Becoming Sound podcast series are solely those of the individuals involved. The content of this podcast is to educate, inform and for entertainment purposes only. This podcast series  and the content presented does not constitute for medical or other professional advice or services. If you are in crisis or in need of help, please contact your medical or professional provider.

What happens when the person you love most is struggling, and you realize you've been losing yourself in the process?

In this deeply honest conversation, Krista sits down with returning guest and author Elana Epstein to talk about her powerful new book, Today Will Be Fearless, and the unexpected healing that can emerge from life's most painful experiences.

As mothers of sons in recovery, both Krista and Elana share what it was really like to navigate addiction, fear, guilt, codependency, self-sacrifice, and the painful realization that healing wasn't just their children's work, it was theirs too.

Together they explore:

• Why so many parents blame themselves when addiction enters the family
• The connection between a child's self-destruction and our own self-abandonment
• How people pleasing, overfunctioning and codependency keep everyone stuck
• The importance of boundaries and learning to let go of control
• Why "going first" in recovery can transform an entire family system
• The role hope plays in healing
• What happens when we stop hiding pain and start telling the truth
• How recovery creates opportunities for growth, connection and deeper self-awareness

This conversation is filled with compassion, wisdom and practical insight for anyone loving someone through addiction, mental health challenges, or difficult life circumstances.

Connect with Elana

🔗 Website: https://todayiwillbefearless.com/

🔗 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elanaepstein/

🔗 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elana.epstein.9

🔗 Book: https://www.amazon.ca/Today-Will-Be-Fearless-addiction/dp/B0GRCPPXCC

Resources:

Alanon: https://al-anon.org/

Nar-Anon: https://nar-anon.org/

Connect with Us: 

🔗 Website:  https://kristazaft.com/

🔗 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/zaftkrista/

🔗 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/krista.zaft/

🔗Watch Us on YouTube: https://youtu.be/IYtO7R1PzJg

Grab the free Self Love guide at kristazaft.com to start unlearning the patterns of over-functioning and begin building a life where you're supported, seen, and thriving.

💬 Want personalized support? Book a free strategy call to explore how coaching can help you reclaim your energy, self-trust, and vision for a life that actually feels good.

Please Note: The views, information and opinions expressed during the Becoming Sound podcast series are solely those of the individuals involved. The content of this podcast is to educate, inform and for entertainment purposes only. This podcast series  and the content presented does not constitute for medical or other professional advice or services. If you are in crisis or in need of help, please contact your medical or professional provider.

In this heartfelt and honest episode of Becoming Sound, Krista and Shannon sit down for another “Oversharing with Shannon” conversation to reflect on the biggest lessons they’ve learned over the past year after both turning 56.

From overcoming fear and public speaking anxiety to healing family relationships, setting boundaries, trusting your nervous system, and learning to stop abandoning yourself, this episode is packed with real talk, laughter, emotional honesty, and powerful takeaways for anyone navigating midlife growth, healing, identity, and self worth.

Oh, and there’s a dog in a hoodie, I mean come on 👀

Together, they explore:
• Why confidence comes through action, not overthinking
• The difference between people pleasing and living in service
• How nervous system awareness changes everything
• What it means to truly come back to yourself
• Why asking for help can feel so difficult
• The importance of boundaries, self trust, and authenticity
• Midlife healing, peace, and finding joy in simplicity

This episode feels like sitting down with two best friends having the kind of conversation many women desperately need to hear: honest, vulnerable, funny, healing, and deeply relatable.

If you’ve ever struggled with overfunctioning, fear of judgment, perfectionism, people pleasing, burnout, or feeling disconnected from yourself, this conversation will remind you that growth doesn’t come from becoming someone new. It comes from finally becoming more yourself.

🎧 Listen now and share this episode with someone who needs the reminder that healing, confidence, and peace are still possible.

👉 Grab the free Self Love guide at kristazaft.com to start unlearning the patterns of over-functioning and begin building a life where you're supported, seen, and thriving.

💬 Want personalized support? Book a free strategy call to explore how coaching can help you reclaim your energy, self-trust, and vision for a life that actually feels aligned.

Connect with Us: 

🔗 Website:  https://kristazaft.com/

🔗 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/zaftkrista/

🔗 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/krista.zaft/

🔗 Watch Us on YouTube: https://youtu.be/CN91fODscuo

Please Note: The views, information and opinions expressed during the Becoming Sound podcast series are solely those of the individuals involved. The content of this podcast is to educate, inform and for entertainment purposes only. This podcast series  and the content presented does not constitute for medical or other professional advice or services. If you are in crisis or in need of help, please contact your medical or professional provider.

What happens when you spend your life holding everything together… and it finally catches up to you?

In this powerful episode of Becoming Sound, Krista sits down with Evan Whitehead to unpack the hidden cost of over-functioning, people-pleasing, and living in survival mode.

From growing up in a home shaped by addiction, to becoming a high-achieving athlete and leader… Evan shares how success on the outside masked what was happening internally.

Until it didn’t.

A mental health crisis, addiction, and complete burnout forced a moment of truth that changed everything.

This conversation covers:
✔️ Burnout and mental health
✔️ Emotional regulation and self-awareness
✔️ The truth about work-life balance
✔️ Why boundaries feel so hard
✔️ The 3 B’s: Balance, Boundaries, Breaks

If you’ve been pushing, performing, and holding it all together… this episode will feel uncomfortably familiar in the best way.

Connect with Evan:

🔗 Email: [email protected]

🔗 X/Twitter: @evanwhitehead00

🔗 Instagram: @balanceboundariesandbreaks

🔗 LinkedIn: Evan Whitehead, Creator of the 3Bs Balance, Boundaries, and Breaks ™

🔗 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evan.whitehead.794

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🔗 Website:  https://kristazaft.com/

🔗 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/zaftkrista/

🔗 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/krista.zaft/

🔗 Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/EkVjAOdhQMshttps://www.youtube.com/@kristazaft

👉 Grab the free Self Love guide at ⁠kristazaft.com⁠ to start unlearning the patterns of over-functioning and begin building a life where you're supported, seen, and thriving.

💬 Want personalized support? ⁠Book a free strategy call ⁠to explore how coaching can help you reclaim your energy, self-trust, and vision for a life that actually feels good.

Please Note: The views, information and opinions expressed during the Becoming Sound podcast series are solely those of the individuals involved. The content of this podcast is to educate, inform and for entertainment purposes only. This podcast series  and the content presented does not constitute for medical or other professional advice or services. If you are in crisis or in need of help, please contact your medical or professional provider.

What if your pain isn’t just physical… but something emotional your body has been holding onto for years?

In this episode of Becoming Sound, Krista sits down with Lora to unpack a powerful story of chronic pain, trauma, identity, and healing through quantum energy work.

After a car accident at 15 and years of misdiagnosis, emotional suppression, and being told she was “too dramatic,” Lora found herself at rock bottom. What happened next completely changed her life.

This conversation explores:
✔️ Trauma stored in the body
✔️ The link between thoughts, identity, and pain
✔️ Nervous system regulation and healing
✔️ Quantum healing explained in simple terms
✔️ Why “I know” isn’t the same as awareness

If you’ve ever felt stuck, disconnected, or exhausted from carrying everything… this one will hit.

Connect with Lora:

🔗 Website: https://notallwhowanderarelost.love/

🔗 Facebook: HTTPS://facebook.com/farfromordinary81 

🔗 YouTube: https://youtube.com/@thesoulledhealer?si=xBjIQqCcpfIbgJ2L

🔗 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@oraclestarla?_r=1&_t=ZS-95XwF5m9OK4

Connect with Us: 

🔗 Website:  https://kristazaft.com/

🔗 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/zaftkrista/

🔗 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/krista.zaft/

🔗 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/hcK1XeWD0GM

💬 Want personalized support? Book a free strategy call to explore how coaching can help you reclaim your energy, self-trust, and vision for a life that actually feels good.

Please Note: The views, information and opinions expressed during the Becoming Sound podcast series are solely those of the individuals involved. The content of this podcast is to educate, inform and for entertainment purposes only. This podcast series  and the content presented does not constitute for medical or other professional advice or services. If you are in crisis or in need of help, please contact your medical or professional provider.

What happens when addiction doesn’t just affect one person… but the entire family?

In this deeply honest conversation, Krista sits down with recovery coach and author Dave Mahler, who has experienced addiction from every angle, as a spouse, a parent, and someone navigating his own trauma.

Dave shares his powerful story of love, loss, and transformation, including the heartbreaking loss of his daughter to fentanyl poisoning. Together, they unpack the realities of addiction that often go unspoken: the chaos behind closed doors, the weight carried by families, and the patterns of over-functioning, enabling, and emotional survival.

This episode goes beyond awareness. It’s about understanding, breaking stigma, and learning what actually helps.

If you’ve ever loved someone struggling with addiction or felt the ripple effects in your own life, this conversation will meet you there.

Key Takeaways:

• Addiction affects everyone in the household, not just the individual
• You can’t fix someone else, but you can get support for yourself
• Recovery is more than sobriety, it’s a full lifestyle shift
• Language matters more than you think when supporting someone
• Healing happens faster when families do the work together
• You are not alone, even if it feels like it

Resources & Links for David Mahler:

• Dave’s Book: https://www.groundzerorecoverycoaching.com/#ABOUT
• Coaching: https://www.groundzerorecoverycoaching.com/
• Email: [email protected]
• Support Groups: 
• https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/ 
• https://www.nar-anon.org/

Connect with Us:

💬 Want personalized support? Book a free strategy call to explore how coaching can help you reclaim your energy, self-trust, and vision for a life that actually feels good.

🔗 Website:  https://kristazaft.com/

🔗 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/zaftkrista/

🔗 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/krista.zaft/

🔗 Watch on Youtube: 

Please Note: The views, information and opinions expressed during the Becoming Sound podcast series are solely those of the individuals involved. The content of this podcast is to educate, inform and for entertainment purposes only. This podcast series  and the content presented does not constitute for medical or other professional advice or services. If you are in crisis or in need of help, please contact your medical or professional provider.

Menopause isn’t just hot flashes. It’s anxiety out of nowhere, emotional swings, brain fog, weight gain that won’t budge, and feeling like a stranger in your own body.

In this raw and unfiltered episode, Krista and Shannon share their real experiences navigating perimenopause and menopause, from being dismissed by doctors to questioning their sanity, struggling with body changes, and the emotional toll no one prepared them for.

This conversation opens up what so many women are quietly going through and reminds you that you’re not crazy… and you’re definitely not alone.

Key Takeaways:

• You’re not “losing it”,  your hormones are shifting in a big way
• Mental health struggles during menopause are real and common
• Lack of education around women’s health is still a huge issue
• Your body changing isn’t failure - it’s transition
• You don’t have to go through this alone
• “Half the population goes through this, why aren’t we talking about it?”

Resource: https://www.instagram.com/drmaryclaire/

https://thepauselife.com/

👉 Grab the free Self Love guide at kristazaft.com to start unlearning the patterns of over-functioning and begin building a life where you're supported, seen, and thriving.

💬 Want personalized support? Book a free strategy call to explore how coaching can help you reclaim your energy, self-trust, gain clarity and confidence.

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🔗 Website:  https://kristazaft.com/

🔗 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/zaftkrista/

🔗 Watch Us on YouTube: https://youtu.be/2SE8oUdxv08

📣 If this episode hit home, share it with a woman in your life who needs to hear this.
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Please Note: The views, information and opinions expressed during the Becoming Sound podcast series are solely those of the individuals involved. The content of this podcast is to educate, inform and for entertainment purposes only. This podcast series  and the content presented does not constitute for medical or other professional advice or services. If you are in crisis or in need of help, please contact your medical or professional provider. 

Today we are getting real with why we are feeling disconnected and what we can do about it. What if the real reason you feel disconnected isn’t your life, your relationships, or your circumstances?

What if it’s the masks you’ve been wearing to survive?

In this solo episode of Becoming Sound, Krista shares a powerful, real-time reflection after attending a transformative workshop that challenged how she shows up, connects, and allows herself to be seen.

There is no polished “5 steps to be authentic” guide in here.
This is about what actually happens in your body, your nervous system, and your relationships when you stop performing… and start getting real with yourself.

Key Takeaways

• You’re not disconnected because something is wrong with you. You’ve just been conditioned to hide
• Masks might protect you, but they also block real connection
• Your nervous system plays a huge role in whether you feel safe to be yourself
• Authenticity isn’t a big leap, it’s small choices in real moments
• Real connection starts when you stop performing and start being honest

Because authenticity isn’t something you master.
It’s something you practice… one moment at a time. 

If you’ve been feeling disconnected from yourself… this is your invitation. To start noticing the masks. To get honest about where you’re holding back. And to take one small step toward being real.

And if you’re craving spaces where you don’t have to perform…
I’m building something for you. A community of women ready to drop the masks, reconnect, and actually feel like they belong in their own lives again.

Stay close. It’s coming. 

Sign up for the Newsletter to get the details as soon as they become available!

👉 Grab the free Self Love guide at kristazaft.com to start unlearning the patterns of over-functioning and begin building a life where you're supported, seen, and thriving.

💬 Want personalized support? Book a free strategy call to explore how coaching can help you reclaim your energy, self-trust, and vision for a life that actually feels good.

Connect with Us: 

🔗 Website:  https://kristazaft.com/

🔗 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/zaftkrista/

🔗 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/krista.zaft/

Please Note: The views, information and opinions expressed during the Becoming Sound podcast series are solely those of the individuals involved. The content of this podcast is to educate, inform and for entertainment purposes only. This podcast series  and the content presented does not constitute for medical or other professional advice or services. If you are in crisis or in need of help, please contact your medical or professional provider.