Becoming-Women with Kate Shiloh

Polyamory can feel like liberation, until your nervous system tells you it’s too much.

Sex therapist Kate DeCoste joins host Kate Shiloh to unpack what it really takes to build relationships that feel secure, honest, and aligned. Kate shares how her own experiences changed the way she understood desire, love, and partnership, and reflects on the grief and difficult choices that can come with rethinking a relationship.

Together, they explore the emotional capacity polyamory requires, the importance of clear agreements and boundaries, and why women can feel like “the villain” when they name what they truly want.

This conversation challenges the idea that there’s one empowered way to love. Whether you’re questioning a relationship, exploring non-monogamy, or trying to better understand your desires, Kate Decoste and Kate Shiloh offer an honest look at finding a relationship structure that fits your needs and capacity.

Kate DeCoste Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wild_women_rising/

Music by: Nicole Weisberg

The entertainment industry can look glamorous from the outside, but what happens when the job starts costing you your nervous system, your body, and even your sense of self? Whitney Pilzer Agee reveals what it really means to work behind the scenes in film and television, why music supervision is so much more than "making playlists," and how walking away from the machine opened the door to a completely different life.

Whitney and Kate unpack the hidden reality of 15 years inside major production companies, from the pressure to sacrifice everything to the strange emotional toll of working on increasingly dark, violent content. Whitney shares the moment her body said a hard no, what burnout looked like, and how she recognized that success on paper was no longer worth the damage it was doing underneath.

You’ll discover:

• What a music supervisor actually does, from licensing songs to creating custom recordings for scenes
• Why streaming-era TV and prestige content have gotten darker, and how that affects the people making it
• The burnout patterns that can show up in high-achieving women, including self-abandonment, overwork, and numbing out
• How corporate culture can pull people out of their feminine rhythm and into a constant state of performance
• Why Whitney believes the real shift begins with boundaries, nervous system repair, and choosing differently

Whitney also opens up about the leap out of corporate life, the unexpected timing of love and partnership after leaving her job, and the ongoing process of rebuilding work on her own terms. She reflects on astrology, conscious media, the power of storytelling, and why she wants to help create programming that actually wakes people up instead of keeping them asleep.

This conversation is for anyone who has ever felt trapped in a high-performing role that looks good from the outside but feels toxic from the inside. If you’re questioning burnout, boundaries, or what a more aligned version of success could look like, this episode will hit home.

Whitney Pilzer Agee is a music supervisor, astrologer, real estate agent, and mentor to independent artists. After 15 years in entertainment, she now builds a more intentional life in Hawaii while continuing to work selectively in music, consulting, and creative projects.

Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whitneypilzeragee?igsi=MWNqMTBmcDhrbGd5bw==