Many people struggle with anxiety, emotional numbness, chronic stress, people-pleasing, or self-sabotage without realizing the root cause may be repressed emotions carried since childhood. Using Dr. David Hawkins' Map of Consciousness as a guide, we unpack why some emotional states keep us feeling stuck while others create greater peace, creativity, resilience, and emotional freedom.

You'll learn how childhood trauma, repressed emotions, and core emotional wounds influence your nervous system, mental health, relationships, and even chronic stress. We also share practical ways to begin releasing stored emotions through conscious awareness so you can stop living from old survival patterns and move toward lasting emotional healing.

02:30 – Why Shame and Guilt Are the Most Destructive Emotions

05:25 – How Childhood Trauma Creates Lifelong Shame

08:00 – How to Release Shame and Repressed Emotions

11:15 – Understanding Apathy vs Neutrality

16:00 – Why Anger and Grief Are Necessary for Healing

20:00 – Anxiety, Fear & Childhood Trauma: What's Really Happening?

24:30 – Can Repressed Emotions Cause Physical and Mental Illness?

29:05 – How Your Emotional State Affects Parenting & Relationships

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Dr. David Hawkins' Map of Consciousness: https://www.sgibinc.com/wp-content/smush-webp/2024/06/SGBI-Web-768x728.jpg.webp

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

Are you raising an entitled child, or are deeper emotional wounds being triggered beneath the surface? In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew explore how childhood trauma shapes parenting and why many of our strongest reactions to our children's behavior have less to do with them and more to do with our own unresolved experiences.

If you've ever felt triggered by your child's behavior, struggled with emotional regulation as a parent, or wondered how to break unhealthy family patterns, this conversation offers a compassionate and practical perspective on raising emotionally healthy children while healing yourself in the process.

01:15 – Authoritarian vs Permissive Parenting

02:10 – What Emotional Safety Really Means for Children

03:30 – Why Parents Struggle to Accept Certain Behaviors

08:20 – Childhood Trauma, Emotional Baggage & Parenting

20:00 – Why Criticism Damages Self-Worth

22:00 – Authentic Behavior vs "Bad" Behavior

26:00 – Attuned Leadership: A New Parenting Model

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

Many men don’t seek therapy or emotional support until their relationship is breaking down, their stress becomes unbearable, or they reach a personal crisis point. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered Podcast, Lavinia and Andrew explore why men avoid therapy, suppress emotions, and struggle to ask for help, the role women often take in relationships when they become emotionally aware first, and how this impacts relationships, marriage, parenting, mental health, and emotional connection.

01:10 – Why Men Wait Until Crisis to Ask for Help

06:00 – Childhood Trauma & Emotional Repression in Men

09:30 – Men Look for External Solutions Instead of Healing

11:50 – Traditional Therapy Doesn’t Work for Many Men

14:47 – How Men & Women Process Emotions Differently

19:00 – Conflict in Relationships Can Trigger Healing

22:00 – How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Boys

24:00 – Men Need Better Emotional Tools

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

Why do some leaders seem reactive instead of regulated?

Why does the news trigger anxiety?

Why does the world feel so overwhelming right now?

In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we dive deep into why so much in the world feels chaotic, corrupted, and out of control, and what that has to do with unhealed childhood wounds.

We explain the concept of conditional versus unconditional love, and how lacking true emotional safety in childhood can lead to self-worth being tied to achievement, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and external validation. You’ll also walk away with practical tools to manage fear, build safety in your body and relationships, and regulate your nervous system—so you don’t carry external chaos into your home and inner world. 

This conversation is especially relevant if you’re struggling with anxiety, powerlessness, or just want to understand the emotional climate of our times.

00:30 – Are Leaders Acting from Childhood Trauma?

04:00 – Conditional vs Unconditional Love Explained

09:50 – How Lack of Self-Love Impacts Empathy: Trauma Patterns

12:30 – Reacting vs Responding (Emotional Regulation)

16:00 – Why the News Triggers Anxiety

20:15 – How to Heal Your Inner Child to Stay Regulated

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

In a world where “success” is often defined by grades, achievements, and fitting into a predefined path, many children grow up disconnected from who they truly are. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we explore how to raise authentic kids, children who feel safe being themselves rather than becoming mini versions of their parents or living out inherited expectations.

Support your child’s individuality, build emotional safety, and guide them without controlling who they become.

01:05 – When Parents Project Their Own Dreams Onto Their Children

03:40 – Academic Pressure, Grades & Identity in Children

05:00 – Why Anxiety Shows Up When Kids Aren’t Being Themselves

10:20 – School Systems, Pressure & the Rise of Childhood Anxiety

13:00 – How Parents Can Guide Without Controlling

14:20 – Simple Daily Practices to Model Emotional Self-Care

19:10 – Healing the Wounded Inner Child to Raise Authentic Kids

21:30 – The “Magical Child” & Natural Joy in Kids

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

Why do I keep ending up with the same type of partner? Why does betrayal hurt this much?

Healing after betrayal isn’t just about letting go of what happened, it’s about understanding why the same patterns keep repeating. In this episode, we break down the deeper emotional and psychological layers behind betrayal, including attachment wounds, trauma bonds, and the unconscious beliefs that shape who we choose and why we stay.

We explore why betrayal hurts so deeply, how childhood experiences influence our adult relationships, and why ignoring red flags becomes a familiar pattern. You’ll learn how to recognise the root of your pain, where your anger and resentment come from, and how to finally take back your emotional power without blaming yourself. Whether you’re healing from deception, infidelity, emotional neglect, or the collapse of trust, this episode guides you toward the inner work needed to break the cycle!

00:00 – What Betrayal Really Means & Why It Hurts

04:00 – Types of Betrayal: Lies, Secrets, Addictions & Broken Values

06:42 – Why We Ignore Red Flags & Repeat the Same Patterns

13:12 – Childhood Wounds and Attachment Trauma

17:24 – Attracting Dysfunctional People & Repeating Cycles

19:48 – Healing Betrayal Inside a Relationship vs. Walking Away

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

How do rites of passage shape women’s lives? In this episode, midwife, teacher, and feminine wisdom keeper Jane Hardwicke Collings joins Lavinia Brown to explore how menstrual shame, birth trauma, and menopause have shaped women’s identities for generations, and how we can reclaim these rites of passage as sources of power, not pain.

Learn what really happens when we don’t honor our transitions — from menarche (first period) to motherhood and menopause — and how these experiences silently teach us what our culture believes about women’s worth. Jane shares her life’s work guiding women to heal the wounded feminine, reclaim birth as ceremony, and restore connection to the body’s cycles as a pathway to freedom, wholeness, and intergenerational healing.

00:00 – Intro

02:00 – Why Rites of Passage Matter for Women and Men

06:00 – Menstrual Shame & Supporting Our Daughters

12:30 – Birth as Rite of Passage and Emotional Teacher

25:00 – The Wounded Sisterhood and How Patriarchy Divides Women

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Jane: 

www.janehardwickecollings.com

www.schoolofshamanicwomancraft.com

Instagram - @janehardwickecollings

Facebook - ‘Jane Hardwicke Collings’

Spinning Wheels App (iPhone): https://apps.apple.com/us/app/spinning-wheels/id1540698472?platform=iphone

Spinning Wheels App (Android): https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=au.com.cocreations.moonsong&hl=en

'Dear Dad' blog: https://janehardwickecollings.com/dear-dad-an-open-letter-to-men-with-a-daughter-approaching-her-menarche-first-period/

📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

No matter how much you achieve, there’s a quiet voice saying you’re not enough. In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew unpack the hidden roots of toxic shame, what it is, how it forms in childhood, and practical steps to begin healing today.

You’ll learn how toxic shame forms in childhood through criticism, emotional neglect, or the belief that love must be earned, and how it turns into patterns of self-judgment, people-pleasing, or burnout. This episode gives you practical tools to start healing toxic shame, reconnecting with your inner child, and building genuine self-compassion so you can finally feel enough, as you are.

00:00 – Intro: What Is Toxic Shame and Why It’s So Hard to Spot

01:20 – How Shame Becomes Part of Your Identity

02:45 – Childhood Roots: Where Shame Really Comes From

10:45 – The Two Faces of Shame: Anger vs Self-Destruction

13:40 – People Pleasing and Activism as Shame in Disguise

16:40 – How to Heal: From Shame to Self-Compassion

22:20 – How Subtle Shaming Shows Up in Parenting

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

Are you dealing with a narcissist? In this episode, we break down the key traits of narcissism, explain the difference between selfishness and narcissism, and answer whether children can truly be labeled as narcissists.

Discover how to recognize narcissistic behavior without second-guessing yourself, heal the wounds of having a narcissistic parent or partner, set strong boundaries and stop draining cycles, and build secure attachment and reclaim your self-love.

01:00 – Narcissistic Traits

05:25 – Manipulation, Illness & Gaslighting Explained

15:30 – Can You Become a Narcissist?

20:00 – Why You Attract Narcissists

22:15 – Can Children Be Narcissists?

25:30 – How to Deal with a Narcissist Parent or Partner

30:00 – Protect Your Inner Child

Whether you’ve asked “Is my partner a narcissist?” or worried “Am I a narcissist myself?”, this episode gives clarity and tools to finally stop the cycle.

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

What causes violence in relationships? In this episode, we explore the connection between repressed childhood emotions, generational trauma, and violence in relationships.

We’ll unpack how repressed anger from childhood shows up as rage in adult relationships, the difference between your own stuck emotions vs. “carried emotions” from parents, why trauma bonds make it so hard to leave unhealthy dynamics, and how to help your children express anger safely without passing on your own trauma.

00:00 – Violence and Anger in Relationships

02:00 – Repressed Anger From Childhood

04:00 – Repressed Emotion and Carried Emotion

12:00 – Trauma Bonds in Relationships

18:20 – Inner Child Work

22:00 – Helping Kids Express Emotions Safely

Whether you’re struggling with your own anger, in a relationship with someone who is violent, or simply want to break free from generational patterns, we give you practical tools to heal.

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 

https://www.laviniabrown.com 

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: 

https://www.andrewlynn.net

https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed