Before it Breaks with Gabriella Pomare

Is he emotionally unavailable, avoidantly attached, or simply not that into you? And have we become so good at explaining people's behaviour that we've forgotten to ask whether the relationship is actually making us happy?

Seventeen years after He's Just Not That Into You hit our screens, Gabriella Pomare revisits the film that shaped a generation's understanding of dating, mixed signals and romantic rejection. But in a world of attachment theory, situationships, Instagram story views and endless relationship advice on TikTok, have we really become any better at understanding love?

In this solo episode of Before It Breaks, Gabriella explores why we spend so much time analysing someone else's behaviour, how psychological labels can become excuses for inconsistency, and why understanding someone's emotional wounds doesn't mean accepting a relationship that leaves our own needs unmet.

From the popular advice that "if he wanted to, he would" to the difference between genuine emotional unavailability and simply wanting different things, Gabriella challenges some of modern dating's most familiar assumptions.

She also answers a listener's dilemma in Dear Gabriella: after four months of wonderful dates but inconsistent communication, is she dating someone with avoidant attachment, or someone who simply isn't interested in commitment?

In this episode, we explore:

- Why He's Just Not That Into You is still relevant 17 years later.

- Whether attachment theory is helping us understand relationships or giving us new ways to excuse unhealthy patterns.

- The difference between someone having feelings for you and being emotionally available.

- Why "if he wanted to, he would" isn't always the whole story.

- Situationships, mixed signals and the fear of asking for clarity.

- Why understanding someone's past doesn't mean sacrificing your own needs.

- How to recognise the difference between a communication mismatch and repeated disregard.

- Why the most important question isn't always whether someone wants you, but whether you want the relationship they're offering.

Because sometimes we become so focused on understanding why someone isn't choosing us that we forget we have a choice, too.

Listen to Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare, and if you have a relationship dilemma of your own, send it anonymously to Dear Gabriella through Gabriella's website or Instagram.

Season 3, Episode 8 | Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare

Are you staying in your relationship because you believe it can get better, or because you're terrified of what leaving might mean for your children?

In Season 3, Episode 7 of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare sits down with Alexandra Ivkovic for an incredibly honest and personal conversation about marriage, motherhood, recognising unhealthy relationship patterns, navigating divorce and rebuilding a life you once couldn't imagine.

Alexandra shares her experience of spending almost a decade in a relationship she knew wasn't right, the pressure she felt to keep her family together, and the moment she finally recognised that staying wasn't necessarily protecting the family she loved.

Together, Gabriella and Alexandra explore why women often rationalise red flags, the difference between a difficult season and a repeating pattern, and why protecting a partner's reputation can become so deeply intertwined with protecting your children, finances and future.

They also discuss the realities of co-parenting after a difficult relationship, learning to accept what you cannot control, introducing a new partner to your children, and discovering what a healthy relationship can feel like after years of uncertainty.

In this episode, we explore:

- Why leaving a marriage can feel impossible when children are involved.

- The difference between a difficult relationship season and an unhealthy pattern.

- Why we ignore red flags and hold on to promises of change.

- The emotional and practical pressure to protect a partner's reputation.

- Recognising controlling behaviours without rushing to diagnose someone.

- The challenges of co-parenting when two households have different rules.

- How to talk to children about separation without making them responsible for adult problems.

- Dating after divorce, recognising green flags and learning to trust yourself again.

- Why Alexandra waited before introducing her new partner to her children.

- The weekly relationship check-in that helps prevent small resentments from becoming bigger problems.

This is a conversation about the courage it takes to question the future you imagined, the complicated reality of separating when children are involved, and the possibility of building a healthier, happier life on the other side.

Because the end of a relationship doesn't have to mean the end of a family. Sometimes it means learning how to be a family differently.

🎙️ Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare — conversations about modern love, conflict, repair and everything we need to understand before relationships reach breaking point.

Have a relationship dilemma you'd like Gabriella to explore? Submit your question anonymously to Dear Gabriella at www.gabriellapomare.com.

Follow Gabriella on Instagram: @thegabriellapomare

Do you really need to be on the brink of separation before you consider couples therapy? Or could getting help while your relationship is still good be one of the smartest things you ever do?

We service our cars, schedule health checks and invest in our careers before something goes wrong. Yet when it comes to our relationships, we often wait until resentment has built, communication has broken down or one partner is already halfway out the door before asking for help.

In this solo episode of Before It Breaks, family lawyer, author and relationship commentator Gabriella Pomare challenges the stigma surrounding couples therapy and explores why relationship counselling shouldn't be reserved for marriages in crisis.

Drawing on years of experience working with couples navigating separation, Gabriella examines the subtle warning signs of emotional disconnection, the difference between a relationship that's struggling and one that's simply drifting, and why the absence of arguments doesn't always mean everything is okay.

From the mental load of parenthood and declining intimacy to recurring arguments, emotional withdrawal and the fear of suggesting therapy, this episode explores what happens when two people become excellent at managing a life together but slowly lose sight of the relationship inside it.

In this episode, Gabriella explores:

• Couples therapy before a crisis: Why preventative relationship counselling can be valuable even when nothing is obviously wrong.
• The silent drift in long-term relationships: How couples become housemates, co-parents or business partners without noticing their emotional connection fading.
• Why couples keep having the same arguments: Understanding the deeper patterns behind conflict, criticism, defensiveness and withdrawal.
• The mental load and relationship resentment: Why arguments about housework, parenting and the dishwasher are rarely just about the practical issue.
• The pursuer–withdrawer cycle: What happens when one partner needs reassurance and the other needs space.
• How to suggest couples therapy without blaming your partner: Changing the conversation from “you need fixing” to “our relationship is worth protecting”.
• Relationship check-ins and communication tools: Five practical ways to strengthen connection, navigate change and repair conflict before resentment takes hold.

The central question: Why does the possibility of losing someone sometimes create an urgency that their unhappiness never did?

This episode isn't about convincing every couple to go to therapy or suggesting that every relationship should be saved. It's about recognising that love alone doesn't teach us how to communicate, navigate conflict, maintain intimacy or grow together through life's transitions.

Because sometimes the most important relationship conversations aren't the ones we have when someone is ready to leave. They're the quieter ones we choose to have years earlier.

Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare explores modern relationships, marriage, dating, divorce, communication, parenting and the conversations that can change everything.

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What happens when you fall in love with someone who already has children, an ex-partner and an entire family history that existed long before you arrived?

Dating after divorce or separation can be exciting, hopeful and full of possibility, but when children are involved, building a new relationship is rarely as simple as two people falling in love. Suddenly there are co-parenting arrangements, competing loyalties, ex-partners, stepchildren, jealousy, parenting boundaries and difficult conversations about where everybody fits.

In Season 3, Episode 6 of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare is joined by Kris Byrnes, step-parent coach, podcast host and stepmother, for an honest conversation about the emotional reality of step-parenting, blended families and finding love again after separation.

Drawing on Kris's personal experience as a stepmother and Gabriella's perspective as a family lawyer, they explore the challenges that arise when a new romantic relationship becomes part of an existing family, including the pressure on step-parents to love children as their own, the insecurity that can arise around former partners and the delicate balance between protecting children and prioritising a new relationship.

They discuss why step-parenting can feel lonely, how guilt after divorce affects parenting decisions, why children sometimes reject a new partner, and how couples can establish boundaries without creating more conflict.

Gabriella and Kris also explore one of the most controversial questions in blended families: when does setting boundaries with an ex-partner cross the line into controlling behaviour, particularly when a child's relationship with their parent begins to suffer?

In this episode, you'll discover:

• What people underestimate about dating someone with children and becoming a step-parent.
• Why jealousy, resentment and insecurity can arise even in loving blended families.
• How to establish healthy boundaries with ex-partners while protecting co-parenting relationships.
• Why step-parents can experience burnout from trying too hard to be accepted.
• How to navigate discipline, household expectations and the difficult words, “You're not my mum” or “You're not my dad.”
• Whether children should always come first, and how to protect the couple relationship without making children feel displaced.
• How to help children feel emotionally secure when a parent begins a new relationship.
• The difference between healthy co-parenting boundaries and behaviour that may become controlling.

Whether you're dating someone with kids, navigating divorce and remarriage, raising children in a blended family, co-parenting with an ex or struggling to find your place as a step-parent, this episode offers an honest look at the conversations that need to happen before resentment and insecurity begin to damage the relationships you're trying to build.

About the guest

Kris Byrnes is a step-parent coach, stepmother and host of the Our Step Parent Podcast, supporting individuals and couples navigating step-parenting, blended families, boundaries and relationships after separation.

Find Kris on Instagram: @stepparentcoach

About the host

Gabriella Pomare is a family lawyer, author, relationship commentator and host of Before It Breaks, exploring modern love, communication, conflict, separation and the conversations that can change relationships before they break.

Follow Gabriella: @thegabriellapomare

Website: https://gabriellapomare.com

How do you know if your relationship is going through a hard season — or if you’ve simply stayed too long?

In Season 3, Episode 4 of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare explores one of the hardest questions people ask themselves inside a struggling relationship: should I stay or should I leave?

We hear a lot about people giving up too quickly. About commitment. About doing the work. But there is another side to that conversation: staying long after a relationship has become emotionally disconnected, resentful, lonely or stuck.

Gabriella looks at the difference between staying and trying, and why remaining in a relationship is not the same as actively repairing it.

This episode explores emotional disconnection, resentment, contempt, loss of attraction, relationship burnout, staying together for the kids, sunk cost, and the quieter signs that can appear long before a relationship officially ends.

Gabriella also unpacks her Love, Fear, Guilt or Habit framework — a way of asking what is actually keeping you in the relationship.

Are you staying because there is still love and a genuine desire to rebuild?

Or because leaving feels too frightening?

Are you staying because repair is possible?

Or because history, children, guilt or habit make it difficult to imagine another life?

At the centre of the episode is one important question:

If nothing changed in the next five years, would you still choose this relationship?

This is not an episode telling people to stay. It is not an episode telling people to leave. It is about becoming honest enough to understand the difference between a difficult season and a deeper pattern.

Plus, Gabriella answers anonymous Dear Gabriella dilemmas and shares a Don’t Do What I Did story about confusing staying with trying.

Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare is a podcast about modern love, real relationships and the conversations people often have too late.

Instagram: @thegabriellapomare

Website: gabriellapomare.com

For general information and discussion only. This podcast is not legal advice, psychological advice, counselling or therapy.

Chapters:

00:00 Should I Stay or Leave?

03:10 Are We Giving Up Too Soon or Staying Too Long?

07:25 Hard Season or Bigger Pattern?

12:10 Staying Is Not the Same as Trying

16:40 Love, Fear, Guilt or Habit?

21:20 Dear Gabriella: Nothing Is Wrong, But I Feel Nothing

27:15 Resentment, Contempt & Emotional Disconnection

32:05 What If You’ve Lost Attraction?

36:30 Are You Leaving the Relationship or Escaping Your Life?

41:10 Staying Together for the Kids

46:00 Dear Gabriella: I Stayed for the Kids

50:40 The Sunk-Cost Problem

54:20 Don’t Do What I Did

58:10 The Question to Ask Yourself

1:01:30 When Leaving Can Be an Act of Honesty

1:04:00 So, Should You Stay or Leave?

What actually makes two people stay together — not just remain married, but continue to choose each other?

After asking “Are we leaving relationships too soon?” in Episode 2, Gabriella sits down with author, podcaster and media personality Zoe Marshall for a candid conversation about the other side of that question: what allows a relationship to survive the ordinary, unglamorous pressures of a long life together?

Zoe and her husband Benji have been together for almost two decades and married for nearly 14 years. Their relationship has lived alongside professional sport, media, demanding careers, fertility, parenthood, travel, public scrutiny and enormous personal change. But Zoe is clear that longevity hasn’t come from simply finding “the right person” and hoping the relationship takes care of itself.

In this conversation, Gabriella and Zoe talk about what it really means to keep choosing someone when life becomes busy, complicated and decidedly less romantic — from maintaining chemistry and intimacy to having separate bedrooms, separate interests and enough independence to actually miss each other.

They unpack resentment, sex, parenting, conflict and repair; why children can benefit from seeing healthy disagreement and reconciliation; how couples can protect their relationship when careers become consuming; and why knowing somebody deeply over time can become one of the overlooked rewards of staying.

Because nobody online knows the entire history of your relationship. They weren’t there for the difficult years, the private tenderness, the ordinary Tuesday nights or the moments you found your way back to each other. And equally, a long history alone is never a reason to stay. Pasted text

In this episode:

- What nearly 14 years of marriage has taught Zoe about love

- Chemistry, attraction and keeping intimacy alive

- Anxious and avoidant attachment inside a long relationship

- Why Zoe and Benji started couples therapy early

- Going to therapy before the relationship is in crisis

- Why separate bedrooms and separate lives don't necessarily mean disconnection

- Careers, ambition and knowing when your partner needs more from you

- Resentment and the small changes that can prevent it building

- Fighting in front of children — and why repair matters

- Sex, touch and intimacy after years together

- Dating your partner again

- Why one person cannot meet every emotional need

- Social media, relationship advice and the pressure to interpret every difficulty as a “red flag”

- The difference between simply staying and actively choosing each other

Dear Gabriella

A listener has been married for 13 years. There’s been no affair, abuse or enormous betrayal. They’re good friends, good parents and their life works — but sex, intimacy and conversations that aren't about children, money or household logistics have almost disappeared.r?”

Zoe and Gabriella unpack whether a relationship like this needs an ending… or simply needs some oxygen.

🎙️ Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare — Season 3, Episode 3

Have a relationship question you’ve never known how to ask? Submit a Dear Gabriella or Don’t Do What I Did anonymously at gabriellapomare.com, or DM @thegabriellapomare.

Before It Breaks, Gabriella’s new book exploring modern love, conflict, disconnection, repair and the conversations that change everything, is coming in 2027.

Sometimes a relationship ends with a clear moment.

An affair. A message. A fight. Somebody walking out.

But sometimes there is no single moment at all.

Two people slowly stop being a couple, and by the time one person finally says, “I don't think I want to do this anymore,” the other is left wondering when the relationship actually ended.

In Episode 2 of Season 3 of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare asks one of the more complicated questions facing modern relationships:

Are we leaving too soon?

Or did previous generations simply stay far too long?

We now have more relationship information than ever before. Within seconds, social media can explain attachment styles, emotional labour, childhood wounds, boundaries, narcissism, trauma, red flags and whether someone thinks you should leave.

Some of that language has helped people recognise unhealthy dynamics that previous generations may simply have tolerated.

But has access to so much information also made us more likely to interpret every difficult season as evidence that we are with the wrong person?

Through two Dear Gabriella relationship dilemmas, Gabriella explores the difference between a relationship that is going through a hard season and one that is genuinely becoming disconnected.

The conversation also moves into resentment and contempt, attachment patterns, and the familiar pursue-withdraw cycle where one partner responds to distance by moving closer while the other responds to pressure by moving further away.

And then there is something we rarely talk about seriously in long relationships:the ick.

What happens when nothing dramatic has occurred, but suddenly you don't want your partner touching you anymore?

Is that evidence the relationship is over?

Or could the body sometimes be responding to resentment, exhaustion, emotional disconnection, the mental load or years of feeling unseen?

This episode explores:

• hard season vs genuine disconnection
• whether modern couples are leaving too quickly
• burnout and relationship dissatisfaction
• work becoming an emotional escape
• losing yourself inside marriage and parenthood
• resentment turning into contempt
• anxious and avoidant attachment patterns
• why leaving a relationship doesn't necessarily mean leaving your patterns behind
• emotional withdrawal before separation
• the ick and loss of desire in long relationships
• whether attraction can return
• social media and modern relationship expectations
• staying too long vs leaving too quickly
• what real repair actually requires

SUBMIT TO DEAR GABRIELLA

Have a relationship dilemma, anonymous question or story you want Gabriella to unpack?

Submit anonymously through the link at gabriellapomare.com or DM Gabriella on Instagram at @thegabriellapomare.

You can also submit your Don't Do What I Did — the thing you understand now that you wish you had understood earlier.''

Chapters:

00:00 Intro and recap of last week's episode

00:52 Relationships ending in 2026 and the comparison trap

02:24 Dear Gabriella: 14 years, disconnected but not fighting

05:16 Numb about the marriage or numb about life

08:28 Resentment, the quiet relationship killer

10:20 Attachment patterns and the pursue/withdraw cycle

11:52 Leaving too soon or staying too long

13:24 The ick, information not instruction

17:04 Don't Do What I Did: processed the breakup alone

18:36 Outro, submissions, and the book announcement

When does a close friendship cross the line into an emotional affair?

In the Season 3 premiere of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare returns to the hot seat to explore what happens before the affair — the silence that replaces honesty, the emotional distance that grows unnoticed, the colleague or friend who suddenly makes you feel seen again, and the secrecy that can turn an apparently innocent connection into betrayal.

Through three Dear Gabriella relationship dilemmas, Gabriella explores the difference between privacy and secrecy, why emotional affairs often begin gradually rather than intentionally, what unmet needs can reveal about a relationship, and why deleting messages or hiding conversations can be such an important warning sign.

She also looks at the aftermath: why discovering an emotional affair can make someone question not only their partner but their own instincts, the difference between apologising and actually repairing trust, and whether a relationship can become stronger after betrayal.

Season 3 also introduces Don’t Do What I Did — anonymous hindsight stories about the things people wish they had recognised, said or done before their relationship reached breaking point.

Gabriella responds to three relationship dilemmas exploring:

• When silence becomes a warning sign rather than simply a quiet season.
• Why emotional affairs often begin without an intention to cheat.
• The difference between privacy and secrecy.
• The question to ask when a friendship starts becoming blurry: Would I behave this way if my partner were sitting beside me?
• Why another person can become so compelling when you no longer feel seen at home.
• Whether deleting messages is a sign that a boundary has already shifted.
• What emotional affairs can reveal about both the relationship and the person having one.
• Why simply cutting contact with the third person may not solve the underlying problem.
• Why betrayal can destroy trust in your own instincts, not just trust in your partner.
• The difference between an apology and genuine repair.
• Whether a relationship can actually become stronger after betrayal.

This week’s question: Instead of asking whether something technically counts as cheating, should we be asking why it needs to be hidden from the person we love? Because an affair is often not the first moment a relationship is in trouble. It may simply be the first moment the trouble becomes impossible to ignore.

SUBMIT TO DEAR GABRIELLA

Have a relationship dilemma, anonymous confession or question you want Gabriella to unpack?

Submit anonymously through the link at gabriellapomare.com or send Gabriella a DM on Instagram:

@thegabriellapomare

You can also send in your Don’t Do What I Did — the lesson you learnt the hard way that someone else may need to hear before they make the same choice.

Submissions may be anonymised or identifying details changed before being shared on the podcast.

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S2 E10: Before We Stop Celebrating Each Other: Love, Beauty and Ritual with Kristina Fitzpatrick

In the Season 2 finale of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare speaks with Kristina Fitzpatrick of Paper and Flowers about love, beauty, family rituals, small gestures, celebration, perfectionism, creativity and what happens when people stop making moments meaningful.

What if beauty is not frivolous, but one of the ways we say, “This moment matters”? In the Season 2 finale of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare sits down with Kristina Fitzpatrick, founder and creative force behind Paper and Flowers, a New York-based studio known for handcrafted paper floral installations, large-scale event design and sustainable visual experiences.

This conversation is about beauty, but not in a shallow sense.

It is about beauty as memory.

Beauty as effort.

Beauty as ritual.

Beauty as the thing we create around life’s most emotional moments: weddings, birthdays, anniversaries, family gatherings, milestones, endings, beginnings and the moments we want to remember long after they are over.

Gabriella and Kristina explore why relationships and families do not only break through conflict. Sometimes they break through neglect. Through busyness. Through assuming there will always be another dinner, another birthday, another anniversary, another chance to make someone feel special.

They talk about the small rituals that tell someone: you matter, this matters, we are still here.

Kristina shares the story of building Paper and Flowers from a small idea into a creative studio whose very first major client was New York Fashion Week. She reflects on entrepreneurship, resilience, reinvention, confidence, failure, perfectionism, sustainability, creativity and the courage to move quickly even when you are still figuring things out.

This episode also looks at the connection between beauty and relationships. How do we create meaningful moments on purpose? What happens when couples stop being intentional with each other? Why do small gestures often matter more than grand displays? And how can we create beauty in ordinary family life, not just for major events?

In this episode, Gabriella and Kristina discuss:

• beauty as memory, effort and ritual;
• why moments need to be created intentionally;
• the story behind Paper and Flowers;
• building a creative business from a bold first idea;
• New York Fashion Week as Kristina’s first major client;
• failure, reinvention and not taking setbacks personally;
• why leadership often requires fast decisions;
• the emotional meaning behind weddings, birthdays and celebrations;
• how events can reveal relationship dynamics;
• social media pressure and the performance of perfection;
• the difference between beauty and perfectionism;
• why small gestures keep relationships alive;
• love languages, effort and emotional attention;
• creating beauty in everyday family life;
• date nights, appreciation rituals and protecting connection;
• why relationships are not always 50/50;
• and what we still have time to make beautiful before it breaks.

This episode is for anyone who has ever wondered whether they are letting the meaningful moments pass unnoticed.

For the person who has stopped celebrating.

For the partner who wants to bring back effort, intention and ritual.

For the parent trying to create memories in the middle of a busy life.

For the creative, founder or entrepreneur learning not to take failure personally.

What if food is one of the oldest ways we say, “I love you”?

In this episode of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare speaks with Diana Manalang, chef and owner behind Little Chef Little Kitchen and Little Chef Little Cafe in Long Island City, for a beautiful conversation about food, family, culture, relationships, community, hospitality and the quiet labour of care.

This episode is about food, but really, it is about nourishment.

The meal someone makes when they do not know how to say sorry.

The coffee handed over without being asked.

The lunch packed.

The family recipe.

The favourite dinner made after a hard day.

The comfort food that tells someone they are home.

Gabriella and Diana explore how food becomes memory, identity, apology, culture and connection, especially in families where care is not always spoken directly, but shown through what is made, offered and placed on the table.

Diana shares the story of building Little Chef Little Kitchen and Little Chef Little Cafe, how her Filipino-American background shaped the way she thinks about feeding people, why food has always been central to her understanding of family, intimacy and community.

They also discuss what families lose when they stop gathering, why everyday meals matter more than perfect holiday celebrations, and how the small rituals around food can hold relationships together long before anyone realises how important they were.

In this episode, Gabriella and Diana discuss:

• food as a love language;
• Filipino family culture and the question “Have you eaten?”;
• comfort food, memory and childhood;
• why gathering around food creates intimacy and connection;
• the story behind Little Chef Little Kitchen and Little Chef Little Cafe;
• building a hospitality business through uncertainty;
• how food can create community and care;
• why small gestures matter in relationships;
• cooking as apology, repair and reconnection;
• the difference between feeding someone and nourishing someone;
• everyday rituals couples and families should protect;
• why care is not always grand or dramatic;
• what separated and blended families can learn from shared food rituals;
• how food can create a sense of home across two households;
• and what we need to notice before people stop caring for each other in the small ways.

This episode is for anyone who has ever understood that food is never just food.

It is for the person who remembers love through a meal.

For the parent trying to create rituals in a busy home.

For the partner who wants to care, but does not always have the words.

For the person who feels like they are feeding everyone but not being nourished themselves.

For anyone thinking about family, culture, food, relationships, repair, community and what it means to keep making space at the table.

Because sometimes relationships do not only break through conflict.

Sometimes they break through neglect.

Through exhaustion.

Through everyone being fed except the person doing the feeding.

Through losing the rituals that once brought people back to each other.

And before it breaks, there is often still time to gather.

Still time to notice.

Still time to care.

Still time to make something that says, “You are loved.”

Listen to S2 E9: Before the Table Empties: Food, Family and the Quiet Labour of Care with Diana Manalang on Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare.

This podcast is for general information, education and discussion only and is not legal advice, psychological advice, counselling or therapy.