How do rites of passage shape women’s lives? In this episode, midwife, teacher, and feminine wisdom keeper Jane Hardwicke Collings joins Lavinia Brown to explore how menstrual shame, birth trauma, and menopause have shaped women’s identities for generations, and how we can reclaim these rites of passage as sources of power, not pain.

Learn what really happens when we don’t honor our transitions — from menarche (first period) to motherhood and menopause — and how these experiences silently teach us what our culture believes about women’s worth. Jane shares her life’s work guiding women to heal the wounded feminine, reclaim birth as ceremony, and restore connection to the body’s cycles as a pathway to freedom, wholeness, and intergenerational healing.

00:00 – Intro

02:00 – Why Rites of Passage Matter for Women and Men

06:00 – Menstrual Shame & Supporting Our Daughters

12:30 – Birth as Rite of Passage and Emotional Teacher

25:00 – The Wounded Sisterhood and How Patriarchy Divides Women

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Jane: 

www.janehardwickecollings.com

www.schoolofshamanicwomancraft.com

Instagram - @janehardwickecollings

Facebook - ‘Jane Hardwicke Collings’

Spinning Wheels App (iPhone): https://apps.apple.com/us/app/spinning-wheels/id1540698472?platform=iphone

Spinning Wheels App (Android): https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=au.com.cocreations.moonsong&hl=en

'Dear Dad' blog: https://janehardwickecollings.com/dear-dad-an-open-letter-to-men-with-a-daughter-approaching-her-menarche-first-period/

📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

No matter how much you achieve, there’s a quiet voice saying you’re not enough. In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew unpack the hidden roots of toxic shame, what it is, how it forms in childhood, and practical steps to begin healing today.

You’ll learn how toxic shame forms in childhood through criticism, emotional neglect, or the belief that love must be earned, and how it turns into patterns of self-judgment, people-pleasing, or burnout. This episode gives you practical tools to start healing toxic shame, reconnecting with your inner child, and building genuine self-compassion so you can finally feel enough, as you are.

00:00 – Intro: What Is Toxic Shame and Why It’s So Hard to Spot

01:20 – How Shame Becomes Part of Your Identity

02:45 – Childhood Roots: Where Shame Really Comes From

10:45 – The Two Faces of Shame: Anger vs Self-Destruction

13:40 – People Pleasing and Activism as Shame in Disguise

16:40 – How to Heal: From Shame to Self-Compassion

22:20 – How Subtle Shaming Shows Up in Parenting

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

Are you dealing with a narcissist? In this episode, we break down the key traits of narcissism, explain the difference between selfishness and narcissism, and answer whether children can truly be labeled as narcissists.

Discover how to recognize narcissistic behavior without second-guessing yourself, heal the wounds of having a narcissistic parent or partner, set strong boundaries and stop draining cycles, and build secure attachment and reclaim your self-love.

01:00 – Narcissistic Traits

05:25 – Manipulation, Illness & Gaslighting Explained

15:30 – Can You Become a Narcissist?

20:00 – Why You Attract Narcissists

22:15 – Can Children Be Narcissists?

25:30 – How to Deal with a Narcissist Parent or Partner

30:00 – Protect Your Inner Child

Whether you’ve asked “Is my partner a narcissist?” or worried “Am I a narcissist myself?”, this episode gives clarity and tools to finally stop the cycle.

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

What causes violence in relationships? In this episode, we explore the connection between repressed childhood emotions, generational trauma, and violence in relationships.

We’ll unpack how repressed anger from childhood shows up as rage in adult relationships, the difference between your own stuck emotions vs. “carried emotions” from parents, why trauma bonds make it so hard to leave unhealthy dynamics, and how to help your children express anger safely without passing on your own trauma.

00:00 – Violence and Anger in Relationships

02:00 – Repressed Anger From Childhood

04:00 – Repressed Emotion and Carried Emotion

12:00 – Trauma Bonds in Relationships

18:20 – Inner Child Work

22:00 – Helping Kids Express Emotions Safely

Whether you’re struggling with your own anger, in a relationship with someone who is violent, or simply want to break free from generational patterns, we give you practical tools to heal.

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

Have you and your siblings grown apart? Do you wonder how you can repair that relationship without losing yourself? This episode unpacks the emotional complexity of sibling estrangement, including how unresolved childhood dynamics, parental favoritism, and generational trauma can shape fractured family bonds.

You'll learn practical strategies to help you process anger, grief, and confusion without needing your sibling to be “on the same page”. We talk about reconciliation, holding boundaries, and seeking emotional peace.

01:30 - Why Siblings Grow Apart

03:20 - Childhood Perception and Parental Favoritism

05:10 - Why Siblings Have Different Childhoods

07:00 - Generational Trauma & Family Roles

11:00 - How Inner Work Triggers Family Conflict

16:00 - Sibling Jealousy and Injustice

21:00 - Why Estranged Siblings Often Misplace Anger

26:00 - Boundaries as a Tool for Emotional Safety

This episode is for anyone navigating the pain of sibling fallout, whether you’ve been cut off, ghosted, or just feel emotionally distant.

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

You sit down to meditate, and instead of peace, you feel panic. Your mind races, your body buzzes, and every part of you wants to get up and do something else. If that’s you, you’re not failing at meditation—you’re likely trying to use it before your nervous system is ready. If you've ever thought “I can’t meditate,” this episode is exactly where you should start.

In this episode, we talk about why meditation often feels impossible. We unpack the real reasons you can’t “just sit still”, from trauma response and nervous system dysregulation to inner child wounds and coping mechanisms that once kept you safe. You’ll learn how to start gently, how to use sensory tools to anchor when you’re overwhelmed, and how to stop comparing your practice to someone else’s highlight reel.

Whether you’ve tried to meditate and given up, or you’re curious why it triggers you instead of calming you. You will learn how to build safety in your body first… so meditation can finally work for you, not against you.

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

Do you find yourself taking on the mental load of parenting and home life, and unintentionally treating your partner like a co-parenting assistant? In this episode, we unpack how emotional labor, gender roles, and break down the subtle—and not-so-subtle—ways women may be emasculating their partners while trying to manage the mental load of parenting and modern life.

We explore what it really means to emasculate your partner, what is toxic masculinity vs healthy masculinity, what women want in a man today, how childhood trauma and generational patterns influence modern relationships, and why many men feel disempowered or unseen in their role. You’ll also learn how the pressure to “do it all” as a mother can create imbalance in your dynamic, and how to ask for help from your husband without making him feel emasculated.

If you want to stop feeling like you're doing everything and start building a healthy, connected relationship, this conversation is a must-listen!

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

Does your child’s defiance trigger something deep in you? Maybe it’s backtalk, boundary-pushing, or refusal to listen—and suddenly you feel disrespected, overwhelmed, or out of control. This episode of Becoming Untriggered explores why your child’s behavior creates such a powerful emotional response and what it reveals about your own inner wounds.

We take a trauma-informed approach to parenting triggers—like authoritarian upbringings, religious shame around obedience, and emotional neglect—to help you understand the real reason defiance hits so hard. You’ll discover how power struggles form, why your nervous system reacts like it’s under threat, and what to do instead.

If you’re ready to stop reacting from survival mode and start parenting from grounded authority, this episode offers practical, compassionate strategies. Learn how to set boundaries without control, regulate your own triggers, and create space for emotional safety and connection in your home.

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

Couples therapy is often seen as the fix for relationship problems, but what if it actually makes things worse? In this episode, we unpack why traditional couples therapy or marriage counseling might not work unless deeper emotional wounds are addressed first.

We explore how unresolved attachment trauma, unmet childhood needs, and inner child work play a major role in how we show up in romantic relationships. You’ll hear how unconscious expectations, coping patterns, and childhood experiences silently sabotage even the most well-intentioned communication tools.

If you’re considering couples counseling, or feel like it hasn’t helped, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of why healing must start individually, and what needs to happen before therapy can actually work.

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

Parenting more than one child is a beautiful and chaotic dance of energy, emotions, and endless learning curves. In this episode, we discuss the complex dynamics of raising multiple children, from juggling attention and managing birth order effects to uncovering unconscious triggers rooted in our own childhood experiences. With candid stories and heartfelt insights from raising our three kids, we reveal how subtle adaptations in each child can form based on how we parent them (or don't).

We explore common patterns such as the “good” vs. “bad” child dynamic, sibling rivalry, and how birth order can shape a child’s role in the family system. We also shed light on how gender roles and societal expectations unconsciously impact how parents treat their sons versus their daughters. Whether you’re a parent of two or more, or thinking about expanding your family, this episode offers empowering strategies to parent with more awareness, compassion, and flexibility.

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed